Feeling lonely in journey with God :(

[Anonymous 12345]

Hello. I’m new here.

Im in my late 20s have two kids and have recently been really trying to get close to God.
Reading the bible going to church, listening to Christian content, cutting out most secular music etc.
I feel like I don’t really fit in anywhere. I don’t come from a God-centred upbringing so there’s no one within the family. The closer I get with God the more my perspectives change. Everything looks so different to me now - things I used to do, watch, listen to - many no longer interest me now.
But the rest of the world is still the same and very..”worldy” (if that makes sense) and I feel like I don’t know where my place is in it anymore.

I feel alone and lonely, plus a single mum with little/ no support so there was already no social life
Sometimes feel like there is no one to talk to about it either because no one will understand.

I know God is there and that I can talk to him, pray through it all, cast my burdens onto Him - but it would be nice to have someone I can speak to who can relate/ understand/ even advise.

Anyone else feel this way ? Or just me lol

 

[Reluctant Theologian]

Try to join a home/cell group from church or some other group with fellow Christians, preferably young women/mothers to build up a bit of a social life. At least you have two kids, that's a blessing and already would give purpose and two little ones to talk to.

Your perspective changing is a really good thing - a journey in holiness and sanctification; be blessed!

 

[Barefootbernie]

Anon..
The desire to go deeper with God,is the Holy Spirit in you,trying to show you that Christ is already in youmYou cannot get closer to Vid than the union you have with Christ in you.1Corinthians 6:17 says that he that is one with Christ,is one spirit with Him.He cannot as God get closer to you than He is by virtue of already being in You.Col.1:27 says Christ is in you.To try and become closer to God are works of righteousness,and that does not have merits with God There is nothing you can do to compliment the Christ in you..Christ is on you..and you are living with His life.Christ is in you.Christ is the only life you have.What is happening is a desire to learn the Christ in you worked by the Holy Spirit.To be close to God is not a question of emotion..nor works..but it's an objective reality.Christ is already in you,and in Christ in you,is the fullness of all God is in you already.Get I to the letters of Paul,abide in Philippians,Ephesians,Collosians,and Galatians..Learn the Christ that already abides in you.
The moment you confessed Christ as Lord,He has taken abode in you,in His full Godhead Paul teaches us that...not the Old a testament..not works .not merits..only Paul teaches us.Go to Grace Media,Warren Litzman,(Christ Life fellowship)..

 

[armchairscholar]

Hello. I’m new here.

Im in my late 20s have two kids and have recently been really trying to get close to God.
Reading the bible going to church, listening to Christian content, cutting out most secular music etc.
I feel like I don’t really fit in anywhere. I don’t come from a God-centred upbringing so there’s no one within the family. The closer I get with God the more my perspectives change. Everything looks so different to me now - things I used to do, watch, listen to - many no longer interest me now.
But the rest of the world is still the same and very..”worldy” (if that makes sense) and I feel like I don’t know where my place is in it anymore.

I feel alone and lonely, plus a single mum with little/ no support so there was already no social life
Sometimes feel like there is no one to talk to about it either because no one will understand.

I know God is there and that I can talk to him, pray through it all, cast my burdens onto Him - but it would be nice to have someone I can speak to who can relate/ understand/ even advise.

Anyone else feel this way ? Or just me lol

I can sense the longing and isolation in your words, and I want you to know that you're not alone in this feeling. I've had the privilege of walking alongside many individuals who have embarked on a similar journey of spiritual awakening.

Let me acknowledge the tremendous courage it takes to reorient one's life towards God, especially when it means swimming against the tide of societal norms. Your decision to cut out secular influences and immerse yourself in Christian content is a testament to your commitment to deepening your faith.

It's not uncommon for individuals who undergo a major spiritual transformation to experience a sense of disconnection from their previous life and relationships. The apostle Paul himself wrote about the struggle of living in the world but not being of the world (Romans 12:2). it's natural to feel like you no longer fit in with the status quo.

But this sense of disconnection is not a sign of isolation, but rather an opportunity to form new connections with like-minded individuals who share your values and passions. I encourage you to seek out communities of faith, either online or in-person, where you can engage with others who are on a similar journey.

As a single mother with limited support, I can only imagine the challenges you face in balancing your responsibilities with your desire for spiritual growth. Please know that you're not alone in this struggle. There are many resources available to support single mothers, from online forums to local support groups. You may want to consider seeking out a spiritual director or a therapist who can provide you with a safe and non-judgmental space to explore your thoughts and feelings.

