double and/or uncertain minded

[silentpoet]

I am trying to make a big decision. I ask for guidance from God, and I go back and forth. For a few hours I think I am going to choose one way to fulfill my calling, and then a few hours later I go back to another one. Either looks like it would be a way to fulfill what I see as my calling. I feel more called to one than the other, but I am not sure. I am suffering from paralaysis by analysis.

Either way involves some sacrifice on my part. I guess I need to be more open. I am considering either the National Guard or active duty Army. The National Guard looks to be the more(for lack of a better term) comfortable option. It is also more approved by my Christian girlfriend. The Army seems more my calling though, maybe. But my girlfriend has no desire for the many moves that Army life could entail.

Each time I ask God for guidance, it seems like I get more confused. Because it seems each time I ask, I get what seems to me a different answer. Now that may mean that whatever I choose God will be there beside me. But I am struggling. I know that eventually I must make that leap of faith. But I am a flawed human trying my best to serve God.

Also I think I am complicating this by not totally throwing sin out of my life. I try, but I stumble so much. I am such a screw up. I know all the words to say, but living them is another story. I can spread God's word and His message, but I cannot control myself. I think I know what Paul felt in romans 7:15.

I am growing in wisdom each day. I feel more inspired by God each day. I feel lead to post the words I post and speak the words I speak, not all but often enough that I feel His hand.

 

[HoneyComb Son]

hey silentpost..i can relate to the doublemindedness..just keep after God..ask HIm to help you with the doublemindedness..He will..I pray God will make it clear to you about your directions.and put clearity in your mind..remember God isnt the author of confusion..i pray this in Jesus name amen

 

[brinley45cal]

First off your not a screw up,thats the devil trying to bring you down.You do have a tough decision to make but if you feel that you are called to go in the army then thats where you need to be.I know you are torn between your girlfriend and the army but you both are going to have to make a choice.Your going to have to choose either your girlfriend or your calling and possibly without her.Shes going to have to make a decision to respect your calling and and be with you or decide that that life is not for her and move on.But you need to follow god first,thats the most important.I think you know where your suppose to be your just affraid to take that step knowing what you might lose.What you dont want to do is make a decision in confusion,keep praying for wisdom and guidence but i think you already know what to do.

 

[Johnnz]

God expects us to use our brains as well. Sometimes we must analyse, then come to a decision. Then, tell God what you have decided, and allow time for that decision to 'settle'. Paul spoke about this
Phil 4:6-7
6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
NIV

If the decision you have come to is not what God wants we often become unsettled about it in some way (no inner peace). It is not very often you will get direct guidance on issues you face. It does happen sometimes and that is fine.

John
NZ

 

[dasielady]

I am in the National Guard so if you have any specific questions that you want honest non-recruiter opinions to to help you make your decision, I will be happy to answer them.

 

[silentpoet]

Part of the problem I am facing is knowing what is God's call to me and what is my desire to better myself so that I may serve better. DO you know of any books about determining what God's call in your life is.

Do you think when God calls you that He calls you out of your comfort zone to test or perfect your faith? I mean look at how he tested Abraham. Further when Jesus called on people to follow Him in the gospels, there was often much they had to abandon. In a way I feel like Abraham(not in faith, just in the testing)in that I have waited so long for a good Godly woman to love.

I know what I want. I want to be that soldier at a high level. But I also want love in my life. I guess my faith or trust is weak. I know God can provide, but I have spent so much of my life not trusting that it is hard to do now.

 

[Rafael]

Pr 3:6 In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.

Pr 16:9 A man’s heart plans his way, But the LORD directs his steps.

Whatever you decide, God will be with you to direct you if your heart is towards Him. Be patient and put your trust in Him for the right timing. Perhaps the time you have now is for study and building up for the future.

 

[Johnnz]

You don't need to be a martyr or go to extremes to 'prove' your faith. For some of us learning to be open with the one you love was a big hurdle. Throughout our lives God uses situations and experiences to teach us more about himself, and to transform us from within.

John
NZ

 

[brightlights]

perhaps, silent, (and im not saying that this is the case) God is trying to tell you that neither option is right for you. maybe he doesnt want you to pursue armed forces at all.

 

[TheMainException]

My dear brother, silent poet! Spring forth from the trap Satan has laid for you! Continue to pray, be strong my brother, find strength in the Lord. I have always disliked choices. Even simply being asked where I wanted to go to eat with my good friend. He asks me and I cannot answer. I cannot make up my mind to even choose one color that I like the most...or favorite food. I think I know what job I want to choose...but yet, I am so in love with another choice. I am confused and just don't know what to do. But I cannot offer you advice...I cannot say anything more than to keep praying. I have not come through this time in my life yet...and maybe, once you are through, you can help me when it comes time for me to make the choice in my own life. Because you struggle with this, so you will help someone else who struggles with this too. Just like I have experienced much pain, I can help those who also deal with pain every day. Continue to seek God's face in this, as humans, we sometimes can't understand his answers, continue to clear your life from the sin that plagues you with the help of God. God bless big brother.

 

[theotherguy]

Maybe you should ask God if it is more important to stay with your girlfriend or join the army