Do looks matter to you?

[pc_76]

I mentioned hyper masculinity earlier. The message encourages the pursuit of wealth and personal betterment and companionship afterward. Some are marriage minded and others are against it.



You can’t have masses of unattached people and socially isolated citizens and expect peace. The anger and frustration will come out eventually and when it does its rarely pretty.

I watched a video earlier with my daughter on women’s expectations. Some of the answers were sensible and others were unbelievable. They wanted their partners to earn a lot of money and were clueless about the rest. If most women think that way we’re headed for problems. Very few can meet it.

~bella

The current inflation and oncoming recession or depression can only exacerbate that issue.

Not all women have standards that ridiculous, but enough do that it makes it a statistically significant social issue.

 

[bèlla]

It's sad that it has come to that needing to be "well off" financially in order to even have companionship. Is the saying "money can't buy happiness" always necessarily true, especially in this day and age?

In respect to the “dating market” money buys opportunities and attention. People overlook a lot when money’s involved. Things they wouldn’t permit from another less endowed. Dating someone with means isn’t better. There’s pressure and demands no one admits. Fidelity and commitment are rarely discussed. Some are monogamous but the majority aren’t.

When you can have what you want it makes you less tolerant and willing to endure difficulties. Removing the problem is easier than resolving it. Expendability is always a factor. Don’t allow the glitz to blind you to the truth.

You don’t need money to have a partner. You need a sensible person willing to commit and invest in the relationship. If building wealth is the goal find someone doing the same. They’re more likely to see the value of togetherness than the ones wanting to be pampered.

Look for verbiage regarding legacy, mission, vision, etc. They’re wholly attuned to marriage and family and its furtherance. They’re not afraid of the journey.

~bella

 

[bèlla]

The current inflation and oncoming recession or depression can only exacerbate that issue.

True. But the adversity could force a shift as well. The ones they overlooked may become desirable as things tighten. The next two years will be hard.

Not all women have standards that ridiculous, but enough do that it makes it a statistically significant social issue.

They’re influenced by social media. It’s the Robin Leach effect. Lifestyles of the Rich and Famous.

~bella

 

[bèlla]

I wonder how much of the emphasis on these things comes from a lack of experience. Whether through themselves or through others. If they are familiar, then they should know better. There's nothing inherently wrong with wealth or being ultra-masculine but it isn't everything either. Although it can be a positive, those who make it their identity are boring at best and controlled by it at worst.

Content should be viewed through the appropriate lense with the understanding that profit is the end goal. The imagery and expressions are merely a persona. The public image that appeals to their demographic and enriches them. Aspirational content requires you to embody the ideal they crave. The more you do the greater your growth.

It isn’t wholly fictitious but there’s a 10X effect. Take Tony Robbins, Dale Carnegie and Grant Cardone and mix them together. That’s what you’re looking at in my opinion.

What I mostly see online are narcissists encouraging others to become more narcissistic.

Some of the advice is disparaging and treats women as objects. That isn’t the mindset we should develop or nurture as believers. But it appeals to those who are struggling. Becoming a Top G won’t make you special in Yahweh’s eyes.

While it's wise to have a strong foundation before building a relationship, wealth isn't necessary for that. If a woman likes a man, then things like that are secondary. And frankly, at the end of the day I'd rather be with a woman who wants me for me than for my bank account. Most of these advice-givers who complain that women are too shallow and materialistic simultaneously encourage shallowness and materialism themselves. And yes, they are complaining. Which is it? The hypocrisy is palpable, and probably scares away women they might otherwise get along with.

We’ve objectified one another to the point where our lone concern is fulfillment. Reducing someone to looks or a bank account is dehumanizing. There’s a person behind the smile and success. We’re focused on what they have rather than who they are. That’s the downside of happiness. You’re never satisfied. There’s always someone better.

