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Hello brothers and sisters in Christ!
I would like your advice. My friend and I got into a heated argument on this. It began with her asking me if drinking was a sin. I told her that getting drunk was a sin and that being drunk is not viewed positively in the Bible. I told her I wasn't sure of the verses and couldn't tell her exactly, but I tried my best to qoute. She surprisingly disagreed with my view on me. We usually agree on everything together. She asked me how was it a sin. Basically, I told her that we should be living examples of Christ, and Christ did not get drunk. Instead, the Sadducees and Jewish Leaders accused Jesus of being a drunkard! I said that the Bible states that we should be sober-minded and smoking weed and drinking alcohol will prevent that. I told her since Jesus would not get drunk, and since we should be living like Christ, I told her we shouldn't either.
I also stated that Jesus did drink, He drank wine, but did not get drunk off of it. So, drinking alcohol isn't bad, scientifically, a little can be quite good! But drinking a lot and getting drunk is very harmful. She said well what if I am in my room smoking or getting drunk and no one new. Like, what if I was with my family and wanted to get a little drunk. I told her the Word says our body is a temple of God and that it should be used to glorify Him, and getting drunk and getting high which keeps you from being sober-minded does not glorify Him. And if what we do is not glorifying God, then we shouldn't do it. She said well what I ate didn't glorify God. That was a weird analogy, so I wasn't sure how to reply. She asking, "Is watching Family Guy bad then?" And I said, That's hard.(Because I watch Family Guy) I said that the Bible says we shouldn't lay our eyes on anything evil. I felt guilty then.
So she wanted to know if I thought it was a sin to get drunk or smoke weed, so I said yes, that I think getting drunk and smoking weed is a sin. Well, we started raising our voices, I know it was bad to start yelling. And well, as she was defending it, I said, "Imagine yourself in front of God right now and He tells you that you shouldn't get drunk or smoke weed and you are yelling at Him saying, but it's okay if I'm doing it in my room where no one sees me!" Probably pushed her buttons so we started yelling. So I yelled, "Why are you defending it!?" And she said because she can, and asked well what about my sisters who got drunk at the house, was that a sin?" And I said, "In my opinion, yes I think that was bad." She got angry and I said, "I'm not saying drinking is bad, I myself will probably drink and drink wine when I am older, but I will not get drunk because it is wrong." She then said, "It wouldn't be bad if you did it like once a month." And I said, "That's like me saying it is okay to watch pornography once a month."(If anyone watches pornography, I am sorry, no offense.)
I said a sin is a sin in God's eyes. She argued it doesn't say anywhere in the bible specifically that it is bad to smoke marijuana. I said it doesn't specifically say anywhere in the Bible that you shouldn't rape a child, but we know it is a sin and wrong. She argued saying does it say anywhere in the Bible about rape. I remembered and said, "Yes, it states if a man rapes a woman then he must marry her, it says that in the Old Testament about rape." That was the end of that part. Overall, we got into a yelling match. I stated this isn't coming from me, but I am just stating what I read from the Bible. She yelled that God didn't say it, and I said that God did because scripture states that God breathed the words on the page; therefore, God in fact said all the stuff about getting drunk and not being sober minded.
So, at the end of it all, I lost control and we were yelling at the end of it. I yelled, "You asked the question! I am giving you the answer!" She was telling me to shut up, and stop getting so emotional about it. I was mad, so I went to get my Bible and told her that I was going to show her the passages in the Bible. She said she didn't care and stormed out of the room yelling leave me alone.
She went downstairs, and now I am up in my room writing this question.
So... what do you think about this? Would you consider getting drunk or high in your room all alone bad? What about anything else that we talked about.
I know I shouldn't have lost my cool. I just get emotional when it comes to what God says, and I know that it is wrong because I shouldn't yell. It just like, If someone is disagreeing with me and what the Bible says, then I feel like they are disagreeing with God, and I get real emotional about stuff like that. Like it says, I gentle answer turns away wrath, but an unkind answer will stir up more anger. I failed that. I get caught up in my emotions and know I shouldn't. I just want to make sure I was giving her the Truth, and using the Bible as my evidence. I also want to make sure I am not giving false answers, hopefully I wasn't. I will be better about approaching topics like these next time, and keeping the conversation calm and collected. Thanks for any replies!
