Far From Perfect

[redblue22]

An angel comes to you and says, "I know your desire to marry, but there is no perfect plan woman waiting for you. You yourself will never be any woman's perfect plan man waiting for her."

The angel continues, "You can still marry someone if you desire, but you will not be perfect for each other. Not even close." The angel leaves.

How would this message affect you?


(if you are a woman reader, please replace "man" and "woman" accordingly.)

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[KitKatMatt]

It's something I already figured, lol.

No one's going to be a "perfect" match.

 

[graciesings]

It's something I already figured, lol.

No one's going to be a "perfect" match.

This.

there is something to compatibility. I would not marry someone unless they were in the most compatible 5% of the male population.

But I don't believe that the success of relationships has so much to do with finding soulmates. You have to pick a sinful human being and decide to love them anyway. Marriage is a decision to love, a decision to tolerate, a certain person... not what you do when you find "the one."

Honestly, I think this soulmate attitude is part of why the divorce rate is so high. People get into relationships and then realize that they didn't find their "soulmate" so they try again with someone else who looks more likely to be their soulmate.

200 years ago, marriage was seen as picking a person and dedicating yourself to them no matter what, so the divorce rate was much lower. Now, it's about seeking a "soulmate," so a lot of people wind up divorcing spouses because it wasn't perfect.

Thank you, Disney, for introducing the idea that Prince Charming will ride in, declare his love 10 minutes after meeting the woman, and then make her life perfect forever. Thank you, Disney, for [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse]ing up our society by teaching youth to expect soulmates and effortless "happily ever after"s

 

[SnowyMacie]

It's something I already figured, lol.

No one's going to be a "perfect" match.

This

 

[redblue22]

I think you are getting hung up on the word "perfect."

How about "no where close to perfect." Sneaking in things like "5%" is still an expectation of a high likelihood of what you want and who you pick. This is why I said, "Not even close." In other words, missing a lot of "compatibility" and not being able to give much of what he or she wants. A lot of difference.

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[SnowyMacie]

If an angel came to me and said that, my first thought would be "I'm hallucinating", and spend more time trying to figure out if that was real as opposed to thinking about what they said.

 

[newbie110]

It's something I already figured, lol.

No one's going to be a "perfect" match.

Agreed. Even if that person is really compatible, they'll still do and say things that will drive you crazy. Lol.

And vice versa.

 

[Shattered-Reflections]

It's something I already figured, lol.

No one's going to be a "perfect" match.

This. It wouldn't change my feelings towards marriage or my standards. Marrying means marrying an imperfect person. Which is why, I won't marry for the sake of marriage.

 

[dmpeace]

An angel comes to you and says, "I know your desire to marry, but there is no perfect plan woman waiting for you. You yourself will never be any woman's perfect plan man waiting for her."

The angel continues, "You can still marry someone if you desire, but you will not be perfect for each other. Not even close." The angel leaves.

How would this message affect you?


(if you are a woman reader, please replace "man" and "woman" accordingly.)

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I would say "angel tell me something I don't know, and send a smart one."

 

[Messy]

An angel comes to you and says, "I know your desire to marry, but there is no perfect plan woman waiting for you. You yourself will never be any woman's perfect plan man waiting for her."

The angel continues, "You can still marry someone if you desire, but you will not be perfect for each other. Not even close." The angel leaves.

How would this message affect you?


(if you are a woman reader, please replace "man" and "woman" accordingly.)

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I'd send him out of the house, LOL makes me think of a joke of a preacher. He said: before this service started I was praying and an angel came and he said: everybody will get healed today, God wants to heal everybody except one.
LOL he said that was a wrong angel, I kicked him out.
Two people can be perfect for each other, but my idea of perfect was a super romantic sweet Rock Hudson like type of guy, never any quarrels, all Sunshine everyday. But God found me someone thanks to whom my flesh could die and his, iron sharpening iron, so in the end He can perfect us.
The perfect Husband and Mr. Right is Jesus Himself.