There's no shortage of sociopaths and thieves in this world. Now that most of us are online, they're piped into our homes. There are also decent people out there. Lots of them. Sometimes, we need to put down our screens and touch grass or else we'll lose touch ourselves.

All of this matters to varying degrees, but if perspective is lost along the way the wrong attributes are emphasized. When that happens, society tends to suffer a result.

We’re enamored with grandeur and no longer appreciate the simple things. Life isn’t Instagram. Reality is best.

~bella

 

[Niels]

Content should be viewed through the appropriate lense with the understanding that profit is the end goal. The imagery and expressions are merely a persona. The public image that appeals to their demographic and enriches them. Aspirational content requires you to embody the ideal they crave. The more you do the greater your growth.

It isn’t wholly fictitious but there’s a 10X effect. Take Tony Robbins, Dale Carnegie and Grant Cardone and mix them together. That’s what you’re looking at in my opinion.

Appealing imagery and charismatic personas help sell a product, but it's advisable to remain sober minded about what we see. There's a difference between profit as the end goal vs. profit as one of many goals. Useful as a means to an end, but empty without something more substantial.

The 10x rule sounds about right. Reaching beyond while remaining within the realm of the possible and encouraging growth. Of course, it doesn't hurt that most of the people you mentioned are also charismatic and "all in" so to speak. Living the dream, or at least giving the impression of doing so, sells the dream.

Some of the advice is disparaging and treats women as objects. That isn’t the mindset we should develop or nurture as believers. But it appeals to those who are struggling. Becoming a Top G won’t make you special in Yahweh’s eyes.

We’ve objectified one another to the point where our lone concern is fulfillment. Reducing someone to looks or a bank account is dehumanizing. There’s a person behind the smile and success. We’re focused on what they have rather than who they are. That’s the downside of happiness. You’re never satisfied. There’s always someone better.

Agreed. I think we've objectified each other to the point of absurdity. To a degree that it becomes unappealing. The veil has lifted, we've seen the man or woman behind the curtain, leaving many with a dilemma. What do do after becoming disillusioned? I think that will become an increasingly common question. Then again, it's hard to become disillusioned when you're already aware that it's an illusion. If only critical thinking skills were more widely appreciated. Life is but a dream, to quote the children's song.

We’re enamored with grandeur and no longer appreciate the simple things. Life isn’t Instagram. Reality is best.

~bella

Simplicity is worth seeking. Not necessarily in the sense that complexity is bad (at least I hope not), but to help us see and appreciate things for what they are rather than what they're not. Life isn't Instagram, but it is what we make of it to a large degree.

 

[bèlla]

Appealing imagery and charismatic personas help sell a product, but it's advisable to remain sober minded about what we see. There's a difference between profit as the end goal vs. profit as one of many goals. Useful as a means to an end, but empty without something more substantial.

There’s two types of content creators. Those desiring to earn a living and those forging an empire. The latter group is usually more prominent and recognized as authorities in their subject. Some have big personalities and others are down to earth.

You can’t do this ethically without a measure of conscience and awareness of your impact on others. The projections titillate some and leave the rest feeling incompetent and discontented. There’s growing discussions regarding the effect of wealth and classism in content creation. Many are striving to emulate them without realizing the assistance they have behind the scenes. Martha Stewart had a similar effect. You’re chasing a dream that’s hard to materialize.

The 10x rule sounds about right. Reaching beyond while remaining within the realm of the possible and encouraging growth. Of course, it doesn't hurt that most of the people you mentioned are also charismatic and "all in" so to speak. Living the dream, or at least giving the impression of doing so, sells the dream.

They’re performers with the right mixture of persona and looks to amplify their message. I hate to mention high school but its a good analogy. The popular kids are front and center and everyone wants to be like them because they’re cool, successful, etc.

The biblical approach for believers with a platform requires a servant driven mindset. You’re there to make a difference and draw them closer to Yahweh through your work. I employ a combination of service (solve a problem), encouragement, entertainment and giving back (instruction).

