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Yes. Unless one is hermaphroditic or trans-gendered in such a way as the choice has been made for them at birth.
This is the reason I stopped counseling. No one wants to hold them selves accountable to their own actions. It's always someone else's fault that they can not exhibit any self control.How do you reconcile addictions with free will?
Decisions really are more complicated than that though, because often we do not realistically imagine what the future will be like, and because we make that mistake of imagining that choosing one option will lead to a situation that is different than what it really leads to, we can become convinced that it is a comfortable decision to make. I have in mind for an example, Ariel Castro. When he made the decision to kidnap those people, he must have imagined a different future than what became real to him in the end, and what he imagined the outcome of the option he chose to be, caused him to think that he could live with those actions. In the end, when the real outcome of that decision impacted him, he found out that he actually couldn't "live with his actions", as you have put it.With every human being, we have to be able to reconcile our actions with ourselves. At the end of the day, we have to live with our actions.
Some are able to reconcile immoral acts and go through with them, others can not, because the pain of knowing what they had done, is to overwhelming for them to face.
I have meet a man that was attracted to padlocks. How they interlinked together, the colors of them, and the mix of key locks with combination locks. I believe attraction is partly choice, partly biological.Just as a note, those have nothing to do with sexual orientation, but rather a part of sex or gender, depending on the specifics.
I guess my edit didn't get there in time: do you mean the existence of the attraction or the action of having sex itself?
I do not know if I can readily discuss sexuality on this forum. Because somethings are sexual in nature and may be misconstrued.Do you know of any evidence for this belief, and if so, can you please reference it?
Decisions really are more complicated than that though, because often we do not realistically imagine what the future will be like, and because we make that mistake of imagining that choosing one option will lead to a situation that is different than what it really leads to, we can become convinced that it is a comfortable decision to make. I have in mind for an example, Ariel Castro. When he made the decision to kidnap those people, he must have imagined a different future than what became real to him in the end, and what he imagined the outcome of the option he chose to be, caused him to think that he could live with those actions. In the end, when the real outcome of that decision impacted him, he found out that he actually couldn't "live with his actions", as you have put it.
I have meet a man that was attracted to padlocks. How they interlinked together, the colors of them, and the mix of key locks with combination locks. I believe attraction is partly choice, partly biological.
I have meet a man that was attracted to padlocks. How they interlinked together, the colors of them, and the mix of key locks with combination locks. I believe attraction is partly choice, partly biological.
How do you reconcile addictions with free will? Did you think (in your role as a counsellor) that the man in your story could have simply willed himself out of that situation?This is the reason I stopped counseling. No one wants to hold them selves accountable to their own actions. It's always someone else's fault that they can not exhibit any self control.
For example, and the reason I quit, I had a guy that stole all his kids toys, pawned them, and stole the family car and sold it for crack; for the third time in a year.... and he comes into my office cussing out his wife asking me why she is leaving him. Really? You don't know?!!?!???!!!!!
What I believe about the way He created the world really is not based on any reliable knowledge, so I must admit it is all based on my imagination. However, since we agree that my perspective on the origins of the present state of the world is described in the book of Genesis, and that I draw conclusions about the truth based on that story, then I tend to view the origin of human civilisation in two most likely ways, according to that story:Ok, so since you're a Christian, I'm guessing that you believe your god - described as omniscient, omnipotent and omnibenevolent - created the universe. A universe in which free-willed people like I, and countless other people from all walks of life, never choose to molest children, thereby causing them suffering.
Since it's presumably possible for such a god to create everyone with the same trait as I - the inability to molest children - you can only conclude that this god most desires the suffering of children that are molested.
This is the reason I stopped counseling. No one wants to hold them selves accountable to their own actions. It's always someone else's fault that they can not exhibit any self control.
For example, and the reason I quit, I had a guy that stole all his kids toys, pawned them, and stole the family car and sold it for crack; for the third time in a year.... and he comes into my office cussing out his wife asking me why she is leaving him. Really? You don't know?!!?!???!!!!!
You can draw a straight line of that behaviour right through to omnivorous humans who do the same to animals, then take it further to vegetarians who do the same to plants. Please explain whether you think this is a bad view to take, and why.People that can rationalize it is ok to go through behaviors like an Ariel Castro, are not in the norm when it comes to psychology. He most likely, is one who is unable to see how his actions impact other people (a sociopath) and is able to convince himself, it is ok. He was feeding a selfish need, that needed to disregard normal amounts of empathy for others.
Ok, but can you just answer the question? Do you base your belief on evidence, and if so, can you please tell me where you have found that evidence? (Re: that sexual attraction is biological).I do not know if I can readily discuss sexuality on this forum. Because somethings are sexual in nature and may be misconstrued.
You can draw a straight line of that behaviour right through to omnivorous humans who do the same to animals, then take it further to vegetarians who do the same to plants. Please explain whether you think this is a bad view to take, and why.
I do. It is about being comfortable with the ideas. That can be developed, and it can get so intense that it can seem difficult to undevelop them. But there are guys who look like girls, and guys who are attracted to girls will find them attractive. It's suddenly not so attractive once they realise what they like is something they aren't comfortable with. What do you make of that?How is attraction choice?
Do you think people one day just choose to be heterosexual or homosexual?
I do. It is about being comfortable with the ideas. That can be developed, and it can get so intense that it can seem difficult to undevelop them. But there are guys who look like girls, and guys who are attracted to girls will find them attractive. It's suddenly not so attractive once they realise what they like is something they aren't comfortable with. What do you make of that?
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