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Does the father have a say in Abortion?

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Jonathan David said:
Good point....yeah, I saw an article about it but never followed up.... I will check it out once I am done exams.

I searched briefly. Wasn't able to dig up the actual case, but this article is interesting:

Legal Times

Ethan J. Leib

In Planned Parenthood v. Danforth (1976), the Supreme Court made clear that a state could not require a father's consent before allowing a woman to procure an abortion. And Planned Parenthood of Southeastern Pennsylvania v. Casey (1992) struck down as unconstitutional a spousal notification provision, which required a married woman to sign a statement that she had notified her spouse before undergoing an abortion.

Does this mean a man has no cognizable interest in the fate of his potential child? Should men be forced to have children against their will? What if they affirmatively want a fetus aborted? Don't they have rights to procreational autonomy too?

Adding insult to injury, men can get slapped with paternity suits (and jailed for failure to pay) even if they wore a condom and never consented to fatherhood. Although one might think that a man implicitly consents to letting his lover choose what happens with his sperm by engaging in consensual sexual relations, basic fairness demands there must be limitations to this logic, particularly given that women can engage in consensual sex without being required to complete any resulting pregnancy.

Might men have a limited right to choose an "abortion" of parental rights and duties in some form? Might they even have a greater right to participate in the abortion decision than Danforth and Casey suggest? If we are serious about the right to choose, it might be more equitable to be more egalitarian about it.

A February appeals court decision from Illinois started considering these issues. According to Dr. Richard Phillips, Dr. Sharon Irons performed (consensual) oral sex upon him, but then, unbeknownst to him, used his sperm to conceive a child. Reportedly, soon after she gave birth, Irons slapped Phillips with a paternity suit, in which he was required to pay $800 a month in child support. Thereafter, Phillips sued Irons, inter alia, for intentional infliction of emotional distress and theft in Cook County Circuit Court; that court dismissed his claims.

The appeals court, however, allowed his case to go forward, saying that he may sue for emotional distress but not theft. The higher court found that Irons could not have stolen the sperm because when Phillips "delivered his sperm, it was a gift . . . There was no agreement that the original deposit would be returned upon request." Nevertheless, it found that Phillips had a cognizable interest in not becoming a father against his will and gave the suit a green light.

Although it didn't directly raise the issue, the recent Illinois case puts in salient relief an understudied area of the abortion debate: what role men should have in the decision to prevent their genetic material from making its way into the world.

Nongendered Choice

We must start with the woman's right to choose. A woman's right to choose an abortion is a fully developed -- if contested -- constitutional and moral right. A woman's right to choose an abortion is, most centrally, a right against the state: The state cannot tell a woman what to do with her body.

It is also, of course, a right against the fetus: The woman's right to choose is the right to terminate a pregnancy, particularly in the first trimester, above any right that might be asserted on behalf of the fetus.

But the pro-choice position has another valence too, one that Danforth and Casey spell out most specifically: It is the woman's right to terminate her pregnancy without regard for the desires or concerns of the man involved. The right was designed with a particular evil in view: that the state or a father would try to use coercive means to prevent a woman from seeking an abortion. That is the core of the right.

Still, the right has come to mean more. The woman's right to choose also seems to encompass her right to carry the fetus to term if she wants to, irrespective of the desire of the man or the state. Most people think this makes sense, and that this is a natural expression (if not a natural extension) of the woman's right to choose an abortion.

But it is worth pausing to notice that this extension creates thorny problems. Imagine the United States trying to adopt a family planning policy similar to the one in place in China, allowing families to have only two children.

What is wrong with such a policy? It seems clear that the policy is offensive to our moral and constitutional sensibilities. But would our first line of defense against such a policy derive from the woman's right to choose directly? I don't think so. Nor would it be enough to talk about a woman's right to bodily integrity, though that contributes a bit more toward explaining what is offensive about it.

If there is a right to decide for ourselves how many children to have, it is unlikely to inhere solely in women. We are offended by the idea of the China policy because it intrudes upon a more general right to procreative choice.