It’s not about me. It’s what He’s doing through me for their betterment. That’s the goal.

Agreed. I think we've objectified each other to the point of absurdity. To a degree that it becomes unappealing. The veil has lifted, we've seen the man or woman behind the curtain, leaving many with a dilemma. What do do after becoming disillusioned? I think that will become an increasingly common question. Then again, it's hard to become disillusioned when you're already aware that it's an illusion. If only critical thinking skills were more widely appreciated. Life is but a dream, to quote the children's song.

The absence of critical thinking skills and deduction is frightening. The conclusions are emotive with a minor nod to reality. Working together is passé. We want the prize upfront. Like the vending machines we used to have. Feed it until you find the one you want. Without considering what lies beneath.

It’s more important to have a companion who loves and respects you who’s willing to do the work to create the life you both have in mind. It’s a shared experience. It isn’t necessary to start at the top. The journey is meaningful.

Simplicity is worth seeking. Not necessarily in the sense that complexity is bad (at least I hope not), but to help us see and appreciate things for what they are rather than what they're not. Life isn't Instagram, but it is what we make of it to a large degree.

I’m not opposed to a life that’s exciting and abundant in nice experiences. But the quiet moments are just as rich and I value them. I’m seeing a highlight reel and draw what’s needed and ignore the rest. That’s the best approach.

~bella

 

[Saucy]

There’s two types of content creators. Those desiring to earn a living and those forging an empire. The latter group is usually more prominent and recognized as authorities in their subject. Some have big personalities and others are down to earth.

You can’t do this ethically without a measure of conscience and awareness of your impact on others. The projections titillate some and leave the rest feeling incompetent and discontented. There’s growing discussions regarding the effect of wealth and classism in content creation. Many are striving to emulate them without realizing the assistance they have behind the scenes. Martha Stewart had a similar effect. You’re chasing a dream that’s hard to materialize.



They’re performers with the right mixture of persona and looks to amplify their message. I hate to mention high school but its a good analogy. The popular kids are front and center and everyone wants to be like them because they’re cool, successful, etc.

The biblical approach for believers with a platform requires a servant driven mindset. You’re there to make a difference and draw them closer to Yahweh through your work. I employ a combination of service (solve a problem), encouragement, entertainment and giving back (instruction).

It’s not about me. It’s what He’s doing through me for their betterment. That’s the goal.



The absence of critical thinking skills and deduction is frightening. The conclusions are emotive with a minor nod to reality. Working together is passé. We want the prize upfront. Like the vending machines we used to have. Feed it until you find the one you want. Without considering what lies beneath.

It’s more important to have a companion who loves and respects you who’s willing to do the work to create the life you both have in mind. It’s a shared experience. It isn’t necessary to start at the top. The journey is meaningful.



I’m not opposed to a life that’s exciting and abundant in nice experiences. But the quiet moments are just as rich and I value them. I’m seeing a highlight reel and draw what’s needed and ignore the rest. That’s the best approach.

~bella

Is there a balance? I'm making YouTube videos now for various reasons. I want to keep myself motivated, to help others on the same road, but also to build an empire from it. I have a friend who also had the surgery and doing videos, but he's vastly out-doing me in terms of subscribers. He's pushing 200 while I'm close to 50. I'm trying to crack the code of making content others want to see, which may or may not be stuff related to my journey. I'm not sure yet.

 

[bèlla]

Is there a balance? I'm making YouTube videos now for various reasons. I want to keep myself motivated, to help others on the same road, but also to build an empire from it. I have a friend who also had the surgery and doing videos, but he's vastly out-doing me in terms of subscribers. He's pushing 200 while I'm close to 50. I'm trying to crack the code of making content others want to see, which may or may not be stuff related to my journey. I'm not sure yet.

