Education

[LookingTotheFuture]

I admire people with inquisitive minds that try to understand how the world works. Who are highly developed emotionally and are capable of communicating complex feelings. Who have the ambition to keep growing. Also, that have the ability to listen to themselves internally to know when to care for others, and when they need to stop and take care of themselves.

I value these types of intelligence over what a person learns in college.

 

[christiangal522]

I admire people with inquisitive minds that try to understand how the world works. Who are highly developed emotionally and are capable of communicating complex feelings. Who have the ambition to keep growing. Also, that have the ability to listen to themselves internally to know when to care for others, and when they need to stop and take care of themselves.

I value these types of intelligence over what a person learns in college.

I completely agree with you!! An education doesnt say much....my bachelor's degree didn't do much for me (my seminary degree did though). My life experiences are who make me who I am and cater to my intelligence. Godly wisdom, too.

 

[Suomipoika]

Well the world needs its white-collars and blue-collars, which doesn't mean those parts are always divided only in terms of intelligence. Of course, people with similar interests often end up together but I'm not going to say what I "demand" of my companion in the terms of education.

 

[A Taffer]

It doesn't matter to me what their education is.

 

[Silver Speak]

I don't really give a hoot. Sure, I expect intelligence and common knowledge but going to college? I'm not even sure if I will. There can be other ways to reach my goals. I know a woman who never studied further than high school, yet made a terrific career for herself and is now doing something she loves. Not that career impresses me. Nor does wealth. What bothers me, though, is when the guy has no ambition whatsoever and doesn't move forward in his life, doesn't set any goals. You'll definitely see me running from a guy that's still living with mommy and daddy. Generally, I admire people who know what they want from life and go for it (that doesn't include fame and glory, though), it's fantastic.

On another note, it actually bugs me when some people make it a big deal (and known to everyone) that they're sooo well-educated and they use all these fancy words and talk about things that are way out of this world. I don't want to talk about the freaking weather, either, but geez, maybe they'll get your sophisticated little jokes better in Mensa.

 

[Mrs. Luther073082]

I am more interested to see if they have purpose and whether or not they are living their life for God.

 

[Llauralin]

It'd be handy if he was educated to deconstruct the text of various elements and components affecting the social dynamic, including the Mississippi River, a ravioli, and Kafka novels.

 

[Periann]

When dating someone or thinking about a future partner... how important is it for that person to have the same amount of education as (or even more than) yourself? Is that a priority of yours in any way?

If it was a priority to someone, what would you think?

I wouldn't favor dating someone w/o a college education (or not in the process of one). If he doesn't have a high school education then I can pretty much say with certainty that there isn't any chance. I know that there are intelligent people in these strata, and that just because you have a college diploma doesn't mean you're intelligent. That's just my preference.

 

[Beautiful Fireball]

Intelligence is more important to me then the degree that they hold. I am hoping to get my doctorate in my chosen field, so probably someone who has had some college at least would be a better fit then someone who just went to high school, but honestly its not the big of a deal to me. I would much rather have someone on the same wavelength as me intellectually then someone with a piece of paper.

 

[VozNocturna]

It goes without saying that their love for Christ should be at the top of the list.

Right after godliness and important character traits, education is high on my list. I value education over wealth. But education to me means knowledge, exposure, the ability to think critically and discuss complex issues and, most importantly, a joy for learning. It reflects an individual's well-roundedness, not necessarily how many degrees they have. I wouldn't overlook someone if they didn't have an advanced degree, but I would want to know whether their values align with my own.

I am an academic, which means that I value education as a process and as an academic institution. As a woman academic, I would have to be with someone who is very secure in himself and who does not feel threatened by my education. This is a talent and calling that God has given me. Therefore, it would be nice to marry someone who appreciates what I do and who supports me in my goals as a scholar. I also see myself supporting my husband in his intellectual goals and endeavors. I would love to be with someone who shares the same aspirations so that we could support each other. Usually, these type of men also have advanced degrees.

In my family, I was encouraged to reach for the highest in terms of education. My family always told me (quoting from Scripture), "To whom much is given much is required." I was always expected to go beyond a bachelor's degree, and I have. For my family, education means open doors. I see education slightly different from them. For me, it's about knowledge and being able to impart knowledge on others.

It is a value that I would also like to pass on to my children. So, I wouldn't marry someone who doesn't value education.

 

[Suomipoika]

Generally, I think it's funny how people spend lots of time on the internet sketching and 'simulating' their prospective spouses - their looks, character, education, intelligence, GODLINESS etc. Then, when you find your "right one", what are you gonne do? Say to them "Okay honey, since honesty and trust are the foundation of a relationship, YES, i DID write 300 posts at the Christian Forums about what you should be like. If you want to, you can go find them and see if you could fill some of my heart's desires..." "Whaaat?? Noooo, I'm NOT checking out hockey players any more... you look rugged enough to me, sweetie... yeeees, two languages is just fine for you, darling... what?? But you DO have a good sense of humor, my teddy bear..."

