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Now there are among you, some victims of awful abuse who are still suffering PTSD. I'm not including you.
The average Paul though, like the rest of us, who may have suffered some bullying in their life but managed to recover and lead semi-respectable lives. ( or even very respectable )
I'm thinking of one person in particular when I say this. he will recount the times people treated him badly in the past. He has all the sins of other people stored in his memory, never to delete. Yet there were times when his behaviour I remember, was not exemplary. And he was acting the bully or manipulator. Yet he has selective amnesia for these events. He only remembers the time when he was the victim.
I can do that too, I admit. Focus on times I was treated with contempt or just ignored. Yet there were times I ignored someone or teased them.
I think it is step 4 in AA, make a fearless moral inventory. This is a useful step for any of us to explore, and notice that our behaviour in the past was not always as great as we think. I don't mean we have to spend hours of self-loathing. Rather to come up with a balanced picture of our past behaviour and perhaps as a result feel more compassion for other sinners.
The average Paul though, like the rest of us, who may have suffered some bullying in their life but managed to recover and lead semi-respectable lives. ( or even very respectable )
I'm thinking of one person in particular when I say this. he will recount the times people treated him badly in the past. He has all the sins of other people stored in his memory, never to delete. Yet there were times when his behaviour I remember, was not exemplary. And he was acting the bully or manipulator. Yet he has selective amnesia for these events. He only remembers the time when he was the victim.
I can do that too, I admit. Focus on times I was treated with contempt or just ignored. Yet there were times I ignored someone or teased them.
I think it is step 4 in AA, make a fearless moral inventory. This is a useful step for any of us to explore, and notice that our behaviour in the past was not always as great as we think. I don't mean we have to spend hours of self-loathing. Rather to come up with a balanced picture of our past behaviour and perhaps as a result feel more compassion for other sinners.