It’s best to tier social media and leverage your audience. Pinterest is easiest. It drives traffic to your site which helps you qualify for better ad networks. Once you’ve built a following you can consider a second medium. Instagram is popular and works well with YouTube.

Building your list is foremost. You can announce your presence on different platforms and gain followers easily. Your list is your bread and butter. They’re the ones you’re selling to. You created a channel but I advised you to make a tripwire. A quick win for your demographic that you sell for $9.97. Run the ad on Facebook or Instagram (depending on your niche). They give you credits. You don’t have to convert a lot to have earnings. And you’d build your list by doing so.

The slow approach is applicable for those with means who don’t require income. If you need money right now a tripwire is best. While its generating revenue you can focus on content and nurturing your audience. You need to know their pain points to draw them.

Select 4 problems related to your subject and the solutions you’d employ. Take the answer and stack it. Level 1, 2, 3 and so on. Each level has a requisite product. Level 1 is a gateway. The quick win from the tripwire. Level 2 is more involved and increases access. That’s usually a course. Level 3 is subscriptions or coaching. Level 4 is in person. A conference or event you’re hosting. Prices follow that scale.

Build your content around those topics. The more you address their pain points the faster you’ll grow. Balance is a factor when you’ve found success. You can’t allow it go to your head. Four tripwires with ten sales per day in a thirty day period is $12,000. Five will net you $5,982. That doesn’t include products, affiliate income, ad revenue or sponsorships. You can make a comfortable living if you do it strategically.

Here’s some information on building your channel.

~bella

 

[linux.poet]

Seeing I just told a financially unstable guy who is otherwise adorable to get a better job, I feel unqualified to comment on this discussion.

Children cost $17,000 a year per child to support. If he expects me to pay for that and not work himself, especially when I have to go through the bulk of pregnancy inconvenience, breastfeeding, and childcare responsibilities, he's history, bro.

The two of us are 60K + one child = 77K income a year on minimum. I expect to work as well, but he needs to support the entire household over the short term. So the issue is not just that women are greedy, but that the cost of living for a family has gone up. Not only that, I don't think I'm unreasonable. A college graduate can easily make 80K where I live.

 

[ThisIsMe123]

I mentioned hyper masculinity earlier. The message encourages the pursuit of wealth and personal betterment and companionship afterward. Some are marriage minded and others are against it.



You can’t have masses of unattached people and socially isolated citizens and expect peace. The anger and frustration will come out eventually and when it does its rarely pretty.

I watched a video earlier with my daughter on women’s expectations. Some of the answers were sensible and others were unbelievable. They wanted their partners to earn a lot of money and were clueless about the rest. If most women think that way we’re headed for problems. Very few can meet it.

~bella

Think I may have watched the same video....one unrealistic expectation is how a 20-something woman, was expecting a 20-something man to make 6 figures...when that's the kind of dollar figure an older man would make.

Basically, you'd have to live long enough to reach that kind of salary...that's where it's unrealistic.

I mean, what does a waitress bring to the table, where she can expect this kind of dollar figure?

 

[ThisIsMe123]

Seeing I just told a financially unstable guy who is otherwise adorable to get a better job, I feel unqualified to comment on this discussion.

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You should be okay with him being employed, yes? If he's happy and content in his current employment, then it shouldn't matter. Define "financially unstable". Is he in serious debt? I could see that being a problem.

Of course, we live in an era where most of the population is living beyond their means and putting everything in plastic...so...there's that.

Children cost $17,000 a year per child to support. If he expects me to pay for that and not work himself, especially when I have to go through the bulk of pregnancy inconvenience, breastfeeding, and childcare responsibilities, he's history, bro.

The two of us are 60K + one child = 77K income a year on minimum. I expect to work as well, but he needs to support the entire household over the short term. So the issue is not just that women are greedy, but that the cost of living for a family has gone up. Not only that, I don't think I'm unreasonable. A college graduate can easily make 80K where I live.

