ThisIsMe123
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Having given this some more thought, I think one thing we need to be careful about is not turning it into an "us and them" situation. Yes, people's lifestyles, priorities, and needs do change when they get married and even more so when they have kids, but it's not as though either of those happening means that they suddenly have absolutely nothing in common with single people and that it's absolutely necessary for single and married people to be separated.
Just going by my personal experience, I've been part of home groups that comprised both singles and couples and there have never been any issues there. My church does have a men's fellowship group, but I don't attend, not because I would feel unwelcome because I'm not married, but rather because nearly everyone there is 20-30 years older than me and I know I would feel a bit out of place, even if I also know that they would be very happy to see me there.
Obviously, that's what I've experienced, and others are going to have had different experiences, where not being married is an issue, but there are going to be churches where it isn't. My church does occasionally run marriage courses and they do often try things to make it more family friendly, but I've never felt excluded because I'm not married and don't have children - occasionally marriage and children might get touched upon in sermons, but it's always to illustrate a point, and it's one that you don't have experience of either in order to understand.
So perhaps it needs to be evaluated on an individual church basis. In some churches singles are going to feel left out because they're single, but in others it might not be the case, and it would be perhaps be a little unfair to classify the latter as failing single people.
Yeah, I had met woman on Match that said her singles ministry started like 2 years ago, then...it fizzled out after that time. When someone went to church leadership to revive the singles group...they poo-poo'ed it.
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