Oh boy...where do I start?
First of all, I read both of Josh Harris' books. They are a waste of time and I'm glad I didn't spend the money to pay for them.
Some of the things that I really had a problem with keep sticking out in my mind whenever he or his books are mentioned. One of the things he talked about was waking up in the morning (we all know that guys wake up with erections). Well, he said that he had to get out of bed in the morning and ask for forgiveness because of that.
A natural occurence and he has to ask for forgiveness? I thought that was totally ridiculous and giving teen guys the WRONG idea about normalcy vs. sin.
The BIGGEST reason I found him to be a hypocrite was because he went on and on and on about sexual sin and not even THINKING about sex. Then, later on in his book, he details things he and his girlfriend would not do---in explicit detail. Some of the stuff he described could very easily lead a person to think about sex--which he said earlier on was a sin. So, he's knowingly leading people to sin (according to HIS WORDS)...sounds like a hypocrite to me.
And overall, I don't believe in courtship anyway. I don't believe there is anything wrong with a little intimacy (kissing, hugging, etc.) before you get married. In fact, I believe it's NECESSARY to build a strong relationship that will last thought the trials of marriage. I think time alone is also important (something Josh Harris thinks is a carnal sin). There are things that engaged couples NEED to discuss about their future together that they need privacy to discuss such things.
I just think his message is warped and way out in left field, and I think he's a hypocrite.
Read the book "I Gave Dating A Chance" instead. It teaches you how to set boundaries between yourselves vs. giving everything up.