Exposed and vulnerable

[Quiet Storm]

Well.......I came to the reality that the girl that I've been hoping for won't be coming around. I liked her since freshman year when we were both available and never had the courage to ask her out. Now I'm confident and she's taken. I want to know if I'd have ever had a chance. To be honest, I'm hoping that the answer is no moreso than yes because if I'd have had the chance and blew it, then that'd just be pouring a gallon of salt on my wounds. If it's no, then I can have the peace of mind that it wouldn't have happened anyway even if I did ask her. In any case, this is the first time I can remember where I don't like anybody. I guess growing up I've been so wishing and now I'm just "exposed" with nothing to long for. It's not a bad feeling, either. My mind is clear now. Not saying that I don't want a girlfriend, but maybe it's just good to have some "chill" time for awhile and focus on nothing but enjoying life. It's a win win situation, really. I'd have had a girlfriend if something worked out, but I'm able to enjoy life with no worries for once now. I don't know why I posted this....oh yes, the "what if" thing. I guess if it ever comes up then I'll ask her. If not, then God knows where it would have led. Anwyway, yes....this thread was kind of pointless but oh well.

 

[Stanfi]

Not knowing what might have been is always a confusing feeling. I guess that you just have to accept that somethings you are not supposed to know, and just wait until God brings the next person into your life.

It can be a rather empty feeling, when you have no one in your life who you like, are intrested in, or pursuing. I'm in that position right now. I believe we just have to accept that God has given us this period of time for a reason, and whe just need to do what His will is for us at this time.

 

[Mr.Cheese]

I know that feeling.
But I got the girl of my dreams now. So dating other girls I liked would have been for no good reason. At that time in my life, it would have just been another girl to mess around with. It all works out for the best.
Life is far out to look back on sometimes.
On the other hand, the confusion of liking someone and not knowing if they like you back is worse than just throwing it all out there. Now, I don't recommend doing this unless you have a reasonable idea that you can get somewhere with laying it all on the line. But sometimes it's the principle of getting it out that matters. You drive yourself crazy to the point that her response isn't half as important as just getting it out so you can be done with it.

 

[ZiSunka]

I just look at it this way, whatever is, is what is because God let it be that way. I was head-over-heels in love a couple times and God let those relationships end, not because there is something wrong with me, or not deserving about me, or because he was punishing me in any way, but because those guys were not his best will for me.

In each case, I later found out why God allowed the relationships to end, and I have to say that in each case, it was clear that He loved me so much he wanted to protect me from even greater heart breaks.

So, count each lost relationship as a blessing, not a curse. God is in control and won't let relationships stand that would end up hurting you more than breaking up hurts.

 

[DaveKerwin]

Sounds like you "think" she is taken, but she is not actually dating someone. I say still go for it if no one has won her heart. PM me if you want to talk privately. Peace.

 

[desper84unity]

I WILL TELL YOU A SECRET WORTH A MILLION BUCKS!

When I was in just-about-to-breakup-forever marriage counseling, the good Christian Psych told me about it.

 

[desi]

It happens when you're young. Just try to hang out with friends or relatives and don't isolate yourself too much. Times like that I usually went to Church more often and prayed while reading the Bible alot. Proverbs and Ecclesiastes are a good read, for me, during such times.