Disliking someone negative in your life

[uneassy1]

There is a person in my life that I dislike. I can't help it. They have done some harsh things to me and continue to be a burden in my life. It's almost like I have no control. I want this person to get a life and stay out of mine and not be around me so much. But because they are family they tend to be around more often than I like.

Their negativity is really weighing down on me. Plus they are not christian and that makes me uneasy. Every time I see this person its a sence of uneasyness. They have put us through so much over the years, I just can't take anything else happening. I want a peaceful 2011.

 

[If Not For Grace]

Perhaps this person falls into what I call "emotional vampires" box.

Just because a person is "family" does not mean one has to tolerate unacceptable behaviors. You can set boundaries without condeming a person. Sometimes we need to re-define what "helping" a person is.

There are scriptures about shaking the dust off your feet & about not casting your pearls before swine too. Forgiveness has to do with letting go of hurt, not seeking to get even. Viewing the person in a more empathic light, leads us to an ability to "love" our "enemies", but that does not mean we have to be a doormat or a magic genie for anyone either.

Realizing that a person is selfish, does not mean you have to "hate/dislike" the person, you just need to realize they likely have been wounded and perhaps have issues with maybe "trust"-"can't depend on anybody but my self"-you can't change em, just realize that enviorments shape the carnal minded, after all they don't have a spiritual mind, how can they be spiritual.

Focus on your walk with God, & just be the vessel for His light-you will come to like people more & more as you walk with God-regardless of how they act. Forgive yourself as well.

Prayers-just asking the ? shows a willingless most people don't have. Good 4 U!

 

[Ceili]

I have family members that I call "cycsts",true sores in my side and both are Uncles. I choose to do family things outside of their circle. It moves me to think that family can actually make our lives hell at times but getting upset at them and having your life upset by all this does you no good. Stay on your own road in life! Remember that God works through us as well!

 

[swordsman]

There is a way to overcome disliking that person, but you're probably not going to like the answer:


PRAY for them...

praying for people like them will actually HEAL YOU.

Here are some bible verses that you might want to ponder over, and perhaps take these verses for what they're worth.


Mat 5:44
But I say, love your enemies! Bless those who curse you. Do good to those who hate you.Pray for those who persecute you!


Rom 12:14
Bless those who persecute you. Don't curse them; pray that God will bless them



Rom 12:20
Instead, "If your enemies are hungry, feed them. If they are thirsty, give them something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals of shame on their heads."


Rom 12:21
Don't let evil conquer you, but conquer evil by doing good.


1Peter 3:9
Don't repay evil for evil. Don't retaliate with insults when people insult you. Instead, pay them back with a blessing. That is what God has called you to do, and He will bless you for it.

God bless you

 

[Human Clay]

There is a way to overcome disliking that person, but you're probably not going to like the answer:


PRAY for them...

praying for people like them will actually HEAL YOU.

Here are some bible verses that you might want to ponder over, and perhaps take these verses for what they're worth.


Mat 5:44
But I say, love your enemies! Bless those who curse you. Do good to those who hate you.Pray for those who persecute you!


Rom 12:14
Bless those who persecute you. Don't curse them; pray that God will bless them



Rom 12:20
Instead, "If your enemies are hungry, feed them. If they are thirsty, give them something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals of shame on their heads."


Rom 12:21
Don't let evil conquer you, but conquer evil by doing good.


1Peter 3:9
Don't repay evil for evil. Don't retaliate with insults when people insult you. Instead, pay them back with a blessing. That is what God has called you to do, and He will bless you for it.

God bless you

Amen!!

Praying for our enemies is what Jesus would have us to do. It may not be the first thing we think to do in these situations, but with prayer and practice we can learn to forgive and pray for those who are against us.