feeling sad

[Jo1]

Im very concerned about my dad Ron he is 74. He hasnt got any friends and only has me and my husband. which is hard, cos he says he is lonely. He is very isolated, and depressed
which makes me feel very sad. He is stuttering on his words now which i think is due to him not talking to people. there could be a glimmer of hope, there is a place called Age Concern in our town where my dad could go 1 day a week and get a meal and meet people sort of thing, we got a form today which we could fill in for him. He has tried to get in there before in the past but he needed some sort of permission from doctor he said. his next door neighbor goes there 2 days a week which may help. we can suggest it to him but he has got to make his own choices. I have spoken to him but it looks like he is not interested in going.he is looking frail now and it makes me feel so unhappy. I know we are not supposed to worry and give it to God but its so difficult. He doesnt go out of his house if the weathers cold and he wont get a free bus pass which he is entitiled too. Its so painful to see someone just deteriating away, he looks so frail, he is very slim. The only thing he seems to be interested in now, is food. We take him out sometimes to eat. instead of enjoying being out he looks at his watch eats his food and wants to go home again. dont know what to do.I dont know why im writing this really suppose i just need to talk to someone and ask for your support. God bless.

 

[veganbunny]

I am sorry to hear about your father. Hopefully you can persuade him to go to age concern, but try not to be too upset if he doesn't want to go. Has he seeked professional help for the way he is feeling? I hope that things work out, and I will pray for you.

 

[Jo1]

I am sorry to hear about your father. Hopefully you can persuade him to go to age concern, but try not to be too upset if he doesn't want to go. Has he seeked professional help for the way he is feeling? I hope that things work out, and I will pray for you.

Hi thankyou very much for your comments. He hasnt seen a doctor about depression. He doesnt do too well with doctors and hates hospitals. Very concerned about his speech...could be something very serious. apreciate any prayers.

 

[veganbunny]

Before my Grandad died, he had speech problems, but these were not due to nerves/ depression. It was hard to understand him, but we managed.

I will continue to pray for you, and hope that all works out. My Grandad hates doctors too, and it takes a lot of nagging from my Nan to get him there; sometimes I think his afraid of her! Have you spoken to your dad about age concern? They are such a good organisation (infact I am going to volunteer to help them) SOrry for the ramble!

 

[jsimms615]

Im very concerned about my dad Ron he is 74. He hasnt got any friends and only has me and my husband. which is hard, cos he says he is lonely. He is very isolated, and depressed
which makes me feel very sad. He is stuttering on his words now which i think is due to him not talking to people. there could be a glimmer of hope, there is a place called Age Concern in our town where my dad could go 1 day a week and get a meal and meet people sort of thing, we got a form today which we could fill in for him. He has tried to get in there before in the past but he needed some sort of permission from doctor he said. his next door neighbor goes there 2 days a week which may help. we can suggest it to him but he has got to make his own choices. I have spoken to him but it looks like he is not interested in going.he is looking frail now and it makes me feel so unhappy. I know we are not supposed to worry and give it to God but its so difficult. He doesnt go out of his house if the weathers cold and he wont get a free bus pass which he is entitiled too. Its so painful to see someone just deteriating away, he looks so frail, he is very slim. The only thing he seems to be interested in now, is food. We take him out sometimes to eat. instead of enjoying being out he looks at his watch eats his food and wants to go home again. dont know what to do.I dont know why im writing this really suppose i just need to talk to someone and ask for your support. God bless.

Don't have much advise to give you. I'll be praying for your dad. I wonder if there is anything physically wrong that is making him feel tired that could be corrected?
Peace.

 

[Ruth~]

Jo,
I am sorry you have to watch your father deteriorate in front of you. I know what that is like. I hope you can get him to do those things you mentioned but it's hard to get people to do things if they don't want to. I am praying for you and your family.
Ruth

 

[Jo1]

Don't have much advise to give you. I'll be praying for your dad. I wonder if there is anything physically wrong that is making him feel tired that could be corrected?
Peace.

Thankyou for your reply and your prayers. My dad is not a big eater anyway, which will make him feel tired. Also he is a worrier so that will drain all the energy away from him.

 

[Jo1]

Jo,
I am sorry you have to watch your father deteriorate in front of you. I know what that is like. I hope you can get him to do those things you mentioned but it's hard to get people to do things if they don't want to. I am praying for you and your family.
Ruth

Thanks Ruth

 

[Jo1]

Hi everyone, please will you all still keep my dad in your prayers. He said he is feeling so poorly he feels like he is dying. He didnt tell me that he told my husband, because he didnt want me to know. We are still very concerned. Thankyou very much.