SirKenin
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E-beth... If your husband divorced you, and then slept with another woman, he violated the covenant and committed adultery. That frees you to remarry.E-beth said:First of all, this thread is going beyond the limits of reasonable debate. If you can't take someone disagrreing with you, then either don't read, put them on ignore, or go offline to be mad and rant.
Many years ago, I was a virgin bride of a Christian man. My college sweetheart. I was faithful to him throughout our marriage. He was not. For whatever reason, be it anger, mental illness, etc, he began to get abusive. First it was verbal, then emotional, then physical. About seven years ago, he became so angry that I accidently dropped a broom on his foot that he picked the broomstick up and popped me so many times in the head and stomache that I miscarried a baby I didn't even know I had. Still, I stayed with him, because "God hates divorce". So I suffered in silence, lying to my friends and family about how bruises came to be. My self-esteem was in the toilet. My prayers became, "dear Lord, please just let one of us DIE!"
What was my crime? I was faithful, I maintained my marriage covenant. My reward was a husband that not only beat me and screamed at me whenever life didn't go the way he wanted, but also one that cheated on me with prostitutes.
Finally he took me to divorce court. He didn't want to live with someone who had learned Tae Bo and who wouldn't forgive and forget like she had a billion times before.
I maintain that I am blameless in teh shattering of my marriage. And I cannot believe a God of love would want me to remain loveless and celibate my whole life because of a past marriage to someone so seeped in sin that no one else mattered.
Malachi 2
16 "I hate divorce," says the LORD God of Israel, "and I hate a man's covering himself [1] with violence as well as with his garment," says the LORD Almighty.
So guard yourself in your spirit, and do not break faith.
To me, this passage equates violence with being unfaithful. No one should have to live in a dangerous situation or remain loveless. God wants us to be happy, and in situations of abuse, I cannot see how God would consider a second chance at being loved as a sin. But sure, I can perfectly understand how God could command my ex husband to never remarry.
The parallel isn't there between your situation and a woman divorcing a man due to anything outside Jesus' and Paul's teaching and remarrying, I don't think.
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