engaged and confused...

[fromcentex]

I don't know you as well as Melody, but I know that you are perfect for her. You're so understanding and sweet to her

I agree with Violet. I am perfect, understanding and sweet

 

[Dust and Ashes]

I agree with Violet. I am perfect, understanding and sweet

You forgot modest.

 

[Violet]

I agree with Violet. I am perfect, understanding and sweet

 

[Lbiagm]

good points gang.

 

[Melody Joy]

thanks EVERYONE for their advice. I am very happy and looking forward with great anticipation to my marriage!

 

[Lbiagm]

no prob kc.

 

[LadyBird]

Most people have doubts about their relationship at one time or another. And most happily married couples that I have talked to had doubts before they were married, which is normal. There is a difference between pre-wedding jitters (AKA cold feet) and FREEZING cold feet. You and your fiance are the only people who really know what goes on and how you feel about each other. So what you should be doing is praying about the situation and ask people you know to be 100% honest. Coming into a public forum and asking for advice about an issue like this is usually not the best thing to do because you get people who just blurt the first thing out even if it is NOT the right advice to give.

Don't marry him if you have doubts. Wait until you are sure.

I really hope you wont listen to that advice. It's bad advice.

No one in here should be telling her not to get married. That is a major decision that should not be entered into lightly. No one here truly knows the entire situation. She needs to speak with her family, friends, pastor, counselor, and fiance about the situation before deciding whether to marry. It is irresponsible of people to tell her not to get married when they do not even know her. Obviously there are things she needs to think about and pray about. But there are obviously other things affecting her decision making process and her emotions. She needs to seek God and listen to Him. It is ok to give advice, encourage, give things to think about, give warnings, but to tell her not to marry? Where do any of you come off thinking you have the right to give that advice? What if she listened to you and ruined her life? Do you want that hanging over your head? What if God had put these two together? Who are you to tell her to leave?

I hope you pray about the situation and do what is truly in God's will. Talk to your therapist and parents. Talk to your fiance. Talk to your pastor. Do not enter into a marriage that is not the right marriage. But please do not walk away because people you do not know thinks you should.

That was probably the best piece of advice I have seen in this thread.