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Embarrassing question..

kevin10

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The guy might forgive you and even pretend to be your friend. But he will ALWAYS question how completely messed up it is for a guy that calls himself straight to be looking and stuff THAT messed up.

Seriously man. Throw your computer out the window if you need too.



UH,excuse me? that is COMPLETELY uncalled for. You know nothing of our friendship. He is NOT pretending anything. He made it quite clear that yes,it is something that isnt easy to exactlyv push aside right away,but that it wont get in way of our friendship..
 
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LogosPryme said:
That must have been pretty embarrassing for you. I definitely commend you for not telling a whopper of a lie to cover it all up when you were caught. I can't say I wouldn't have if I was ever in a similar position.

Your friend must have seen your honesty in this situation and I am sure- in a way- that might be something that will actual strengthen your friendship.

This might have well been good for you, because- as I understand- you have kept this in the dark for so long.The Bible tells us in James to confess our faults one to another, and pray for each other that we may be healed. This kind of stuff should never be left to fester in the dark.

I really hope your friend, being a CHRISTian, can follow the example of Christ and be a shoulder to lean on in this circumstance and will be praying for you diligently. If he is honest with himself he will not be able to judge you for all the wrong he has done in his life as well.

Anyways, I am glad you have been open, despite the courage that must have taken you and I will pray for you in the name of Jesus Christ.

Be blessed and at peace.

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I have to stick up for Tuffguy.

Kevin, I understand that you found yourself in a very uncomfortable situation and that it was one you were unhappy with. I think it's very fortunate you had such a good friend as you did, who could understand your predicament and not go ballistic like he could have. You should keep that friend all your life, because good people like him are hard to find.

At the same time, the mere thought of gay male porn, or even pornography in general, is to many people "yucky", as the other posters have said. Homosexuality is a sin; that is what we Christians believe (though we may refuse to go to church together after that). Since gay porn is intimately connected with homosexuality, and since we are in general disgusted at sin, you have no right to come to a Christian forum and get offended at comments like this:

Tuffguy said:
The guy might forgive you and even pretend to be your friend. But he will ALWAYS question how completely messed up it is for a guy that calls himself straight to be looking and stuff THAT messed up.

Sexuality is a very difficult thing. If you were caught looking at child pornography, would you really expect us to be comfortable having our kids around you? Or, sin being sin, is what you did less disgusting than another?


People free of any particular sin *do* tend to get offish when around said sin. Aren't we told to hate what is evil and to cling to what is good? My mother has an inclination towards drinking and I have one towards ticking people off. So no matter how much I ever forgive my mother (or other ppl forgive me), I will always be wary of her picking up her vodka bottle (and some people just won't like me). Show a predisposition to any given sin and others will naturally be uneasy around you at certain times. We all have our individual tests (yours or mine no worse than anyone else's); we all have our dragons to slay, you know? I understand your friend doesn't show this unease around you, but fussing at kevin for having this unease is unfair.

I'm not an english major, so I'm not going to sit here and argue over the meaning of the word "gay" (such as in the "gay" porn you said you were looking at). But my mother's a terrible alcoholic and I'm *not* going drinking with her. You got caught looking at gay porn, and I can fully understand Tuffguy saying he'd be (or could imagine your roommate as being) slightly uneasy around you too.

Your feelings are justified because you do have such a good friend, but Tuffguy's are just as justified.
 
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First off, I think porn is bad. I'm a sort of addict myself. The school I go to blocks all those sites, but on my three week vacation back at my old house, I've gotten back into it. However gay porn is just equally as bad as straight porn. There is nothing wrong with being gay, or straight, or bi, or a-sexual. Who really cares? Your friend seems to be over it, and a true friend will get over it and stay over it accepting you for you. Don't let anyone make you feel bad about yourself. All will be well, and one day you will understand yourself and your feelings and everything will make sense.

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