Eye N Stl
Go to a Eastern Catholic Church (Melkite, Byzantine...) a few Sundays in a row. Tell me if you can ever picture someone playing a toe-tapper there. It just does not work. As an Eastern Christian, I can just not imagine that ever happening and I pray that it never will (actually I don't pray that because I take for granted that it never will happen... I shouldn't assume that and should probably, instead, pray that). Our entire identity is found/rooted in our Liturgy. Where we come from, who we are, what we believe and how we view God. Yes, Jesus is our best friend in some way, but that is truely an understatement. Thomas said "My Lord and my God", and bowed down to him and Mary Magdalene poured precious perfume on His feet. Campfires and Fellowship gatherings are great times to use this more toetappin' style you like. In fact I think that's great and there are many songs I love from the days when I was a Lutheran. But the Divine Liturgy is seen in the East as outside of time, where Heaven meets Earth. Does this happen at the contemporary Masses... no doubt, but the music is not conducive to allowing the people to realize this. The sense of Mystery is gone or at least diminished. I would also argue that the Service slowly (although unintentionally) becomes anthrocentric (surrounded around what WE like) and not theocentric. Just like we conform to the Church, we also conform to Her supreme expression of Faith, the Holy Mass. Sure, things change and are added over time.. but this had always been done very slowly and with much discernment of very holy people (SAINTS!)... and the style was always the consistent. While the Trinitine Mass (for example) is very different from the Melkite Liturgy, the style and the feeling of awe, is still there.
I know I am explaining things from an Orthodox point of view but this applies perfectly to the Eastern Catholic POV on the Liturgy and that of more "old school" Latin Catholics (for lack of a better word). So please don't take this as a bash on the RCC. Also, please understand that I do not question your sincerity in wishing to worship God with all of your heart. I HONESTLY do not doubt it for a moment.
In Christ,
James