Does Anyone Object?

[MEMSAHIB2]

My 14year old daughter self harms quite seriously and I am struggling to understand all this. Would anyone here mind if I just read some of these posts from time to time? Even just the quick skim through I've done so far, so much resonates with my daughter's experiences and especially the posts about voices. I am trying so hard to understand the dynamics of what is happening to her and just reading about this from people here could at least give me some better understanding and I hope also some suggestions of how to help her overcome this. I hope also that I may persuade her to log in herself and draw some support from the group here. Right now, however, she would be quite resistant to that, so I thought perhaps this might be the next best thing? However, I don't want to upset anyone on this forum, so please let me know if this would be okay? It is just so hard to get any real information or insights from the "professionals" we are dealing with.
THANKYOU

 

[NoddaProbBob]

I dont see any problem with this. Welcome to CF by the way

well, I also read that you were looking for advice too.
In my case, I'm 16 and yea, I SI.
And maybe this helps you, and in which case I hope it does, but one of the reasons why I SI is because I don't know any better way to convey my feelings.
to help better explain this....for me it has to do with frustration. And I know that this doesnt make too much sense because we've never talked before, but I know that for me, it really is a lot of anger and self hatred.
And I'm trying to stop SI. I've been free for 12 days
*proud of myself*


well, that was just a quick little post. if you would ever like to talk more just PM me, and I'll try to explain something to you if you'd like.

and again welcome to CF!!!!

*NoddaProbBob*

 

[katylees]

I think that would be fine .. i am fine with it anyway.. go ahead and learn about our experiences and i hope they help you understand your daughter better. Take care

 

[Celtic Camel]

I have no objections... but I don't post here very often...
I guess where I am right now, if what I have been through can help anyone, then I'm willing to share.

Praying for you daughter.
Also praying for wisdom for you.
(You're daughter is blessed to have such a caring mum, who wants to try to understand)

 

[Bamboo_Chicken]

Welcome to CF MEMSAHIB2 . I don't SI either, but I do know people who do and these guys have really helped me to understand more about it...they're awesome! You're more than welcome to post in here Hun .

Slightly mod hat-ish too - the responses so far have been wonderful, but can everyone please remember that in explaining, we can't allow posts that endorse self-harm at all.

Thanks guys .

 

[pockleberry]

If your daughter ever wants to talk to someone and can't face the idea of a big forum I'd be happy to talk to her or if you ever have any questions that you need answering...

 

[Tenebrae]

No objections here

 

[texannurse]

I'm fine with it. If our experiences and words can help you or your daughter understand SI, then our words themselves are at your disposal. But, please don't assume that just because I cut for my own reasons that those same reasons are your daughters. I hope this helps you. There is a really good book out there called "the scarred soul" It really helped one of my good friends understand what I was going through.
My PM box is always open if you need to talk or ask questions!
TN

 

[MEMSAHIB2]

Thank you so much everyone. You are all so generous in spirit - I am over awed !

Yours in Christ

 

[Aredhel]

I'm fine with it.
I just want to say how lucky your daughter is to have a mom who is trying to understand her point of view, rather than just trying to "fix" her problem. I'm praying for you and your daughter.

 

[cinnabunch]

Is your daughter going to any type of counseling?

cindy