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I don't think he'd ever hurt our daughter
Unfortunately......it seems as if you can't really *know* anything about what his limits are right now. I wouldn't leave anything up to him to tell you....because he's already proven himself to be dishonest.
 
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Yeah, I'd definitely address that search query with him and find out what the deal is. That rubs me the wrong way.

I've got a 6 year old daughter, and I've gotta say that having kids colors how I look at everything. Like, let's say I hypothetically got a wild hair going and decided to go find/watch some porn. I would NOT be able to do a search like "Daddy daughter best friend" without in a very REAL sense thinking about my own kids...because I am a daddy...my daughter will have best friends...etc. Just hits too close to home...so I would avoid any thought like that like the plague. In such a moment the last thing I want to do is creep myself out. lol

So I have a hard time understanding how it wouldn't have the same reaction on someone else.
 
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Yeah, I'd definitely address that search query with him and find out what the deal is. That rubs me the wrong way.

I've got a 6 year old daughter, and I've gotta say that having kids colors how I look at everything. Like, let's say I hypothetically got a wild hair going and decided to go find/watch some porn. I would NOT be able to do a search like "Daddy daughter best friend" without in a very REAL sense thinking about my own kids...because I am a daddy...my daughter will have best friends...etc. Just hits too close to home...so I would avoid any thought like that like the plague. In such a moment the last thing I want to do is creep myself out. lol

So I have a hard time understanding how it wouldn't have the same reaction on someone else.
Exactly.... I've definitely got to ask him about it. It does worry me. I'm hoping I can have this talk with him this week but with the way this school he's in right now is going I may have to wait until the weekend.
 
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He's gone through a lot of crappy things in life so maybe it has something to do with that.
Did the things he went through previously include sexual abuse, because they still find that in the case of sexual abuse a victim is more likely (by no means certain, just higher percentage) to abuse later in life.

Recent studies have indicated physical abuse does not necessarily pre-dispose one to such, but sexual abuse still seems to.
 
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Did the things he went through previously include sexual abuse, because they still find that in the case of sexual abuse a victim is more likely (by no means certain, just higher percentage) to abuse later in life.

Recent studies have indicated physical abuse does not necessarily pre-dispose one to such, but sexual abuse still seems to.
No he never delt with that that I'm aware of. His parents divorced when he was young, loss of a sibling, father being a womanizer basically. That type of thing.
 
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