You're not alone, my friend. You're part of a larger community of believers who are striving to live out their faith in a world that often seems hostile to it. Keep your eyes fixed on the Lord, and know that He will guide you through the challenges and triumphs that lie ahead.

 

[CoreyD]

Hello. I’m new here.

Welcome!

Im in my late 20s have two kids and have recently been really trying to get close to God.
Reading the bible going to church, listening to Christian content, cutting out most secular music etc.
I feel like I don’t really fit in anywhere. I don’t come from a God-centred upbringing so there’s no one within the family. The closer I get with God the more my perspectives change. Everything looks so different to me now - things I used to do, watch, listen to - many no longer interest me now.
But the rest of the world is still the same and very..”worldy” (if that makes sense) and I feel like I don’t know where my place is in it anymore.

I know exactly what you are saying.
I felt the same way. I used to love many things in this world... especially music, but I totally lost interest, once I began drawing closer and closer to God.
I was able to give up these things, and have no interest in them.
I enjoy spiritual music, and can listen to this music over and over, for an entire day.

I believe this is when God draws close to you. His spirit affects your mind and heart.
So God is drawing you. That's great!

I feel alone and lonely, plus a single mum with little/ no support so there was already no social life
Sometimes feel like there is no one to talk to about it either because no one will understand.

I'm so sorry.
Loneliness can be challenging.
I'm accustomed to not being very social, but there is a danger in too much isolation. Proverbs 18:1

What can help is being busy in what you love doing, and especially if it involves giving. Acts 20:35
Having some kind of hobby, that you enjoy, along with working in a job you like can help (I hope you like your work).
If you don't enjoy your work, look for opportunities to talk to people about what you read in the Bible, and the things you like about it.

You may be surprised that you may meet someone, of like mind.
To have friends, we need to be a friend. So, reaching out to people, to help them has a double benefit.
The ministry is my greatest joy.

Be careful though. Guard your association. Proverbs 13:20

I know God is there and that I can talk to him, pray through it all, cast my burdens onto Him - but it would be nice to have someone I can speak to who can relate/ understand/ even advise.

I understand.
Having God as a friend, is the best thing you can ever have.
If you draw closer to God, as a friend, his friends will become your friends, and he will give you just the friend you are looking for... and even more.

So, keep praying. Keep reading and studying the Bible. That is very good.
Remember Jesus' words...
Matthew 7:7-11
7 “Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you. 8 For everyone who asks receives, and he who seeks finds, and to him who knocks it will be opened. 9 Or what man is there among you who, if his son asks for bread, will give him a stone? 10 Or if he asks for a fish, will he give him a serpent? 11 If you then, being evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father who is in heaven give good things to those who ask Him!

Anyone else feel this way ? Or just me lol

Well, I'm not a single mom. LOL

 

[Lost4words]

Welcome aboard.

You are not alone now. No! You are close to God and, you found this excellent Christian site! We are all family here my friend....

God bless you..

 

[Richard T]

I used to feel that way but I repented and took God's plan and it really changed my life. God will bring you the fellowship that you need. Just pour out to Him the best you can in the meantime. Hope you find CF encouraging too. God bless!

 

[Anonymous 12345]

I can sense the longing and isolation in your words, and I want you to know that you're not alone in this feeling. I've had the privilege of walking alongside many individuals who have embarked on a similar journey of spiritual awakening.

Let me acknowledge the tremendous courage it takes to reorient one's life towards God, especially when it means swimming against the tide of societal norms. Your decision to cut out secular influences and immerse yourself in Christian content is a testament to your commitment to deepening your faith.

It's not uncommon for individuals who undergo a major spiritual transformation to experience a sense of disconnection from their previous life and relationships. The apostle Paul himself wrote about the struggle of living in the world but not being of the world (Romans 12:2). it's natural to feel like you no longer fit in with the status quo.

But this sense of disconnection is not a sign of isolation, but rather an opportunity to form new connections with like-minded individuals who share your values and passions. I encourage you to seek out communities of faith, either online or in-person, where you can engage with others who are on a similar journey.

As a single mother with limited support, I can only imagine the challenges you face in balancing your responsibilities with your desire for spiritual growth. Please know that you're not alone in this struggle. There are many resources available to support single mothers, from online forums to local support groups. You may want to consider seeking out a spiritual director or a therapist who can provide you with a safe and non-judgmental space to explore your thoughts and feelings.

