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- Jul 9, 2010
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We had a talk and I am prepared to move on.
He said he was turned off by the way I dressed. Said he wanted me to be more covered up when we go out. (It was hot outside and I had on a v-neck spaghetti strap romper). At the same time, what I wore was not "sexy" enough. He said it was not appealing and he was not turned on.
He said a couple relatives were supposed to drop by while I was there but decided to do something else.
I would appreciate comments from guys. Would a man really be tuned off enough not to want to kiss a girl if she was not dressed sexy? Is the visual stimulationi the critical or just an excuse?
The bottom line - he's talking trash.
He wants you to be more covered up and yet he wants you to be sexy, and he expects to be turned on by you before he'll even kiss you? I'm not sure what kind of guy you've found here but it sounds like he wants a trophy rather than a real person.
We men are visual creatures but at the same time I don't think I know any straight men who would reject a woman just because they didn't like some aspect of her outfit. Heck, there are times I look at my wife when she's just fallen out of bed with her hair a mess, no makeup, and looking bedraggled in the way that's only possible when you woke up 30 seconds ago and still find her sexy.
Truth be told I can't help wondering if he's decided he doesn't like you after all and just isn't man enough to admit it, so wants to make out like it's your fault. It may be that the dreaded marriage word scared him off (entirely understandable, as someone said above you need to at least go on a date together before you start discussing how many children you're going to have) but either way it sounds to me like he's looking for an out.
For what it's worth I'd recommend people steer clear of long-distance relationships. My wife and I met across international boundaries and it worked for us but it's a lot more hassle than when both of you are from a similar area. Not least because visiting family gets to be a significant effort and wherever you end up living you're going to make a lot of people unhappy, people who matter to either or both of you.
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