Do you ever

[sunshine100]

Do you ever feel like just giving up all together with trying to find a really great person that will treat you right?Sometimes I feel like this and sometimes I think what is the use of trying anyway,do you ever feel this way too?

 

[.Mikha'el.]

I gave up eons ago.

 

[sunshine100]

I gave up eons ago.

I'm sorry to hear that,I know the feeling

 

[Handmaid for Jesus]

Do you ever feel like just giving up all together with trying to find a really great person that will treat you right?Sometimes I feel like this and sometimes I think what is the use of trying anyway,do you ever feel this way too?

I use to feel Like this but I sought the Lord. This is what he revealed.
1Cor. 2:9 But as it is written, Eye hath not seen, nor ear heard, neither have entered into the heart of man, the things which God hath prepared for them that love him.

 

[alsughasoughaiuyfygh]

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[JustSomeBloke]

Do you ever feel like just giving up all together with trying to find a really great person that will treat you right?

No. As the saying goes, 'Hope springs eternal'.

For various reasons I'm not actively looking at the moment, and I don't think that's the same as having totally given up.

 

[Niels]

In some ways I feel like I've given up, but I wouldn't say that I've given up completely. I'll probably always want to find a wife, and perhaps start a family if she's able and wants to. The problem is that we can only choose from what's out there. Unless a woman is attractive to me (this is subjective), single, childless, and pleasant to be around (this is also subjective), I'm not interested. There are nice women out there who meet the criteria, but the ones I meet are usually much older, much younger, already married, etc. This gets my hopes up that what I'm looking for is realistic, but I somehow haven't found her yet. I'm also spoiled by the fact that my female relatives are all decent people, which may set the bar unrealistically high in terms of pleasantly coexisting with someone. Settling isn't an option, so single I remain.

 

[sunshine100]

In some ways I feel like I've given up, but I wouldn't say that I've given up completely. I'll probably always want to find a wife, and perhaps start a family if she's able and wants to. The problem is that we can only choose from what's out there. Unless a woman is attractive to me (this is subjective), single, childless, and pleasant to be around (this is also subjective), I'm not interested. There are nice women out there who meet the criteria, but the ones I meet are usually much older, much younger, already married, etc. This gets my hopes up that what I'm looking for is realistic, but I somehow haven't found her yet. I'm also spoiled by the fact that my female relatives are all decent people, which may set the bar unrealistically high in terms of pleasantly coexisting with someone. Settling isn't an option, so single I remain.

I agree you should never settle

 

[( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)]

What I think is that it smells like crap in here. I need to change my cat's litter box.

On topic, however: I have felt like giving up. But my giving up hasn't looked like ceasing from trying to find somebody. (if that makes any sense)

 

[blackribbon]

Do you ever feel like just giving up all together with trying to find a really great person that will treat you right?Sometimes I feel like this and sometimes I think what is the use of trying anyway,do you ever feel this way too?

I have reached the point where I am assuming that I am to figure out a way to live a life worth living ... alone. I don't think that "searching for a mate" is ever a good way to find someone anyway. That can lead to the sense of desperation and make one more like to accept a person who is Mr/Ms Good Enough. If I am asked out, I won't likely turn someone down, but I am not wasting my time thinking about this. Our job as Christians is to serve God and be the best Christ-like person we can be. To worry and focus on finding a date/partner means that a hunk of our time is reserved for serving self. A single life isn't a waste of a life.

(PS I still have an occasional personal pity party but I don't allow my self to stay at the party very long. That is a waste of precious time.)

 

[sea5763]

I’m not currently trying right now. I’ve been single almost my entire life except for three months and I’m 28 now. I’ll probably try again in a little over a year after I’ve started my job. If my sister and brother didn’t plan on getting married and starting families I probably wouldn’t bother looking for a spouse ever cuz I don’t want to be alone. I like the idea of a romantic relationship with someone really special

 

[timewerx]

I'm 37 now and still not giving up.

Ironically, I did find a great person for me a few times through the years and we're mutually interested with each other. I just wasn't mature, nor ready to pursue the relationship. So it's either entirely my fault or fate.

 

[Mark_CB]

I'm not going to give up. For guys, 18-29 there are more single males. Its because females date older. But it gets easier as you get older. As much as I hate being a victim of the statistics (single 28 year old male), well that's life. We can't all "beat the odds". They are rather rigid.

 

[S.O.J.I.A.]

I pretty much have.

I still would desire to find someone but i'm ok with it never happening.

 

[Cm1989]

I've always known it would be difficult for me to find someone. I am not out going and more of an introvert so I don't socialize much. But my prayer has always been for the Lord to bring me the person he wants me to marry. I trust that God will work out the perfect circumstances because otherwise it is just not going to happen for me.

Plus if I give it to the Lord I don't have to worry about choosing wrong by trying too hard. I've settled to be content with whatever the Lord chooses for me. I do want a family one day though so I am still praying for marriage, but I can be happy either way. Single or married.

 

[sunshine100]

I've always known it would be difficult for me to find someone. I am not out going and more of an introvert so I don't socialize much. But my prayer has always been for the Lord to bring me the person he wants me to marry. I trust that God will work out the perfect circumstances because otherwise it is just not going to happen for me.

Plus if I give it to the Lord I don't have to worry about choosing wrong by trying too hard. I've settled to be content with whatever the Lord chooses for me. I do want a family one day though so I am still praying for marriage, but I can be happy either way. Single or married.

I can understand that I'm not out going either,but I think it is easier for me if someone starts talking to me first
instead of me talking to them first.

 

[JustSomeBloke]

I can understand that I'm not out going either,but I think it is easier for me if someone starts talking to me first
instead of me talking to them first.

There's nothing wrong with that approach, and no doubt it works for plenty of people, but if that's your plan you have to accept that your choice is limited to those who are willing not only to make a move, but choose you to make their move on. To put it another way, waiting for others to take the initiative can turn you into a bit of a 'passenger'. Of course, being an assertive 'driver' doesn't automatically mean you get what you desire, but it does open up more opportunities, and it helps filter the interested from the not-interested.

 

[sunshine100]

There's nothing wrong with that approach, and no doubt it works for plenty of people, but if that's your plan you have to accept that your choice is limited to those who are willing not only to make a move, but choose you to make their move on. To put it another way, waiting for others to take the initiative can turn you into a bit of a 'passenger'. Of course, being an assertive 'driver' doesn't automatically mean you get what you desire, but it does open up more opportunities, and it helps filter the interested from the not-interested.

I can understand that,in fact,I was going to go and sit with my crush at church,but sadly he was not there,so now I have to wait 2 weeks and just hope and pray he will be there.