Divorce and remarriage

[Grafted In]

Well sir, at least your blunt about it. Please, if you have scriptures to refute, "Speak on."

Suppose you gather all portions of scripture that refer to divorce .
LooK them over carefully.
Now, can you honestly say that you could divorce your spouse knowing that anything not done in faith is sin?

 

[Grafted In]

Perhaps CF should add a subforum to help those who cast aside a spouse and are looking for a new one.

 

[ValleyGal]

My spouse and I are getting a divorce because he no longer wants to stay in the marriage. Unfortunately In the early stages of our separation I fell into adultery, repented because I knew it was wrong because I am still legally married, and am no longer seeing this person. I know divorce is allowed if one has been abandoned by their unbelieving spouse and they are free to marry again, but since I did commit adultery during separation am I no longer allowed to remarry in the future after the divorce?

First Cor. 7:8 addresses the UNmarried and the widows. That would be those who have been married and now are not, for whatever reason (he later addresses virgins, meaning those who have never been married, as a different category from the unmarried). First Cor 7:9 says that if people lack self control, they do not sin if they marry. First Cor 7:28 states that "If you marry, you have not sinned AND if a virgin marries, she has not sinned...." The "you" means those who have been married before and are no longer married, for whatever reason - he addresses virgins separately.

So no, you do not need to worry about getting married to someone else after divorce. First Cor 6 and 10 talk about how everything is permissible, but not everything is beneficial. And Romans 8 says "there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ." It does not mean that a person should go on sinning, but the truth is, none of us is without sin. That is why we so desperately need Jesus. When you live in the grace God so generously gives through Jesus, you will want to do whatever is beneficial, not just what is permissible. Sometimes marrying after divorce is beneficial to prevent lustful thoughts, wandering eyes, etc. Marrying after divorce may also be beneficial if you share a vision for ministry, or whatever... God himself said it is not good for man(kind) to live alone. There is no reason why divorce should condemn a person to loneliness and isolation for the rest of his or her life.

 

[Grafted In]

First Cor. 7:8 addresses the UNmarried and the widows. That would be those who have been married and now are not, for whatever reason (he later addresses virgins, meaning those who have never been married, as a different category from the unmarried). First Cor 7:9 says that if people lack self control, they do not sin if they marry. First Cor 7:28 states that "If you marry, you have not sinned

I disagree with your interpretation.

 

[98cwitr]

There is no reason why divorce should condemn a person to loneliness and isolation for the rest of his or her life.

But can you really be lonely and isolated if you truly have God with you?

 

[ValleyGal]

I disagree with your interpretation.

That's fine. I was addressing the OP.

 

[ValleyGal]

But can you really be lonely and isolated if you truly have God with you?

Yes. God created mankind in his image, and he created us for fellowship. We are meant to live in community, and primarily in family units. Otherwise he would not have created mankind with sexuality or longing for companionship.

 

[Dave-W]

But can you really be lonely and isolated if you truly have God with you?

No one who has ever lived had God with him as much as Adam. And yet God said "It is not good for the man to dwell alone." God understood that even His own infinite non-corporeal presence was insufficient for Adam's needs.

 

[98cwitr]

Yes. God created mankind in his image, and he created us for fellowship. We are meant to live in community, and primarily in family units. Otherwise he would not have created mankind with sexuality or longing for companionship.

No one who has ever lived had God with him as much as Adam. And yet God said "It is not good for the man to dwell alone." God understood that even His own infinite non-corporeal presence was insufficient for Adam's needs.

Matthew 19:10-13 New International Version (NIV)

10 The disciples said to him, “If this is the situation between a husband and wife, it is better not to marry.”

11 Jesus replied, “Not everyone can accept this word, but only those to whom it has been given. 12 For there are eunuchs who were born that way, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by others—and there are those who choose to live like eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. The one who can accept this should accept it.”

 

[Dave-W]

11 Jesus replied, “Not everyone can accept this word, but only those to whom it has been given.

And Paul said this about that: (read chapter for context)

1 Cor 7.7 Yet I wish that all men were even as I myself am. However, each man has his own gift** from God, one in this manner, and another in that.

** "Gift" in the Greek is Charisma - the same word he uses in chapter 12 to describe healings and prophesy.

IOW, some have this charismatic gift to be single. The rest of us do not.

 

[Blade]

My spouse and I are getting a divorce because he no longer wants to stay in the marriage. Unfortunately In the early stages of our separation I fell into adultery, repented because I knew it was wrong because I am still legally married, and am no longer seeing this person. I know divorce is allowed if one has been abandoned by their unbelieving spouse and they are free to marry again, but since I did commit adultery during separation am I no longer allowed to remarry in the future after the divorce?

There was this song.. talking to girls before marriage.. if you did it and wonder what to do.. RUN TO JESUS and HE will make you brand new. Asking about this will get you what each person feels thinks believes.

From what you say.. He left..yes you did sin yes . you did repent and to GOD.. it was as if you NEVER sinned. See He forgives and cleans you from ALL unrighteousness. And sis.. ASK the Father.. ask JESUS.. well HE IS SO REAL! He will give you a PEACE about it on what you should do. Now so many run to MAN and try to get the answer they WANT to hear. My wife believes in Jesus.. if she left. I would never get married again. Now if she was no believer and left then I could get married again. If I had SINNED before we were "set free?" .. repent and dont do that again..unless I was married.

But run to JESUS. Seek HIM and what HE says not what some man/woman says..not even me. Its what HE says thinks is what matters. But know this.. HE LOVES YOU! So much that He will say nothing until you speak from your heart. And He did not does not will not judge you. Nor does He condemn you ok? Yeah.. HE LOVES YOU! I dont care what you did or your spouse.. He loves you. This love is not like mans.. He really truly loves you ..up or down good or bad.. HE IS THERE! Still holing you.