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What you were subjected to in your young life was not a healthy environment for any child. I am truly sorry that you and your siblings lived through this. What you are talking about is bullying and abusive. It is a deliberate act of destructive behaviors. Unfortunately it was your mother who gave these destructive people authority over you.It could be something as innocuous as, "You'd better behave!" But the thing is, it was her place to be saying that, not his. To further illustrate, in one particular case we were getting out of the car to go to a restaurant (the entire family) and on the way in, before anything had even happened, he took it on himself to preemptively bark at us, "Now, you kids had better behave while we're in here!" We had known that man for less than 24 hours. I had a definite feeling of, "Who are you, exactly?"
She would go on to live with him for two years, and over time, it became more and more obvious, he just liked pushing people around, that's all. I could see it right away, but she didn't listen to me because I was only 16 years old; what did I know? She scolded me for objecting. Told me, as I illustrated earlier in the thread, that telling kids to behave isn't exerting authority, dishing out punishments is, and she'll say something if he starts doing that. In the meantime, I'm supposed to shut up.
Within a week, she silently watched as he beat the living daylights out of my brother, then 15 years old. Just stood there watching him do it, and didn't say a thing.
Oh, and the year earlier, I had already earned the privilege of having my bedtime lifted. Because I had demonstrated that I could be responsible and get myself up for school in the morning, I earned the right to choose when I went to bed, rather than be sent at a set time. He revoked that, and put me back on an arbitrary bedtime, just because he could.
Most of the two years she lived with him, I was in the custody of my grandparents instead. It ended, not surprisingly, with domestic violence toward her. Funny, she'll let a man do whatever in the name of disciplining her children, and it isn't over until it gets to where he's hitting her too.
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