You're not alone, my friend. You're part of a larger community of believers who are striving to live out their faith in a world that often seems hostile to it. Keep your eyes fixed on the Lord, and know that He will guide you through the challenges and triumphs that lie ahead.

Thank you so much ! I am grateful for the time you took to respond and everything you’ve saidl intend to carry on with God and He will make everything ok

 

[Anonymous 12345]

Welcome!


I know exactly what you are saying.
I felt the same way. I used to love many things in this world... especially music, but I totally lost interest, once I began drawing closer and closer to God.
I was able to give up these things, and have no interest in them.
I enjoy spiritual music, and can listen to this music over and over, for an entire day.

I believe this is when God draws close to you. His spirit affects your mind and heart.
So God is drawing you. That's great!


I'm so sorry.
Loneliness can be challenging.
I'm accustomed to not being very social, but there is a danger in too much isolation. Proverbs 18:1

What can help is being busy in what you love doing, and especially if it involves giving. Acts 20:35
Having some kind of hobby, that you enjoy, along with working in a job you like can help (I hope you like your work).
If you don't enjoy your work, look for opportunities to talk to people about what you read in the Bible, and the things you like about it.

You may be surprised that you may meet someone, of like mind.
To have friends, we need to be a friend. So, reaching out to people, to help them has a double benefit.
The ministry is my greatest joy.

Be careful though. Guard your association. Proverbs 13:20


I understand.
Having God as a friend, is the best thing you can ever have.
If you draw closer to God, as a friend, his friends will become your friends, and he will give you just the friend you are looking for... and even more.

So, keep praying. Keep reading and studying the Bible. That is very good.
Remember Jesus' words...
Matthew 7:7-11
7 “Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you. 8 For everyone who asks receives, and he who seeks finds, and to him who knocks it will be opened. 9 Or what man is there among you who, if his son asks for bread, will give him a stone? 10 Or if he asks for a fish, will he give him a serpent? 11 If you then, being evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father who is in heaven give good things to those who ask Him!


Well, I'm not a single mom. LOL

Thank you so much, I really appreciate your response and time. Will definitely try putting myself out there a little more. And I will continue going to God with it all with reading and prayer

 

[Anonymous 12345]

I used to feel that way but I repented and took God's plan and it really changed my life. God will bring you the fellowship that you need. Just pour out to Him the best you can in the meantime. Hope you find CF encouraging too. God bless!

God bless you thank you !! I’m glad I have found the forum

 

[Anonymous 12345]

Welcome aboard.

You are not alone now. No! You are close to God and, you found this excellent Christian site! We are all family here my friend....

God bless you..

Thank you so much and God bless you I am happy I found the forum and grateful for all the response <3

 

[Anonymous 12345]

Try to join a home/cell group from church or some other group with fellow Christians, preferably young women/mothers to build up a bit of a social life. At least you have two kids, that's a blessing and already would give purpose and two little ones to talk to.

Your perspective changing is a really good thing - a journey in holiness and sanctification; be blessed!

Adore

Welcome!


I know exactly what you are saying.
I felt the same way. I used to love many things in this world... especially music, but I totally lost interest, once I began drawing closer and closer to God.
I was able to give up these things, and have no interest in them.
I enjoy spiritual music, and can listen to this music over and over, for an entire day.

I believe this is when God draws close to you. His spirit affects your mind and heart.
So God is drawing you. That's great!


I'm so sorry.
Loneliness can be challenging.
I'm accustomed to not being very social, but there is a danger in too much isolation. Proverbs 18:1

What can help is being busy in what you love doing, and especially if it involves giving. Acts 20:35
Having some kind of hobby, that you enjoy, along with working in a job you like can help (I hope you like your work).
If you don't enjoy your work, look for opportunities to talk to people about what you read in the Bible, and the things you like about it.

You may be surprised that you may meet someone, of like mind.
To have friends, we need to be a friend. So, reaching out to people, to help them has a double benefit.
The ministry is my greatest joy.

Be careful though. Guard your association. Proverbs 13:20


I understand.
Having God as a friend, is the best thing you can ever have.
If you draw closer to God, as a friend, his friends will become your friends, and he will give you just the friend you are looking for... and even more.

So, keep praying. Keep reading and studying the Bible. That is very good.
Remember Jesus' words...
Matthew 7:7-11
7 “Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you. 8 For everyone who asks receives, and he who seeks finds, and to him who knocks it will be opened. 9 Or what man is there among you who, if his son asks for bread, will give him a stone? 10 Or if he asks for a fish, will he give him a serpent? 11 If you then, being evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father who is in heaven give good things to those who ask Him!