That right is not gendered; it includes both men and women. It is the right to make private decisions about how and when to procreate. Any effort to reject the China policy without accounting for the ways in which it infringes on men's rights would be inadequate.

This reasoning is of a piece with earlier Supreme Court decisions on the right to privacy, from which the right to choose an abortion was derived. Consider the Court's pronouncement in Eisenstadt v. Baird (1972): "If the right of privacy means anything, it is the right of the individual, married or single, to be free from unwarranted governmental intrusion into matters so fundamentally affecting a person as the decision whether to bear or beget a child."

Nowhere are women given especial focus in the right to privacy; men retain the right to procreate or not to procreate.

That didn't last for long, of course; Danforth and Casey cemented the idea that, as Danforth put it, "We cannot hold that the state has the constitutional authority to give the spouse unilaterally the ability to prohibit the wife from terminating her pregnancy, when the state itself lacks that right."

Still, the Court was not totally dismissive of the man's rights in choosing whether to become a parent. For example, in Casey, the Court affirmed that a man has a "deep and proper concern and interest . . . in his wife's pregnancy and in the growth and development of the fetus she is carrying." And the Court rightfully appreciated that in well-functioning relationships, women would notify and consult with the father.

Yet, citing a long string of factual findings about domestic violence and enlisting a parade of horribles that would follow from giving the father more substantial rights in the fetus, the Court made clear that the woman's right to choose could not be qualified in any way by giving a man any say in the matter.

What About the Father?

This may be fine as a matter of law and as a decision rule for when the parties disagree. But it also enables women to jump right to their veto power without including the man. And it also opens the door for women to cloak themselves with the sanctity of the legal right to choose -- and not consider that men have very real interests in the termination of a fetus they are responsible for creating -- and for which they will have to pay dearly, even if they took all necessary precautions to avoid a pregnancy.

In short, I wish to suggest that consensual sex does not carry with it -- without further specification or clarification -- an abdication of the man's interest in and right to the privacy of his genetic material. It does not waive his right not to be a father against his will.

We can have a decision rule that the woman will get to choose if it comes down to that -- but it is much harder to assert that a man abdicates any participatory rights he may have in the decision-making process.

Implementing the Right

How can we give teeth to the man's right to choose an abortion -- other than merely hoping that women will consult with their partners?

Should a man who tries in good faith to avoid a pregnancy have the legal right to force an abortion on a woman he accidentally impregnates who prefers to carry the fetus to term? No. A man should not be allowed to force a woman to undergo a traumatic surgical or pharmacological procedure to abort a fetus. The Court certainly got right that morality requires that women get a final say.

Yet although women get the final say, there are nonetheless ways for the law to ensure that men still have a voice in the matter. First, we can allow suits like that in Illinois to vindicate the right, allowing claims for intentional infliction of emotional distress when the woman has forced a man to become a parent against his will.

Second, we can relieve men of support payments if they can show that they did what they could to avoid becoming a father. If a man exercises due care to prevent pregnancy, a woman who nevertheless carries the child to term ought to bear the financial consequences of her decision.

We should remain deeply concerned about deadbeat dads -- but those who really wanted an abortion of an accidental fetus shouldn't be stigmatized and penalized for not getting the ability to choose an abortion.

Finally, we can allow men and women to contract out of support payments if a woman, without the man's consent, insists on carrying an accidental pregnancy to term. This option, not available under current law, would allow the couple to agree that a man could give up all parental rights and responsibilities, perhaps in exchange for a one-time payment to the woman to assist with the costs of birth.

However we choose to vindicate the right through the legal system, a man is entitled to be heard on the question of whether to abort a fetus he helped to create. Ideally, the decision about what to do with an unwanted pregnancy should be a joint enterprise between man and woman. While women may hold the legal ace of spades -- the ultimate right to choose and veto -- men at least should be able to get their cards on the table.
 
