Does cheating nullify??

[KGirl]

Does having sex with someone else nullify a marriage? My husband did that, and I'm wondering if it is currently wrong that I've been spending alot of time with this one guy and we were affectionate a couple of times. No making out, but enough to say that if you're married (and staying with them) you shouldn't do it. I don't think you should spend more time with someone then your spouse, and or be affectionate. But for some reason I don't feel as guilty as I'd think I would. I really don't feel quilty. I feel like I'm not with my husband, however I know I am still. Did what he did nullify the marriage?
Let me add that I'm not trying to jump into something else, and realize that I shouldn't even be worrying about a guy.. It's not that I'm trying to, I just happen to like this guy.

 

[searle29678]

I don't think cheating automatically nullifies a marriage. If the cheating party is willing to repent and move on from that , I don't see why it has to be the end of the marriage or the end of its validity.

I think your guilt factor could be tied into how hurt you are by your husband's actions. I think if both parties are willing counselling and some in depth communication is in order for you and your husband.

 

[Leanna]

Well I remember you from some threads. I guess things are not going better. Are you going to get a divorce, or what? I have been where you are, not exactly, but close enough.... my husband and I were separated at one point and I was hanging out with a male coworker who was also my best friend. I felt really guilty at first, but after a while I became numb to it. You know what is right, you are still married. If this marriage honestly cannot work, and I am not the judge of that, I think you guys better be talking divorce... otherwise, talk reconciliation. Just sitting around in limbo is a terrible place to be.

 

[KGirl]

I was going to get a divorce, but I decided to give him another chance.

 

[Leanna]

Please make changes as necessary.... the worst thing about "chances" are if all the conditions are the same as before, nothing changes.... you end up in the same place... make changes

 

[Shesjr]

My husband cheated on me too. We have come very far in the past 3 years since it has been really over with her. Did his unfaithfulness nullify our marriage? If you could define what you mean by nullify that would help me answer better.

 

[Warrior Poet]

Nullify... is that like:
He cheated on me... I fooled around on him... we are equal. Cause I think that worked in 1st through 8th grade... but not after.

You cant give a chance if you have side issues with others ( i mean liking a guy or what not) going on. What are you asking really?

Warrior Poet

 

[Autumnleaf]

Two wrongs don't make a right when it comes to marital infidelity.

 

[Mr.Cheese]

Two wrongs don't make a right.

Rather than wonder about another guy right now you need to resolve things with your marriage first.
Sleeping with someone else is what I believe to be an absolute transgression of the marriage covenant.
So you work out how to resolve that situation before getting involved with someone else.
That is the healthy and responsible way to go about this.