So you're currently in a marriage with this guy that's making equal as you? Or is this just a fictitious scenario. Or course, I don't want children, so it's moot. We're overpopulated anyways...so...

I've never had that kind of salary, I can dream though. lol

Sure, a college graduate can easily make 80K, but of course, being hired is another thing altogether. Someone may be unemployed for so long, as you're competing with other applicants. Hopefully, it's who you know that gets you in the door.

No offense, but there's just something cold and callous about this. It's more of a transactional marriage as opposed to a loving one, at least from my perspective.

There was this one Christian lady I was on a date with, and I swear I think she was looking for a guy for utilitarian reasons mostly. Like she could make use of him for around the home, as she mentioned she cannot handle the yard stuff or whatever things men work on. I found out through her roommate that as a woman pushing 50 that she was looking for an already retired guy (maybe even older) with a fat pension that can cover them BOTH.
Sadly, she even got a face lift.

And she has an adult, married daughter...so she has no kids at home...so there is no expectation for child support from the new man.

 

[LoveDivine]

There's no shortage of sociopaths and thieves in this world. Now that most of us are online, they're piped into our homes. There are also decent people out there. Lots of them. Sometimes, we need to put down our screens and touch grass or else we'll lose touch ourselves.

I couldn't agree more with this. There really is a blessing that comes with removing yourself from destructive influences or mindsets. A couple of years ago, I deleted my facebook account and removed myself from most online interactions (I still had some connection to others through private group chats). I also follow some art accounts (and share art on instagram). It was the best thing I could have done. I recently needed to create a new account to be able to message some close friends and family members (but I plan to keep it simple and strictly for messaging).

I don't think some realize how much negativity they absorb by constantly exposing themselves to wordly mindsets and beliefs. Social media is definitely a breeding ground for narcissism and competition (showing off and comparing our lives to others). Of course, there is more pressure now than ever to have the "perfect life," because we get bombarded with snapshots of the "perfect lives" of others daily. Even if you can remain steadfast to your own convictions and priorities, you still open yourself up to a lot of torment and unnecessary negativity by constantly reading/viewing secular ideas or wading through self-promoting posts/photos (social media). I think some here also have a very skewed perception of dating, because they are spending way too much time reading /listening to all these secular ideas about dating. In reality, if you follow God and seek his will for your own life, the majority of this won't matter, because you won't be looking for a partner that is living solely for this life. Most relationship and dating issues are the result of selfishness and our emphasis on having everything in this life.

I've even noticed that in the short time I've been active again on CF, how much negativity I needlessly absorbed by reading through these threads about the problems of dating, etc. It's not edifying and I'm definitely going to withdraw again soon. I just wanted to comment here that if you are frustrated with your own life, the best solution is to get off social media and online forums (or for a season).

 

[bèlla]

Think I may have watched the same video....one unrealistic expectation is how a 20-something woman, was expecting a 20-something man to make 6 figures...when that's the kind of dollar figure an older man would make.

Basically, you'd have to live long enough to reach that kind of salary...that's where it's unrealistic.

The issue with the women she polled was their ignorance of the demographic they desired and inability/unwillingness to address his needs. The conversation was self-focused and wholly disconnected from the realities of dating a high wage earner. If they engaged with them on a regular basis the answers would differ as would their expectations.

Given their age they’re addressing someone earning $300K or more per year. Employment is secondary. His primary concerning is self-care, personal attendance, social engagement, emotional support and home management. She makes life easier for him and runs things smoothly. That’s her job.

The more he makes the less likely he’ll encourage employment unless its a side project or something that won’t interfere with her responsibilities. He is her primary duty and children follow suit. Availability is important. If he travels often he may desire her company. You need a flexible schedule to make it work long-term.

There’s no one-size fits all for this. Depending on his work she may be more socially involved or required to devote time to community service or acquire a position within an organization on their board. That’s in addition to the aesthetic requirements, self-maintenance and personal enrichment. In a roundabout way you work for him. Your support enhances his prowess which benefits the pair financially.