 

[Silver Speak]

Well, I think it's ironic that when you do find someone you want to be with all those little demands just fly out the window. It might just as well be someone that has most characteristics you've listed and you don't find yourself interested in them one bit. However, I think those 'lists' usually just include things different people are attracted to and that's a whole different thing. You can easily be attracted to a quality someone possesses. Does that mean it's necessarily right for you? Certainly not. It's natural that people think about those things, though.

Do I value education? Yes. Have I been interested in someone(s) that never studied beyond high school. Sure thing. Their maturity is a much bigger factor for me. I think you can't make generalizations based on education 'cause each situation is individual. It might be they can't even afford to attend college. It might be it's very difficult to get in (for my own defence.. not to say I won't try again).




On another note, though, I would NOT date anyone that calls me teddy bear.

 

[Suomipoika]

Well, I think it's ironic that when you do find someone you want to be with all those little demands just fly out the window. It might just as well be someone that has most characteristics you've listed and you don't find yourself interested in them one bit. However, I think those 'lists' usually just include things different people are attracted to and that's a whole different thing. You can easily be attracted to a quality someone possesses. Does that mean it's necessarily right for you? Certainly not. It's natural that people think about those things, though.

Well yeah, I have learned not to take the 'lists' too seriously. But I remember having seen a couple of really long ones in here and it kind of tells me that at least if someone from the CF was to pursue them that would take a really great sense of humor. But that's not a problem for CF'ers, right?

On another note, though, I would NOT date anyone that calls me teddy bear.

Yeah, that's something I, too, have only heard in movies, I think. Used about men. Weird stuff. And a girl calling me by that name..

And yes, I 'value' education. But when someone feels like they have to get into the doctor's/lawyer's program and graduate in the ideal timetable with excellent grades just because they've intellectually gifted and probably their parents and other family members except them to become something 'great' (in their reading of the word 'great'), then I feel sorry for them. Everyone should be let feel free to make it their own way. It's good that you feel free of outside pressures.

 

[Silver Speak]

I remember having seen a couple of really long ones in here and it kind of tells me that at least if someone from the CF was to pursue them that would take a really great sense of humor

They'll figure it out sooner or later. When they're old and wrinkly and try to hit on twentysomethings.

It's good that you feel free of outside pressures.

I didn't say I don't feel the pressure. I just try my best to think for myself.

 

[Suomipoika]

When they're old and wrinkly and try to hit on twentysomethings.

Yeah, that actually happens sometimes! But maybe there's another thread for age differences..

I didn't say I don't feel the pressure. I just try my best to think for myself.

Right. You can't help feeling the pressures but letting them control your life would be another thing.

 

[okiemommy26]

Intellegence is the key word!

As long as the guy has a high school education. I don't really care as long as he has a brain on him and knows how to use it.

 

[christiangal522]

Well, I think it's ironic that when you do find someone you want to be with all those little demands just fly out the window. It might just as well be someone that has most characteristics you've listed and you don't find yourself interested in them one bit. However, I think those 'lists' usually just include things different people are attracted to and that's a whole different thing. You can easily be attracted to a quality someone possesses. Does that mean it's necessarily right for you? Certainly not. It's natural that people think about those things, though.

Do I value education? Yes. Have I been interested in someone(s) that never studied beyond high school. Sure thing. Their maturity is a much bigger factor for me. I think you can't make generalizations based on education 'cause each situation is individual. It might be they can't even afford to attend college. It might be it's very difficult to get in (for my own defence.. not to say I won't try again).




On another note, though, I would NOT date anyone that calls me teddy bear.

I totally agree. I've met guys that have most of the characteristics I'm looking for but I feel no attraction or draw towards them whatsoever!!

 

[plum]

Great insights so far, everyone!

 

[eatenbylocusts]

Someone who is intelligent and wants to learn new things and grow is what is important to me. I have seen this trait in all different levels of education. A guy who figures out how to do various home improvement projects is attractive to me.

Something that is very important is a guy who will want to support my kids (not necessarily financially) in their pursuit of education after high school. Somone who says-"They're 18. They're out of the house now", is not the right person for me.

 

[Silver Speak]

I totally agree. I've met guys that have most of the characteristics I'm looking for but I feel no attraction or draw towards them whatsoever!!

Sucks, huh

Now that I think about it, the college diploma means next to nothing to me. I'm a practical person, I have a very laid-back outlook about life; I don't intend to stay in one place and I feel like the nine-to-five life is something I really, really don't want, so, no, I don't really care. Actually, I think I'd find it rather unsettling being with someone who needs stability.

As for myself, I'd love having the opportunity to attend college but you can't take it for granted in Finland, it's so difficult to even get in. I've had to think about spare plans and other ways to achieve what I want for myself in life.