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Zen_Woof said:
Greetings.

A quick question ... if an infant is baptized, receives first communion, and then is confirmed as a Catholic christian by the age of 15, is he or she then a convert to Christianity? If yes, then I officially deconverted ... :D

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Nope - just going to church doesn't make you a christian.
 
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Lokisdottir said:
No, that never happened to me. The question remaining is, why not? Why does this happen for some people and not for others?

The hard answer for that is that God knows the heart and if the person is really seeking Him. It's a discouraging thought that you seek Him with all your mind but your heart is not really in it, but you think it is. Not to cause any more confusion, but the Bible says that the "human heart is deceitfully wicked, who can know it?" Perhaps it may help to ask God to show you the real condition of your heart and to show you that you really do need Him. He does promise that all who seek Him with their hearts, will find Him.
 
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On an unrelated note, why do people keep calling me 'he'? :/
Because they don't take the time to sound your name out? LOKISDOTTIR
Maybe because when someone thinks of Asartu they think of big guys with a beard?
tulc(who usually looks for peoples male/female symbol) :o
 
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Nope - just going to church doesn't make you a christian.
He didn't just go to church

A quick question ... if an infant is baptized, receives first communion, and then is confirmed as a Catholic christian by the age of 15, is he or she then a convert to Christianity? If yes, then I officially deconverted ...
Being confirmed as a Catholic requries an active choice. Its not just "going to church"
 
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From my experience the only thing that makes someone a real Christian is their belief that they are. I realize there are some folks that demand the proof of salvation (IE: tears of repentance, an emo moment in church, speaking tongues, etc.) but for the majority of Christians that isn't necessary. It's your word against..well, nobody. If you say your a Christian I believe you because there is no hand stamp or membership card issued by god. Sometimes people stop believing it making them 'ex Christians'. I suppose you could replace the word 'Christian' with any faith and it would work just the same.
 
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I guess that I can call myself an ex-Christian. I believed it like nothing else. You could have told me that the sky was blue because of the light that was refracted by the sun and I could say something like, no it isn't, God wanted it blue so he made it that way. I truly with all of my heart believed. And when I slowly, "deconverted" it was a very painful thing for me. I think that a lot of Christians look at people who deconverted and just think that they woke up one day and decided not to believe anymore. This is rarely the case. My process was very long and very painful. I felt like I was lied to. I was really hurt when I learned that I wasn't on the right path and that I had ruined so many relationships, including mine with my family because of it. So that idea that I was never a true Christian is a complete lack of understanding. It has taken me about 7 years or so to even be comfortable with the idea of Christianity and speaking with Christians in general about their faith.
 
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Lokisdottir said:
Apparently, you're so determined not to show any sort of respect that you won't even capitalize the names of other people's Gods. The only point I see made is that you don't know how to use proper nouns.

I could do the same with the names of God and Jesus just to spite you, but that pesky respect thing gets in my way. I just have to remember that Jesus' teachings are worthy of respect, even if some of his followers aren't.

Other people's god's,there is only one. God the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ.
 
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The birthday monkey would like to wish you a happy birthday gaijin178.

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