does anyone here struggle to make friends in real life?

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I've been in a prolonged season where I've been depressed in a major way. I don't think I let it come across a lot because I keep my attitude and conversation on God. But as far as friends go, my circle is pretty small. I'm mindful of what's said in Proverbs 18:24 where the writer says that a man that has many friends might come to ruin. There are expectations associated with that that can be a pretty strong negative driving force in life. So I watch out who my close intimates are for this very reason.

 

[LifeHouse]

I do. I tend to keep to myself because of social anxiety. I keep busy with my family instead.

I think a small group through church would help you to get to know people.

hello i tried.

unfortunately it did not work.

but thanks for your prayers and suggestion anyway.

God bless.

 

[Natto]

I don't know if I am a socially awkward person. But I guess I am more like socially reactive and prefer socially isolated ,socially distanced because I am an introvert person. Another reason for being socially isolated is that I want to protect my privacy and keep it undercover at some extent. I guess I am probably capable of casual chat with people in general as long as it's not involved too much professional knowledge in conversation, which already out of my reach.

I am more struggle to make friends when I am more senior now.. In the beginning an introvert have truly hard time in making new friends, But once people know me harmless over a long period of time of observation, they will try to break ice and want to start a casual chat with me . I guess it's time let friendship flourish from then on.

I used to assist in managing renovation, my friend were usually belonged to blue collar workers, technicians, they not only my colleague, problem solvers, teammates, at the same time , but also my only friends. I guess they play multi-role in my course of life.

Introvert in general has much harder time to make friend initially, and it take a quite a while to make friends. Once one patiently endured through winter, spring will come.

 

[ReesePiece23]

On the whole, people WILL want to be your friend. When I refused to acknowledge my own inhibitions I started to make friends really easily.

If you're quiet and reserved, people might mistake you for being snooty or unapproachable. One of the kindest individuals I know is also the rudest. It's ALL down to social inhibition.

 

[MehGuy]

I can make friends very easily, but most of the time I decline. Growing up I developed a lot of psychological problems being close to anybody. I also value significant alone time. Wish I was different, but going on 30 years I'll probably always be this way.

 

[ReesePiece23]

I can make friends very easily, but most of the time I decline. Growing up I developed a lot of psychological problems being close to anybody. I also value significant alone time. Wish I was different, but going on 30 years I'll probably always be this way.

You're probably an acquaintance man like me. I'm the guy who knows everyone but NO one in particular. When I DO make close friends, they tend to be people who are just like me - and it can be very intense. I tend to do what I can to pace it out more smoothly when that happens, I don't like losing people for silly reasons.

 

[sunshineforJesus]

I struggled with making friends alot growing up,but now that im older am finding it much easier to make them.However most of my friends are married,have kids,and full time jobs so getting together with them during the week doesnt usually happen.

 

[HisGraceAbounds]

it is just mine personal experience. but i think if you are someone who is socially awkward, simply going to chruch, bible study and introduce yourself is not going to cut it.

what is your experience?

I have social anxiety near to the point of agoraphobia. It takes me 5-10 minutes of 'warm up' in the car before I can go into a grocery store. I haven't been inside a church in years. I can't socialize as other people do. It's dumb luck that this lockdown has allowed me to work from home because I normally can't hold a job because of my neuroses.

Yes, it's super hard to make friends. It is for me.

Romance is even more difficult.

 

[philadelphos]

You're probably an acquaintance man like me. I'm the guy who knows everyone but NO one in particular. When I DO make close friends, they tend to be people who are just like me - and it can be very intense. I tend to do what I can to pace it out more smoothly when that happens, I don't like losing people for silly reasons.

'Forum' per se is an important factor. Time and place. - Many people are very willing to be friends IN the setting they frequent comfortably. The home, local area, workplace, church place, the spot, the club, the hang out place, 'the local' as we call pubs here. That's the pattern I've noticed with all my old friends. - I tend to be the proactive group leader type but often you have to let go and let people live their own lives, drift apart, and make new friends with others who are drifting towards you. The trouble is identifying these people!

 

[Smooth Jazz Fan]

I seam to enjoy my life as a loner.