Well, I'm not a single mom. LOL

I am also very comfortable not being social lol but recently had been feeling more set apart than ever before and like you said too much isolation isn’t great. Thank you again <3

 

[Anonymous 12345]

Thank you so much to everyone who took time to respond ! I’m honestly really grateful and glad I found this forum. It has definitely been comforting! May God bless you all <3

 

[bèlla]

Look into Precepts Ministries. They have online and in person bible studies. You'll find a lot of moms in the group. I've done them in the past and they were edifying.

~bella

 

[Michie]

Hello. I’m new here.

Im in my late 20s have two kids and have recently been really trying to get close to God.
Reading the bible going to church, listening to Christian content, cutting out most secular music etc.
I feel like I don’t really fit in anywhere. I don’t come from a God-centred upbringing so there’s no one within the family. The closer I get with God the more my perspectives change. Everything looks so different to me now - things I used to do, watch, listen to - many no longer interest me now.
But the rest of the world is still the same and very..”worldy” (if that makes sense) and I feel like I don’t know where my place is in it anymore.

I feel alone and lonely, plus a single mum with little/ no support so there was already no social life
Sometimes feel like there is no one to talk to about it either because no one will understand.

I know God is there and that I can talk to him, pray through it all, cast my burdens onto Him - but it would be nice to have someone I can speak to who can relate/ understand/ even advise.

Anyone else feel this way ? Or just me lol

There are many that feel as you do. I hope as you explore CF that you can find place that edifies you on your Christian journey. Glad you are here.

 

[RileyG]

May God bless you in his love

 

[Barefootbernie]

Loneliness is exactly there where our Father wants you.On that loneliness,it is there where He pushes you to only rely on Him..not doctrines of churches..not words of comfort,but lioness is a place where the Holy Spirit challenges you to come into a place of growth.Ot is on those times of loneliness where Father God tells you not to rely on man..but upon Christ on you.In loneliness,as odd as it sounds,that is where you learn to love God.The bible says we die daily..not that we by ourselves have us dying to ourselves..as that is impossible.Life and death is in the hand of God not man..But
1)We have already died in Christ,in our co death with Christ on the cross(Gal.2;20)..Romans six days clearly that we already died with Christ and rose on Him.So..our death to self was in Christ..We have mo self..but only a Christ self..because He is our life(1 John 5:11).
2)We die daily,because of the work of the cross is daily and perpetually enforcing upon us the death of Christ,and our co death in Christ,SO THAT THE LIFE IF CHRIST MAY BE REVEALED IN OUR MORTAL BODIES.2 Cor chapter 4v10-11).
3)Accept the fact that it is Christ now living in you..and it is,in these times of loneliness,that the Holy Spirit is transforming you to the image of the Son of God(Rom.8:29).
God only works from a position or state of death to develop you to the fullness of Christ.Only when you realize and appropriate that you have died in Christ..because his death was your death,only then can God work effectively in you..But only when Christ is preeminent in you,and you realize that all of you died on Christ,and you were born again and all that remains,is Christ who is your life(Col.3:1;5).There is no longer a "self-you" in you..only a "Christ-you" in you...1Cor.6;17.
Before creation..you were placed in Christ to die..so He could be your life once you believed on him..The church does not teach us that..but trials and tribulations bring maturity.The c and s gang (circumstances and tribulations gang),is there to
1)Teach you dependance on God through Christ,not feelings and merits
2)To teach you Christ.
3)To bring you to maturity in Christ..Ephesians 4:11-15.(Read it in the amplified bible).
4)To show you that there is no other life in you..except the life of Christ.

 

[Barefootbernie]

O appologize for the spelling mistakes..it seems this phone has a mond of its own...

 

[Anonymous 12345]

O appologize for the spelling mistakes..it seems this phone has a mond of its own...

No worries. Thank you so much for all your words ❣️ I agree there are times when we are on our own because it’s when God needs us to be more connected with him - So that is what I will do ! thabk you again and God bless you

 

[DragonFox91]

I love hearing how your perspective is changing. That is the Holy Spirit in you, so you are not alone, no reason to feel lonely, he is with you. Although I understand wanting what you want, it’s not loneliness you should be feeling.

You don’t feel others at the church you go to share that new perspective you are getting?

I think in the meantime make Christ & your kids your full devotion. They are your life.