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Jonathan David said:
I read that too.... and I am going to have to pull that case and read it because it doesn't make sense to me.... it sounds "off".... I mean, I think that oral sex should be an option for a couple that doesn't want to risk pregnancy. I appreciate that this may be the law but shouldn't that be seen as a unilateral act for which the man is not responsible? It certainly wasn't theft on her part... but I am not sure that her act of freezing the sperm and impregnating herself with it should affect him... I am not sure that the man should have been held responsible... is there anything else to the story that you know of (background, etc)? For instance, how did she do that without him noticing? Doesn't sperm die quickly in the air?... anyway, that is for another thread... but I want to follow that case.

In this particular case, the court ruled only that she had not committed the specific crime of theft. The court did not rule that her actions were acceptable or that the father had no legal recourse -- in fact, the written decision explicitly stated her actual crime as the judge saw it in no sympathetic terms.

In other words, the decision came down to the judge telling the man, "We-el, you can't exactly charge her with theft but *hint, hint* you could probably nail her pretty badly on something else since what she did was pretty much inexcusable."
 
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DJ_Ghost said:
What exactly are you asking for and how is it relevant to the topic at hand? Because frankly it looks like what you are saying is that its okay for all those women to die as long as the father opens his wallet to pay for the baby. I really hope I am misunderstanding your point.

What I mean is that the statistical numbers you presented wher not accurate, because you stated the pregnant poulation as a whole, when really the only woman that would go though a pregnacy at the wishes of the dad, are women who conceived with a dad that is willing to take sole responsability of the child for the sake of thier life, or relationship to the child.


You miss my point, in typing that line I was attempting to show the ridiculousness of the argument that criminal law should be brought into play at all in these instances. You seem to place the rites of an unborn and unviable foetus above everyone else's, and I just can’t see eye to eye with you on that.

I truly feel the woman, the man, and the unborn baby should have the same rights, just like any other citzen in the U.S.A.


Why don’t you look them up and present them?

I am computer retarded, I've bean told how to copy and paste and all that happy mumbo jumbo before, but I haven't been succesful yet, I also don't have the time to copy an artical out on my printer and hand type it in.

Frankly that's got no bearing on my argument so you need to look up the figures, construct a discourse and convince me of why your viewpoint should be my viewpoint. Currently I fail to see what abortion rates has to do with the argument about if a man should have a say and to what degree his say should be weighted. So if you think their is a coherent argument about how the abortion rate relates to whether the mans view should be equally weighted, make it, lets see it on the table so we can all analyse it.

Well I suppose you posted the rate of maternal death because you want me to consider the implications of an intended action, so I like wise brought up the abortion issue, if a dad wants thier child and has legal recourse to have the child, that is one more baby saved. I am pointing out an already implicated action.
 
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jesusfreak3786 said:
What I mean is that the statistical numbers you presented wher not accurate, because you stated the pregnant poulation as a whole, when really the only woman that would go though a pregnacy at the wishes of the dad, are women who conceived with a dad that is willing to take sole responsability of the child for the sake of thier life, or relationship to the child.

Are they? What do you base that assertion on? What about women that are bullied into it? What about women who don’t consider the implications? Why do you assume they have really considered the possibility of their own mortality?

jesusfreak3786 said:
I truly feel the woman, the man, and the unborn baby should have the same rights, just like any other citzen in the U.S.A.

Okay, a noble stand point in theory but a little hard to put into practice. What happens when the parents don’t agree?

jesusfreak3786 said:
I am computer retarded, I've bean told how to copy and paste and all that happy mumbo jumbo before, but I haven't been succesful yet, I also don't have the time to copy an artical out on my printer and hand type it in.

Okay, well I can sympathise with that, it took me a long time to be computer literate as well. However a few important points.
Copy and pasting and hand copying articles does not equal research it equals plagiarism. Research means looking up the information you want then constructing your own discourse from it. You can do this at a library or simply by going to www.google.com and typing in the topic you are interested in. Google will then find all the relevant websites. 90% of these will be utterly useless, so one of the most important skills in research is critically evaluating the legitimacy of the information you are reading, and to be able to separate propaganda, bald assertion, agenda driven material from reliable information.

