barefeetonholyground
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My husband and I were both divorced before meeting one another. We were Christians at the time of our divorce and we are still following Christ now. As much as God hates divorce, he does permit it in very few circumstances. Otherwise, the remarriage is considered adulterous.
(1) One of those circumstances Jesus mentions in Matthew 19:8-9 and that is marital unfaithfulness. This is probably the most well-known cause for divorce within the church and I have even heard some pastors go as far as to say that it is the only Biblical grounds.
(2) Another one is departure of a non-believing spouse. Paul talks about this one in 1 Corinthians 7:15. Many of the Corinthians at the time were converted but their spouses weren't. Paul told them to live with their spouses as long as they allowed it, but if the unbelieving spouse was to leave, they were to let them go and they were no longer bound. I have been to a few churches that don't recognize this one, yet they believe that all Scripture is God-breathed and profitable (2 Timothy 3:16-17)
(3) Lastly, there is a case in Malachi where the Israelite men were divorcing their Hebrew wives and marrying pagans but doing treacherous things to them to get them to leave. I've seen many Pastors quote the first half of Malachi 2:16 "'I hate divorce' declares the Lord" but very few quote the second half of that verse, "for it covers oneself with violence." For me, and few other pastors, this is a case for marital abuse being reason to leave. My Pastor brother-in-law says he views abuse as a form of marital abandonment anyway.
In my husbands and my previous marriages, we both fall under two circumstances. In mine, my first husband skewed the Bible to where he believed that God wanted our marriage to fail and walked away from his faith and our marriage. He was also abusive to me emotionally, financially, and mentally. In his case, his ex wife would frequently hit him hoping he would hit back so she could get him arrested, would try to convince him to mix alcohol with his pain meds, and was eventually caught sleeping with another man. Our church is well aware of my prior marriage (I've been attending there for almost 25 years but he started attending with me when we began dating) and they're very supportive of our Biblically blessed second marriage for us both.
I don't know your situation, or your reason for your divorce, but I do know God and I know what he says about divorce and the sacred covenant of marriage. I pray that God will shed some light on your situation and should your desires of remaining single change, that God will bless that situation.
(1) One of those circumstances Jesus mentions in Matthew 19:8-9 and that is marital unfaithfulness. This is probably the most well-known cause for divorce within the church and I have even heard some pastors go as far as to say that it is the only Biblical grounds.
(2) Another one is departure of a non-believing spouse. Paul talks about this one in 1 Corinthians 7:15. Many of the Corinthians at the time were converted but their spouses weren't. Paul told them to live with their spouses as long as they allowed it, but if the unbelieving spouse was to leave, they were to let them go and they were no longer bound. I have been to a few churches that don't recognize this one, yet they believe that all Scripture is God-breathed and profitable (2 Timothy 3:16-17)
(3) Lastly, there is a case in Malachi where the Israelite men were divorcing their Hebrew wives and marrying pagans but doing treacherous things to them to get them to leave. I've seen many Pastors quote the first half of Malachi 2:16 "'I hate divorce' declares the Lord" but very few quote the second half of that verse, "for it covers oneself with violence." For me, and few other pastors, this is a case for marital abuse being reason to leave. My Pastor brother-in-law says he views abuse as a form of marital abandonment anyway.
In my husbands and my previous marriages, we both fall under two circumstances. In mine, my first husband skewed the Bible to where he believed that God wanted our marriage to fail and walked away from his faith and our marriage. He was also abusive to me emotionally, financially, and mentally. In his case, his ex wife would frequently hit him hoping he would hit back so she could get him arrested, would try to convince him to mix alcohol with his pain meds, and was eventually caught sleeping with another man. Our church is well aware of my prior marriage (I've been attending there for almost 25 years but he started attending with me when we began dating) and they're very supportive of our Biblically blessed second marriage for us both.
I don't know your situation, or your reason for your divorce, but I do know God and I know what he says about divorce and the sacred covenant of marriage. I pray that God will shed some light on your situation and should your desires of remaining single change, that God will bless that situation.
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