Doing my part

[renaistre]

Let me start by saying that this question has been brewing in my head for a few days, but that I still don't know exactly how to word it. It's also late. So please give me some slack if it seems to mean something that I didn't intend.

What I am wondering is if we as singles sometimes underestimate the work that is involved in growing a relationship. I sometimes pray that God will help me to find my special someone, but I wonder if I am actually doing my part in trying to talk to people, develop friendships, etc. I'm trying to be careful here because I don't want to imply that I think that if someone is single it is "their fault," but at least for me, sometimes I wonder... is it? How would you gauge whether or not you are meeting God halfway, as they say.

All of this is assuming, of course, that we are talking about people who are single but would rather be... err... un-single.

 

[renaistre]

Additional clarification:

I think what I'm trying to get at isn't so much "do I need to change something in order to find someone," but more along the lines of "am I trying to make God do things for me that I should be doing on my own." Or something like that.

 

[mina]

Well I think as Christians we have a responsibility to be friendly, to be involved in ministry, to be fellowshiping with God's people. Also it's important to be yourself. We shouldn't be doing these things in order to get a date or find the one, but simply because God wants us to so we can grow more like Him and grow closer to accomplishing His will for His kingdom. Sometimes I just think it's being faithful in the little things and then God can trust you with more ( and that may include a relationship). I just think it's really important to try and be actively seeking God's will and be in His will and then He won't let you miss anything that He has for you.

 

[krstg]

Good question. I just have a few thoughts...

...As long as you are willing to meet people and be friendly in your everyday situations (work, school, church, family & friend get-togethers, etc...), then God will do all the work he knows he needs to so that you can have the best (including meeting that special someone)! I believe I can say that because I know at least a few people who met their special someone without any extraordinary acts on their part. God did the work of, not only bringing these people together, but, giving them the feeling of being comfortable enough with each other that they were open to developing a serious relationship with each other. I believe that if you are meant to do something, God will give you a little nudge to go forward or conscience to hold you back a bit.

I do not think it's my fault that I'm single, although I would like to be un-single one day. I think there are a lot of people who I could try to be with, but even after talking with them and developing a friendship I'm not ready to to leave my singleness!

...Again, I think you have a good question. Even though I said the above, I still wonder.

 

[waterbear]

I've generally held the belief that people are responsible for actively seeking out other people for romantic relationships. As I'm a complete recluse, I take full responsibility for my singleness (which is really a blessing at this time anyway )

 

[inchoate]

I've generally held the belief that people are responsible for actively seeking out other people for romantic relationships. As I'm a complete recluse, I take full responsibility for my singleness (which is really a blessing at this time anyway )

Agreed

 

[Agape4u]

Well I think as Christians we have a responsibility to be friendly, to be involved in ministry, to be fellowshiping with God's people. Also it's important to be yourself. We shouldn't be doing these things in order to get a date or find the one, but simply because God wants us to so we can grow more like Him and grow closer to accomplishing His will for His kingdom. Sometimes I just think it's being faithful in the little things and then God can trust you with more ( and that may include a relationship). I just think it's really important to try and be actively seeking God's will and be in His will and then He won't let you miss anything that He has for you.

Yeah, what she said. Excellent post, Mina!

 

[traingosorry]

I've generally held the belief that people are responsible for actively seeking out other people for romantic relationships. As I'm a complete recluse, I take full responsibility for my singleness (which is really a blessing at this time anyway )

haha!
I agree as well

 

[anett]

Well I think as Christians we have a responsibility to be friendly, to be involved in ministry, to be fellowshiping with God's people. Also it's important to be yourself. We shouldn't be doing these things in order to get a date or find the one, but simply because God wants us to so we can grow more like Him and grow closer to accomplishing His will for His kingdom.

undefinedYEAH!
And also it is always a blessing if you are opened to others, cause you can get many friends!
Being opened and doing God's will are 2 major things in this issue, I think. I believe, that everyone has a number one, and if you allow God to lead you, if you know HIS voice, and if you are thinking in HIS timing (instead of yours)you won't miss the BEST ONE! But since we have a free will, we can get a mate, but maybe he/she isn't the number one. We can be happy together, but not as much as it was originally planned by God.

 

[anett]

Well I think as Christians we have a responsibility to be friendly, to be involved in ministry, to be fellowshiping with God's people. Also it's important to be yourself. We shouldn't be doing these things in order to get a date or find the one, but simply because God wants us to so we can grow more like Him and grow closer to accomplishing His will for His kingdom.

YEAH!
And also it is always a blessing if you are opened to others, cause you can get many friends!
Being opened and doing God's will are 2 major things in this issue, I think. I believe, that everyone has a number one, and if you allow God to lead you, if you know HIS voice, and if you are thinking in HIS timing (instead of yours)you won't miss the BEST ONE! But since we have a free will, we can get a mate, but maybe he/she isn't the number one. We can be happy together, but not as much as it was originally planned by God.

 

[anett]

Sorry for posting 2 times! I made a mistake.

 

[traingosorry]

Sorry for posting 2 times! I made a mistake.

pshaw ( we need a smiley guy for that one!)
dontworryaboutit - we all do it!