I do agree with this post in part. My marriage suffered adultery on the part of my wife, and we were both to blame. We both had to change. However again I would say if she is up to no good, nothing you do will be good enough, she will use your faults real and imagined to justify her own sin. In our case she spent all day bashing me and making me grovel like it was all my fault, only to discover she was cheating all the while. Be a good husband yes, but be assertive. You deserve respect just as she does. If she s sinning she will push you down and down, to control and keep on her hidden sin.
Of course I pray this is not what she is doing and this is fixed before adultery occurs
(I don't know how this appeared under your post, ouranopolis, so my apologies to you. It should be under the thread-header)
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As a Catholic, Manny, your wife should know that we are body and spirit, not pure spirits, like the angels. And unlike Eastern religions which tend to view the material world as an illusion, Genesis tells us that God made the world and He found it good. This, in turn, was one of the major reasons why, in the Christendom of the West, empirical science was pursued so persistently, whereas in other countries, it was on a trifling scale, fitful, at best. But it was not for lack of intelligence, as, once they took the bit between their teeth they have produced extraordinarily-gifted physicists, for instance. And the same has applied to other countries, once, wittingly or unwittingly, they accepted that God made the world and found it good. When the West stops plundering sub-Saharan Africa, watch those countries take off.
The Chinese invented printing several centuries before us, but almost in a fit of absent-mindedness. I live in the UK, and as late as the 19th century, this little pip-squeak country was forcing that vast country to consume opium. Yet, today, they are leading the world in various fields of physics or are close to it.
It is not as if your wife sounds as if she is concentrating on the spiritual at the expense of the material, however, but, rather, is wrapped up in herself. If the world had followed her path, we would have all remained hunter-gatherers. (not necessarily a bad thing, however, but it's not what God wanted of us, which, of course, is what counts). I think if she committed herself to fulfilling her marriage vows in your regard, trying to please you, even when at some cost to herself, maybe her depression would at least be alleviated. Self-absorption by a spouse is bound to be very unhealthy for a marriage, isn't it, if that
is the problem ?
My late wife wanted me to wear a wedding ring, but I didn't much like the idea, thinking less of the symbolism than she did. Now I regret it, as well as other things that I baulked at, or neglected to do, which seemed inconsequential to me, but meant more, even a lot, to her. I deeply, deeply regret it now. I'd have gone to the ends of the earth for her, if necessary, but I ought to have done smaller things, just because they meant more to her, and she asked me.