They’re unlikely to have the lifestyle they’re envisioning. It will be comfortable but in all likelihood she’ll have an allowance and be expected to manage the household and their personal needs within the budget he sets. The relationship is egalitarian in principle but he leads nonetheless. He’ll welcome her input but the final decision is his. You need the right disposition to live that way. It isn’t for everyone.

I mean, what does a waitress bring to the table, where she can expect this kind of dollar figure?

Temperament is more important than employment. She needs the right combination of skills and characteristics to enhance his life and the willingness to refine or acquire the ones she lacks. Being her best is foremost.

~bella

 

[bèlla]

I've even noticed that in the short time I've been active again on CF, how much negativity I needlessly absorbed by reading through these threads about the problems of dating, etc. It's not edifying and I'm definitely going to withdraw again soon. I just wanted to comment here that if you are frustrated with your own life, the best solution is to get off social media and online forums (or for a season).

I think its counterproductive to devote too much energy focusing on problems. Acknowledgment is important but it must be balanced with action and accountability. Admitting the challenge is the first stage. We follow with honest admissions of the steps we’ve taken to resolve it, valuable feedback, adjustments where needed and someone holding us accountable through periodic discourse and support.

Wallowing creates a never ending loop of apathy that inevitably causes emotional unrest and depression. When we encounter challenges and find ourselves complaining or feeling morose we have to ask the question; What am I doing to combat it? You can’t gauge that emotionally. You have to make a logical assessment of what’s working and what needs to change.

The more you feed something the more it grows. That’s the downside of focusing on lack too much. It makes you miserable. Oftentimes the best solution is directing your attention elsewhere while working towards the goal you have in mind.

Seasonality is a powerful principle. When we apply it to ourselves we recognize right now isn’t forever. It’s a sliver of time. Enjoy your time away. God bless and keep you.

~bella

 

[Saucy]

It’s best to tier social media and leverage your audience. Pinterest is easiest. It drives traffic to your site which helps you qualify for better ad networks. Once you’ve built a following you can consider a second medium. Instagram is popular and works well with YouTube.

Building your list is foremost. You can announce your presence on different platforms and gain followers easily. Your list is your bread and butter. They’re the ones you’re selling to. You created a channel but I advised you to make a tripwire. A quick win for your demographic that you sell for $9.97. Run the ad on Facebook or Instagram (depending on your niche). They give you credits. You don’t have to convert a lot to have earnings. And you’d build your list by doing so.

The slow approach is applicable for those with means who don’t require income. If you need money right now a tripwire is best. While its generating revenue you can focus on content and nurturing your audience. You need to know their pain points to draw them.

Select 4 problems related to your subject and the solutions you’d employ. Take the answer and stack it. Level 1, 2, 3 and so on. Each level has a requisite product. Level 1 is a gateway. The quick win from the tripwire. Level 2 is more involved and increases access. That’s usually a course. Level 3 is subscriptions or coaching. Level 4 is in person. A conference or event you’re hosting. Prices follow that scale.

Build your content around those topics. The more you address their pain points the faster you’ll grow. Balance is a factor when you’ve found success. You can’t allow it go to your head. Four tripwires with ten sales per day in a thirty day period is $12,000. Five will net you $5,982. That doesn’t include products, affiliate income, ad revenue or sponsorships. You can make a comfortable living if you do it strategically.

Here’s some information on building your channel.

~bella

Thanks so much!

 

[MehGuy]

A lot of men know what they can & can't attract looks-wise. If you think you can attract a girl in her 20's, say it & go for it. Those of us who know we can't are fine w/ that & have therefore adjusted who we're attracted to.

