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do you have reasons to dress modesty but not bible ones

Clarinetlover

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before I started wearing only skirts and covering my shoulders I came up with reasons other than the bible verses to explain why.

  • pants cause irritation for me
    not wearing pants allows better air circulation
    I have blemish scars and normal scars on my shoulders and I don't want to feel self conscious
    I rarely get hot now it has to get to like 85 degrees before I get hot

What are yours?:)
 

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Your thoughts are reasonable, I think. One might consider this further: If one is not interested in the Bible reasons for covering the body, what difference does it make, except what society expects? Of course, society today allows anything, but public decency is important for good moral and unifying reasons.

Consider that in our society we have always had formal dress, semi-formal, casual, and labor/work clothes. If it is not proper and decent to come before a dignitary or at a wedding, etc. in other than formal attire, then one might wonder why one would come before the Lord at the holiness of the Lord's Supper ---as many do today, in half-covered bodies, clothes with advertisements written on them, and other shocking attire to gain attention.

This is a bit off the original thought above about comfort clothes everyday, but it does speak of public decency which is being ignored in society, and I don't think it is good for a good society.
 
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Yes, I assumed that from your religious faith, but I also have been concerned about how professing Christians come to worship without regard to honor to God. I know full well that God looks on the heart, and not about our clothes, but real Christians need to honor Him ---"them that honor Me, I will honor", He said.

Clothing around home and in public is one thing, and coming before God in worship is quite another, as I mentioned before. In our day the "old paths" are being given up for careless walk, talk, behavior, and dress. This is just part of my overall concern about loose and reckless attitudes today.

I'll probably get a lot of objections by the looser type believers
 
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never trust my icon I don't belong in one denomination so I change it all the time into the ones that I agree with. And I can see that. I am always having people be all like well God never says that we need to dress modesty it is what is on the inside. To me it is what is on the inside but you have to reflect that on the outside and dressing modestly is the way I do that.
 
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never trust my icon I don't belong in one denomination so I change it all the time into the ones that I agree with. And I can see that. I am always having people be all like well God never says that we need to dress modesty it is what is on the inside. To me it is what is on the inside but you have to reflect that on the outside and dressing modestly is the way I do that.

such wisdom from someone so young :) you seem wiser than some I know many years older than you:thumbsup:
 
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Modesty for the record, isn't limited to not showing a lot of flesh or curves with tight clothing. Dressing up in expensive clothing in a situation that does not call for it would also be immodesty. If you're that person who always needs to stick out and be noticed, that is immodesty. This can be done with clothing, it can be done with boastful or other forms of speech, it can be done with intentional showing off in any way, no matter how subtle. If the thought of being a nondescript person in the crowd legitimately frightens you, you may have a problem with immodesty.

With all that in mind, any motives I would have to dress modestly outside of Biblical mandates are reduced to:

- Neck down, I'm ugly.
- It's significantly cheaper.
 
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Modesty for the record, isn't limited to not showing a lot of flesh or curves with tight clothing. Dressing up in expensive clothing in a situation that does not call for it would also be immodesty. If you're that person who always needs to stick out and be noticed, that is immodesty. This can be done with clothing, it can be done with boastful or other forms of speech, it can be done with intentional showing off in any way, no matter how subtle. If the thought of being a nondescript person in the crowd legitimately frightens you, you may have a problem with immodesty.

With all that in mind, any motives I would have to dress modestly outside of Biblical mandates are reduced to:

- Neck down, I'm ugly.
- It's significantly cheaper.

well ya cant argue the simple truth, but ya coulda been a bit more poetic ;)
 
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I strongly agree with modesty.

If women want to wear skirts to church, then great! But I don't think that wearing a skirt to church automatically creates reverence, just as for women to wear pants does not take away from reverence.

In the end the emphasis must be on the inward and spiritual.

Blessings.
 
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I usually wear pants rather than a skirt simply because I have trouble wearing high heels because of foot problems. Pants go better with oxfords and sandals. I do wear jewelry, nice scarves, and and I wouldn't consider that quite casual like jeans and sneakers or sweats, shorts, etc. It does bother me to see some wearing shorts or very short skirts to church but I try not to judge the book by its cover and realize everyone is unique. If someone wears a plunging neckline though I don't like to see that. It just seems immodest to me.
 
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I usually wear pants rather than a skirt simply because I have trouble wearing high heels because of foot problems. Pants go better with oxfords and sandals. I do wear jewelry, nice scarves, and and I wouldn't consider that quite casual like jeans and sneakers or sweats, shorts, etc. It does bother me to see some wearing shorts or very short skirts to church but I try not to judge the book by its cover and realize everyone is unique. If someone wears a plunging neckline though I don't like to see that. It just seems immodest to me.

I always try to not judge them. I don't wear heels because I am tall for my age and don't like towering over people. I forget about jewelry all the time.
 
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I was in one church (from birth and way too long) that demanded women wear dresses/skirts. I never felt modest in them. When I left, I immediately took all my skirts/dresses to Goodwill and bought pants. Finally, I felt properly covered.

However, I was morbidly obese. For my sixtieth birthday, I asked G-d for weight loss. I wondered then, "When the weight is gone, will I really still desire modesty, or will I flaunt it? Do I really desire modesty, or am I faking it -- just covering up the fat?" Well, by the time I turned 62, I had lost 100 pounds, and that question was answered. I guess I was really interested in modesty.

