Do Nothing

[Boxers1]

It still blows my mind that the key to coping with our horrible obsessive thoughts is to Do Nothing and let them happen...basically don't try to get rid of them, just get used to them and say "ok whatever" (even if you think you just went too far- you're still supposed to say "ok whatever." I tried for years to fight these thoughts, renounce them, pray over them etc....That just doesn't work for the OCDr. But doing NOTHING works. I find the paradox quite amazing from a psychological standpoint, but so HARD nonetheless to execute personally. So when I'm in church on Sunday nobody but me will know how many times I just had to say "ok whatever." So often it is my little secret that I rarely share unless I am talking on this forum. I am so grateful to all of you that I can tell you these things.
Boxers1

 

[Heavenheart81]

It really is hard to just say "whatever" it kills us to just let things go. I have a rough time, but it really does help.

 

[marcb]

You are right, Boxers1. I have really begun to do this and it works rather quickly to my surprise. I restarted my meds so I can actually have the fortitude to do this. I sometimes "bring them out," but am beginning to realize that whether they intentional or ocd is even irrelevant. The "theme" of the thoughts will speak for itself as to whether or not it is ocd.

This is truly a leap of faith. Jumping into this knowing that God will catch us, that He never leaves or forsakes us. Things get kinda crazy, but after a few times of really doing this, I started to realize that the thoughts are absurd, contrary to my beliefs, and do not damage my faith. This evening I found myself praying for others with a clear focus for the first time in a few days (I was upside down this week - thank God the meds are working quickly).

I know what you mean about it being a "secret." I've decided not to let others in on this (except for ocd'ers) because it doesn't make sense to them and they don't understand.