A girl in her early 20s would be too young. Probably struggling financially & hasn't grown up yet. Do you really want that? I want a girl who's matured & is doing well financially b/c people struggling financially often have resentment towards people who aren't (in this case that'd be me). I'm 30 so cutoff would be 25 for me in terms of young. But you say 20s w/ nothing to say about who the girl actually is other than what she looks like.

I attract women in their early 20s. Although I don't think that is particularly amazing for a man in his early 30s. I'm pretty sure you can attract the same.

How old are you willing to go?

I don't mind immaturity depending on the context. Some of it can be cute and feminine. Personally, I don't care too much about how much she makes, as long as she works. I don't want a stay-at-home mother... at least long term. As far as a partner having resentment towards a partner who makes more than them... psychologically I think this is much more of an issue with a poor man being paired up with a well-off woman. If anything... a woman will love you more if you're the main provider.

 

[Sketcher]

I mentioned hyper masculinity earlier. The message encourages the pursuit of wealth and personal betterment and companionship afterward. Some are marriage minded and others are against it.



You can’t have masses of unattached people and socially isolated citizens and expect peace. The anger and frustration will come out eventually and when it does its rarely pretty.

I watched a video earlier with my daughter on women’s expectations. Some of the answers were sensible and others were unbelievable. They wanted their partners to earn a lot of money and were clueless about the rest. If most women think that way we’re headed for problems. Very few can meet it.

~bella

Think I may have watched the same video....one unrealistic expectation is how a 20-something woman, was expecting a 20-something man to make 6 figures...when that's the kind of dollar figure an older man would make.

Basically, you'd have to live long enough to reach that kind of salary...that's where it's unrealistic.

I mean, what does a waitress bring to the table, where she can expect this kind of dollar figure?

Was this on Courtney Ryan's channel, perchance?

 

[linux.poet]

So you're currently in a marriage with this guy that's making equal as you? Or is this just a fictitious scenario.

Fictitious scenario. This is the singles forum. I'm not married.

I'm dating someone currently, however.

Sure, a college graduate can easily make 80K, but of course, being hired is another thing altogether. Someone may be unemployed for so long, as you're competing with other applicants. Hopefully, it's who you know that gets you in the door.

No offense, but there's just something cold and callous about this. It's more of a transactional marriage as opposed to a loving one, at least from my perspective.

You make it sound like money is my only consideration. It's not. I just want to have children, or at least the opportunity to try for one. If you think that is evil, you can think that is evil all you want. I don't care.

The guy I'm dating wants to have children too, so that's our decision. In view of that, I'm just being financially realistic.

If it helps, I think 300k+ isn't necessary. Nor do I think that I can get someone making 300k+ to marry me. I'm not in that financial or relationship league. "Former abuse victim" tends to foster humility.

Also, the human population is already starting to stabilize, at least in Asia. Europe is already losing people, and China is losing them too. Long-term, as development of the world continues, the human population will decrease as robots take over the workforce and children become more and more expensive to produce. A child costs $18k in medical bills to birth and $17K a year after that to take care of, and birth control is $25 at Wal-Mart. To the heartless unbeliever, the choice is easy - no children, more convenience and pleasure.

I don't feel guilty for wanting to make a small contribution to the population under those conditions.

Temperament is more important than employment. She needs the right combination of skills and characteristics to enhance his life and the willingness to refine or acquire the ones she lacks. Being her best is foremost.

I agree with this. I naturally do this intuitively and instinctively with almost every man I meet that I am remotely interested in, and back when I was trying to avoid marriage I found this ability annoying. Hopefully in time I will be able to appreciate this aspect of my existence.

 

[bèlla]

Was this on Courtney Ryan's channel, perchance?

I think so. I don’t usually watch her but I wanted to hear their answers.

 

[Sketcher]

I think so. I don’t usually watch her but I wanted to hear their answers.

Yeah, I just watched that.

Their answers are just as deluded as the answers of much less respectable women on at least one much less respectable channel on the same topic. I was unpleasantly surprised because I wanted to give them the benefit of the doubt.