Okay the title is a joke (and I hope it's non-offensive) but I think it's something we've probably all had to form a view on.
The definition of a white lie by Merriam-Webster is "a lie about a small or unimportant matter that someone tells to avoid hurting another."
Colossians 3:9 says "Do not lie to one another, seeing that you have stripped off the old self with its practices."
So what should we say if someone asks us something like "Do you like my new haircut?" which may not be a big thing in itself usually but still the person will probably feel hurt if we say that we don't?
Or should we pretend to like a present that someone gives us that we don't really like or should we be honest and just burst into tears or tell them to consult us first next time?
I tell a white lies quite easily but I'm aware that I also tell small lies just to make life easy sometimes so I wonder if telling white lies can spill over into telling more serious lies. Or are white lies simply prohibited along with all lies?
Does anyone have any thoughts on this?
You have to learn the art of truth-telling in all situations. And it is an art if you are to avoid lying without hurting someone's feelings.
Where concerns new haircuts, a new outfit, jewelry etc. you have to pick out something you do like about it, from the color to cut, and compliment that...
"I just love that color on you" or "wow, thats really slimming".. something that is true about whatever you're complimenting. This always works best if you notice first and offer a compliment instead of waiting for someone to fish for a compliment... waiting until asked always puts you on the defensive.
If your someone that doesn't notice when something is new, that means you don't find whatever it is that horrendous, because if it was truly horrendous you'd notice... this means there's something positive you can say, even if asked.
If a haircut makes a young woman look like a prepubescent boy, for instance, then you can say "that hair cut makes you look really young!" It 1.) Sounds complimentary and 2) you haven't lied!
Leave inconvenient truths to those who are closest to the person in question to deal with in an appropriate manner.
Granted if you are the person needing to deal with an inconvenient truth that's a whole different category of advice, because then it's how to do it without being insulting or hurtful. A woman who doesnt know how to dress herself, for instance, could be given the gift of a wardrobe stylist and a few grand for some new clothes... that will slingshot her into the right direction for dressing positively for her body type for many years to come while keeping her own sense of individuality without saying "hey, you look horrendous 98% of the time!"
Walking up to someone and speaking the truth as you see it is never helpful, but neither is outright lying.