 

[graciesings]

Ok... I saw the "isn't perfect" more times than the "not even close."

Honestly I have trouble.believing that could be the case because I know plenty of guys who are.close enough that yes, I could marry them. If I get told by an angel that I'll never find anyone in my top 5%, I know guys who like me that I haven't pursued, but would be happy with. I'd call one of them and say, ok, you must have barely missed that 5%, you're my best option, and yes I will marry you.

If the angel told me something like "only 1% of the guys you ever meet will be interested in you and if you marry any one of them they'll murder you in your sleep later," then I'd decide to be single forever. I'd take the veil, to be precise. But the idea of "incompatible" is different than that. Some incompatibility is fine with me.

That said... This is a pretty vague hypothetical situation and I don't get why we're discussing it?

 

[dmpeace]

^ Way to tell em' graciesings.

 

[Messy]

I once heard a story of a woman who just married someone out of rebellion and anger, for the wrong reasons, she not even liked him and she got saved and started to honour him and it turned into a great marriage.

 

[keith99]

An angel comes to you and says, "I know your desire to marry, but there is no perfect plan woman waiting for you. You yourself will never be any woman's perfect plan man waiting for her."

The angel continues, "You can still marry someone if you desire, but you will not be perfect for each other. Not even close." The angel leaves.

How would this message affect you?


(if you are a woman reader, please replace "man" and "woman" accordingly.)

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Get thee behind me Satan.

 

[keith99]

Ok... I saw the "isn't perfect" more times than the "not even close."

Honestly I have trouble.believing that could be the case because I know plenty of guys who are.close enough that yes, I could marry them. If I get told by an angel that I'll never find anyone in my top 5% I'll contact a certain CF member and say, ok, you must have barely missed that 5%, you're my best option, and yes I will marry you.

If the angel told me something like "only 1% of the guys you ever meet will be interested in you and if you marry any one of them they'll murder you in your sleep later," then I'd decide to be single forever. I'd take the veil, to be precise. But the idea of "incompatible" is different than that. Some incompatibility is fine with me.

That said... This is a pretty vague hypothetical situation and I don't get why we're discussing it?

Hopefully you are being a bit rhetorical. You are far too young to need a quick yes.

Oh make the call, but it should be the door has reopened not the deal is done.

Twice your age and wanting children the clock would be seriously ticking, but in that case you would probably have already reopened that door already.

 

[Cute Tink]

An angel comes to you and says, "I know your desire to marry, but there is no perfect plan woman waiting for you. You yourself will never be any woman's perfect plan man waiting for her."

The angel continues, "You can still marry someone if you desire, but you will not be perfect for each other. Not even close." The angel leaves.

How would this message affect you?


(if you are a woman reader, please replace "man" and "woman" accordingly.)

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I'm twice divorced. Got that covered.

But more seriously, I'm shocked when I can find someone who will put up with my bad stuff for a while, let alone forever.

 

[CCHIPSS]

Godly love is never about loving because of. Godly love is all about loving in spite of.

And hence finding the perfect spouse isn't required. Keep hunting boys and girls. Set your mind right and you will be much happier with who you got or will eventually get.

 

[Nanopants]

An angel comes to you and says, "I know your desire to marry, but there is no perfect plan woman waiting for you. You yourself will never be any woman's perfect plan man waiting for her."

The angel continues, "You can still marry someone if you desire, but you will not be perfect for each other. Not even close." The angel leaves.

How would this message affect you?


(if you are a woman reader, please replace "man" and "woman" accordingly.)

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I would say to the angel: you are confused. A perfect human being is not a perfect mate. I am far from perfect, therefore if I desire intimacy, I require an imperfect person with whom I can relate.

 

[Nanopants]

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[Lord Of The Forest]

Get thee behind me Satan.

Get thee behind me, Satin; I wear cotton blends exclusively.