I'm conflicted as to what to feel or approach this situation. What are your thoughts on interacting and building meaningful relationships with fellow Christians who come across as self righteous and narrow minded? (Eg denying most entertainment and amusement - making a rule for others that this should be the way in order to deny the flesh including only reading bible, Christian novel, only listening to Christian music, only watching Christian movies and sermons). If anyone disagrees or find them difficult to approach, then they say that they are separated from the world and being persecuted - so they rejoice in their suffering. But what I see is that they are just difficult people to approach, strict and off putting - I am surrounded by many (by circumstance) and I feel something in me that is uncomfortable and almost repressed. There is no true sense of freedom and joy even though theoretically I know that God is the source of joy. Is it just me being the worldly Christian who does not like the long list of rules and whole idea about cutting everything enjoyable out from our lives because every possible little thing can possibly become an idol? I feel suffocated and just want to move away ... is it just me or are these people really annoying??
If I disagree with them then I'm accused as being unrighteous and not set apart.. because they are the strong Christians who cut off all pleasure and fleshly desires so Im the ungodly or worldly Christian (it honestly feels like a monastery). There is no other way than to shut my mouth and appear to agree if I am to stay around but that means a huge step and change in my life.
Any relationship be it Christian or otherwise should never be suffocating. When these people shun you because you don't do it their way, a scripture comes to mind. Do not turn away the children. It would be best if that person put a rope and weight around their neck and cast themselves into the sea. Now that's a stated from Christ himself!! Our walk with God is individual and some are more mature in Christ than others but we are never to look down on the weak, the new borns etc. This is arrogance and is certainly not from God. We the church are to be as one.
It sounds to me that these people are trying to crucify the flesh themselves. If it were Christ and the Holy Spirit doing it, there would not be any pride. There is of course pride because they are shunning you away claiming you are not like them, watching tv, entertainment, having a beer. It's people like these that put people off Jesus Christ.
Whilst we are not to be part of the world, it doesn't mean we are on a different planet, just like these extremist Christians.
Here are a few pointers about Jesus that should paint a better picture of how we are meant to live our lives.
Jesus attended weddings and festivals. He sat with unbelievers and even had some wine. Never got drunk though, so there are limits to how much we drink And Weddings and festivals are entertaining.
Jesus never judged the hopeless sinners but came to set them free. It's why He hung around with them. The Christians your referring too sound a lot like the pharmacies to which Jesus rebuked them. Living holy and looking down on others is not what Christ did.
I am going somewhere with this so bear with me,
Ok, so we have tv. A lot of rubbish on it is worldly, sex, drugs, even satanic music etc, but there is absolutely nothing wrong with watching a documentary about let's say wildlife, or aincent history. There is nothing wrong with having a beer as long as you don't go over the limit to where your spirit is controlling you rather than the Holy Spirit. There is nothing wrong with having unbelieving friends. After all, they can see Christ living within you and might even come to Christ because of you.
" I have come for the sinners, not the righteous" would a person who wasn't ill call out for a doctor"?
What benefit would it be if all the Christians in the world stopped living daily lives and stopped being interactive with the lost?
I heard something a time ago and it made sense. Always ask yourself would God approve of my actions? Example watching inappropriate content He wouldn't, watching a programme about some volcano in Italy He wouldn't mind. Having a beer or two with a none believer He wouldn't mind, getting drunk and being flirtatious He would.
You can't wrap yourself up in a bubble and crucify the flesh ourselves, if that were the case, Jesus certainly did not need to die. This is what these people are doing. We should live a life that's pleasing to God, not interacting with the lost and most important, other believers is of no benefit to Gods kingdom. You are best to leave these people off to their own devises, and start walking in the Spirit a life for God.
Not all Christians are Gods children. Just because they believe in Jesus don't mean jack s,,t.
" Even the demons believe in Jesus and shudder."
" you will know them by their fruit"
" Satan mascarades as an angel of light"
So don't be upset that you need to walk away from such people, be happy that God gave you two legs and your running away from them.
God Bless, Jonathan