Now, I have lost 110 pounds, and the answer remains . . . not because of anything good in me but because G-d has implanted that in me.

At the same time, I recognize that this is my answer, not one I should look for in others. I dare not criticize anyone for not agreeing with me.
 
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My sisters, do not cause your brothers to stumble. That's why you should always dress modestly.

In fact there is no reason to dress is super mini skirts except to show off your bodies. Do not be desperate for men. You don't want those men that are after your body anyways.
 
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My sisters, do not cause your brothers to stumble. That's why you should always dress modestly.

In fact there is no reason to dress is super mini skirts except to show off your bodies. Do not be desperate for men. You don't want those men that are after your body anyways.

This is something LIKE what I wrote elsewhere here:
It's amazing that some people harass women about being modest, but I never read about men and modesty. Let's look at the two genders in pants, for example. Both men and women have similar body parts: hips, stomachs, thighs, knees, calves, lower legs, and ankles and feet coming out of the pants. We are the same! Except women's lower organs are tucked away, hidden. Further, women often even tend to sit with their legs together.

Men's items are, well, right there. External. Yet they have no inclination whatsoever to even consider modesty!! So, as for pants, who looks more modest in pants? Men or women? People talk about men having to avert their eyes, about women protecting men, about women have all the responsibility. No. That is ridiculous.

Men have responsibility for themselves, and they should not be so infantile as to pass the buck to women.

Do what is right before the L-rd G-d. He even told his priests what to wear. He did not tell the people, "Now, avert your eyes! He's going up!" No! He said that priests were not to ascend to the altar unless they were wearing breeches under their robes. Sounds to me like G-d sees it as personal responsibility, not something to pass on to someone else!

David danced naked before the L-rd. Did David get punished? No. The woman who looked at him, and criticized, was punished.

I recently spent most of a business meeting concentrating on keeping my eyes on the speaker's face, because he did not even consider his modesty in a Christian organization's meeting!

Take responsibility for yourself; don't attempt to pass your responsibility off to women!
 
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This is something LIKE what I wrote elsewhere here:
It's amazing that some people harass women about being modest, but I never read about men and modesty. Let's look at the two genders in pants, for example. Both men and women have similar body parts: hips, stomachs, thighs, knees, calves, lower legs, and ankles and feet coming out of the pants. We are the same! Except women's lower organs are tucked away, hidden. Further, women often even tend to sit with their legs together.

Men's items are, well, right there. External. Yet they have no inclination whatsoever to even consider modesty!! So, as for pants, who looks more modest in pants? Men or women? People talk about men having to avert their eyes, about women protecting men, about women have all the responsibility. No. That is ridiculous.

Men have responsibility for themselves, and they should not be so infantile as to pass the buck to women.

Do what is right before the L-rd G-d. He even told his priests what to wear. He did not tell the people, "Now, avert your eyes! He's going up!" No! He said that priests were not to ascend to the altar unless they were wearing breeches under their robes. Sounds to me like G-d sees it as personal responsibility, not something to pass on to someone else!

David danced naked before the L-rd. Did David get punished? No. The woman who looked at him, and criticized, was punished.

I recently spent most of a business meeting concentrating on keeping my eyes on the speaker's face, because he did not even consider his modesty in a Christian organization's meeting!

Take responsibility for yourself; don't attempt to pass your responsibility off to women!

Men cannot stop lustful thoughts when they see women in mini skirts. They will think "I want that!". Even if they stop it half a second later, it is too late. The lustful thought already happened.

I personally combat girls in mini skirts by looking at the faces of the girls only. I don't look at anything else. Trust me else the lust cannot be stopped.

BTW to clarify that 1/2 second thought isn't "I want sex, and here is what I think you will look like naked!" No that would be sick.

But the "I want that!" thought cannot be stopped. And that is lust.

I should "want" a girl because of her Godliness. I shouldn't want a girl just because she is "hot".
 
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Men cannot stop lustful thoughts when they see women in mini skirts. They will think "I want that!". Even if they stop it half a second later, it is too late. The lustful thought already happened.

I personally combat girls in mini skirts by looking at the faces of the girls only. I don't look at anything else. Trust me else the lust cannot be stopped.

BTW to clarify that 1/2 second thought isn't "I want sex, and here is what I think you will look like naked!" No that would be sick.

But the "I want that!" thought cannot be stopped. And that is lust.

I should "want" a girl because of her Godliness. I shouldn't want a girl just because she is "hot".

Amazing. Men have been using these very excuses for years -- and blaming women for their own thoughts! You have eaten into the lie you've been fed: that you are not responsible for your thoughts. I, personally, am fed up with this stuff. No where in the Bible do you read that women are responsible for men's thoughts! The whole idea is a lie out of hell. It is like the drivel fed to us that a murderer is not responsible for killing: the murderer's mommy did not put enough salt in the child's grits, or the parents forgot to buy a red bike on the 8th birthday.

The whole idea that women are responsible for a man's thoughts is what is "sick!" And preposterous!

And furthermore, you say you are a 31-year-old male. What in the WORLD do you want with a "girl"? You wrote that, not me! Look at your post! Now that IS Sick! Leave the girls to the boys! Seriously!

Do you seriously think women do not have issues with what they see? Believe me, we do. But we have learned to manage our thoughts, to do what is right before G-d, an d we have been taught that we not only have to take care of US, but we are also responsible for MEN! Again, preposterous.

Men who think this way need to grow up. They remind me of a neighbor I had as a teen.
 
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