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A gift of discernment might be in play here, The Holy Spirit could be warning you, Do not go if you are not comfortable. Praying for you.

Mom's going to go there with me and if I sense further danger, I'll leave with a 'I am sick' or something.
 
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Mom is going to go beside me. She's gonna stay with me most of the time so that I can get a feeling for the dude. We knew him for awhile but never knew knew him. :)

:heart: Just for your mom and you too...both of you have a right to not go to his workshop, or wherever it is he wants you to come. Both of you have a right to change up the "plans" to suit your comfort level. AS a matter of fact, as i write this, i'm thinkin' you might both suggest where ELSE you can meet him that will put you both at ease.

A question i have, though, is why are either of you even GOING at all?

Praying for you, and your mom too. (((hug)))
 
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:heart: Just for your mom and you too...both of you have a right to not go to his workshop, or wherever it is he wants you to come. Both of you have a right to change up the "plans" to suit your comfort level. AS a matter of fact, as i write this, i'm thinkin' you might both suggest where ELSE you can meet him that will put you both at ease.

A question i have, though, is why are either of you even GOING at all?

Praying for you, and your mom too. (((hug)))

Eh, revealed he does own a business and the employment amount is... 2.
 
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Eh, revealed he does own a business and the employment amount is... 2.

:heart: Just wondering...you say he has a business? Does he have a business card? Other employees?

Just as a side note, it is perfectly legitimate to re-schedule to another time after you check out his business and any info on it more, etc.

Praying that God Himself guides you and your mom in all of it. (((hug)))
 
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2 employees in total including himself I think? Not sure.

:heart: Praying, brother that God grants you wisdom, discernment, and clarity, and guides you in all of it. (((hug)))
 
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This reminds me of how Jacob may have felt towards his twin brother Esau in Genesis 33:12-17, when Esau had wanted to kill Jacob in the past. Jacob had agreed to meet Esau in the city of Seir, but then went to Succoth instead. One doesn't have to lie, or even given an explanation. Just do what one thinks they ought to do. Take all precautions when you feel uneasy about a situation. Father, give this one peace and confidence to follow the good advice they have been receiving on this site concerning this situation, and keep them safe. Give enlightenment to the one making the offer to them, to understand how it can be taken, and not to take offence or be hurt, but know how to better communicate and what to and what not to communicate in the future. Amen.
 
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This reminds me of how Jacob may have felt towards his twin brother Esau in Genesis 33:12-17, when Esau had wanted to kill Jacob in the past. Jacob had agreed to meet Esau in the city of Seir, but then went to Succoth instead. One doesn't have to lie, or even given an explanation. Just do what one thinks they ought to do. Take all precautions when you feel uneasy about a situation. Father, give this one peace and confidence to follow the good advice they have been receiving on this site concerning this situation, and keep them safe. Give enlightenment to the one making the offer to them, to understand how it can be taken, and not to take offence or be hurt, but know how to better communicate and what to and what not to communicate in the future. Amen.

The dude was very forward, borderline aggressively so. (Sweat going down my brow.) Asked if my sister had a boyfriend and if I had a wife and how he'd show me a wife... (the heck...) He also noticed weird things about me and I was incredibly unsettled.

My Mom was there the whole time and agreed (THANK JESUS) to take me to the library early so I wouldn't unintentionally show the dude where we lived. My sister picked me up at the library.

Finally home, obviously. Never going back.
 
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The dude was very forward, borderline aggressively so. (Sweat going down my brow.) Asked if my sister had a boyfriend and if I had a wife and how he'd show me a wife... (the heck...) He also noticed weird things about me and I was incredibly unsettled.

My Mom was there the whole time and agreed (THANK JESUS) to take me to the library early so I wouldn't unintentionally show the dude where we lived. My sister picked me up at the library.

Finally home, obviously. Never going back.

:heart: Thanking God that you are safe and sound, and your mom too. Thank you for the update. Hugs and thankful prayers all around (((hug)))
 
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:heart: Thanking God that you are safe and sound, and your mom too. Thank you for the update. Hugs and thankful prayers all around (((hug)))

((scared squeeze))

The thought of being alone with him drove my fear. I kept watching Mom with a fearful eye.
 
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The thought of being alone with him drove my fear. I kept watching Mom with a fearful eye.
Do yourself a huge favor; don't go back there, friend. Glad you're home safe, too.
 
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((scared squeeze))

The thought of being alone with him drove my fear. I kept watching Mom with a fearful eye.

:heart: Praise God that He protected you (and your mom), and that your mom was there with you, and that there was some quick thinking about going to the library early so he wouldn't know where you live. Whew! Soooooo thankful that you're ok, and your mom. (((hug)))
 
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Do yourself a huge favor; don't go back there, friend. Glad you're home safe, too.

... Yeah. Still feel a bit of shock from the unrelenting tension at play.
 
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:heart: I don't know how you feel about this, brother, but just go to God, somewhere where you can just pour it out to Him and thank Him for His watchfulness and the 'escape" He gave you, so to speak. If i was in your shoes, i'd crumple before Him and just thank Him in all my crumpled-ness. I've had really shaky experiences where i KNEW that i escaped by the skin of my teeth, and as i look back, i realize that God "preserved" me somehow, as i collapsed in relief.

Hugs n' prayers brother (((hug)))
 
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