It can be tricky to learn how to do that, the net is full of sites that purport to contain legitimate academically supported information that prove to be nothing but supposition and unsubstantiated opinion on closer examination. My advice to anyone trying to conduct research in any field is always, question everything, check everything against other sources, and always look for what your source does not tell you as well as what they do tell you.

jesusfreak3786 said:
Well I suppose you posted the rate of maternal death because you want me to consider the implications of an intended action, so I like wise brought up the abortion issue, if a dad wants thier child and has legal recourse to have the child, that is one more baby saved.

I see, however surely that is the very question under debate. should the father have such legal recourse. I was attempting to construct an argument for why I don’t think he should. I think you feel he should and I am curious as to why. If he took the same risk as the mother then there may be more of an argument for it. I understand fathers can be every bit as emotionally attached to their children as mothers, but they don’t take the same medical risk, they don’t spend 9 months with something growing in their body and draining their own biological resources and I don’t feel they should have any legal rites over some one else's body.

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DJ_Ghost said:
Are they? What do you base that assertion on? What about women that are bullied into it?

If there was a law set in place regarding Fathers rights to abortion, there would also have to be a law that makes it so he can't back out of the deal. it's understandable if he loses all financial security and has to get help for a time, but the dad in question would have to be fully responsable.



Okay, a noble stand point in theory but a little hard to put into practice. What happens when the parents don’t agree?

Unfortionitly a legal battle.



Okay, well I can sympathise with that, it took me a long time to be computer literate as well. However a few important points.
Copy and pasting and hand copying articles does not equal research it equals plagiarism. Research means looking up the information you want then constructing your own discourse from it. You can do this at a library or simply by going to www.google.com and typing in the topic you are interested in. Google will then find all the relevant websites. 90% of these will be utterly useless, so one of the most important skills in research is critically evaluating the legitimacy of the information you are reading, and to be able to separate propaganda, bald assertion, agenda driven material from reliable information.

It can be tricky to learn how to do that, the net is full of sites that purport to contain legitimate academically supported information that prove to be nothing but supposition and unsubstantiated opinion on closer examination. My advice to anyone trying to conduct research in any field is always, question everything, check everything against other sources, and always look for what your source does not tell you as well as what they do tell you.


Thank you very much!:)


I see, however surely that is the very question under debate. should the father have such legal recourse. I was attempting to construct an argument for why I don’t think he should. I think you feel he should and I am curious as to why. If he took the same risk as the mother then there may be more of an argument for it. I understand fathers can be every bit as emotionally attached to their children as mothers, but they don’t take the same medical risk, they don’t spend 9 months with something growing in their body and draining their own biological resources and I don’t feel they should have any legal rites over some one else's body.

If the dad is willing to take complete responsability over the child for the love of their babies life, and if the mother is able to carry the child healthly, I think life should be chosen over death, and emotional pain over phisical pain.
 
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I suppose it depends on if the father is a rapist.
They probably should be able to at least voice their opinion.

In the first place though, self-control would help to prevent this choice from having to be made.

If there is a choice to be made further, all facts must be gone through to make an informed and responsible choice.

I myself would not abort any child for any circumstances unless it was in a position that would kill both me and it. Then again, I question that, since I think we should develop technology for transplanting babies in such cases.
 
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levi501 said:
This is why I believe in order to equalize the situation the father should be allowed before the time has passed to have an abortion to give up his rights and responsibilities to the child. If he makes this clear and the woman decides to have the child knowing that it's unwated by the father, she should expect no financial help from him.

Equalize?? No, I don't think so. I think the current situation is as equal as can be, given that only women become pregnant.

The arrangement you propose is pretty much how things have been since the dawn of time. If fathers did not want to take any responsibiliy for their children, they simply walked away or claim that the child was not their offspring. On the other hand, if fathers wanted their children, they could pretty much take them away from the mothers and women had little recourse since, for a very long time, women had no legal standing.

So, you want men to be able to have sex with any willing partner and then to have, or not have, any responsibility for any children that might result, as they wish.

Been there. Done that. And with the combination of women's rights and scientific advancements, I don't think we're going to do that again.

It's really very hard for a woman to get ahold of your sperm if you aren't willing to share it. If you wish no responsibilities, keep your sperm to yourself.
 
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