Different denominations?

[carine]

As I suppose most of the people using this christian site are single I was just wondering when looking for a future companion(husband /wife) how important if at all do people think it is that your future husband/wife comes from the same type of christian denomination. It sometimes seems to me that there is too much division within the body of Christ.

 

[Donny_B]

You would need to work out such issues as baptism (infant baptism, sprinkling, immersion) and what church your children will be brought up in. After marriage, it would be best if everyone in the family belongs to and attends the same church.

 

[klewlis]

It doesn't matter much to me which denomination he comes from, as long as his theology is sound.

The hitch is that eventually you both have to agree on one church, as Donny_B said.

 

[Grunt]

Most of the protestant denominations are really similar enough that it shouldn't be too hard too compromise or reach agreement. But if you start talking about something like a hardcore protestant and a hardcore catholic, you're probably going to have problems.

I personally have no interest in dating a catholic. I vehemently disagree with a number of their beliefs, and I would not go into a relationship expecting the girl to change for me.

 

[plum]

I am a protestant right now... who is looking into the Catholic Church. So my eyes are all OVER the place. My parents were "hardcore" Catholic and "hardcore" Protestant when they married and it did work out for quite a while... but it can be hard to keep the family unified together spiritually. I am personally grateful for the duality and can look at both sides with an open mind (too open sometimes I think!)...

I'd be open to whatever God has for you no matter what label they come under. God doesn't come under any labels we can imagine on this earth. So ask your mentors/peers for advice if someone comes along... and of course seek God like crazy in every relationship no matter what

 

[desi]

Its odd how different versions of Christians can make strife in a marriage.

 

[welshchick]

For me, the same denomination is important, but not the most important thing when looking for a husband. I'm presbyterian, and so am paedo-baptist and so a paedo-baptist husband would be preferable. at the end of the day, as long as we both can make a decision on the baptism and the church we'll attend, then it doesnt matter too much. i wouldn't not date a baptist just because of it or anything like that!

 

[Misnomer]

I don't much care what denomination my future spouse would be as long as we agreed on theology and could find a home church that we both enjoyed. Personally I was raised Baptist and now I go to a non-denominational church so he'd probably need to be closer to those two but who knows.

 

[Out of the Flames]

I personally have no interest in dating a catholic. I vehemently disagree with a number of their beliefs, and I would not go into a relationship expecting the girl to change for me.

I've gone a few dates with a Catholic man (he seems to be pretty flexible, though) and I have attended several Catholic church services with a friend I lived with in High School. I also vehemently disagree with a lot of their beliefs. Most of Catholicism strikes me as legalistic and more decorative than substantive.

My Catholic HS friend left her church for a non-denomination Christian church after she left home because she wasn't growing in her faith in the way I was. She always felt that she was only going through the motions. She met her hubby at my church and they both serve in numerous ministries there. There's no telling if she would have married him if she would have remained Catholic.

For me, as long as a man shares the same beliefs and has the same passionate love for God that I do, I don't see how that could create a problem.

 

[Donny_B]

I am also Presbyterian, having been baptized as an infant, and would want the same for my children, until they are old enough to make their own decisions in this regard. If she were a Baptist, hopefully I could persuade her (but it would be easier if she were Presbyterian).

We have the example of Billy Graham, a Baptist, who married Ruth, a Presbyterian, who was baptized as an infant. Their children were also baptized as infants.

 

[JoJoButterfly]

This question is a hard one for me for many reasons...
1) I don't know what denom I am. I see that all denoms are going to be wrong somehow and it irritates me when one denom says that they are the only way to get to heaven.
2) My parents are 2 different denoms Mom is catholic and dad is Luthern. I grew up going to 2 different churches, but my parents did agree that us kids were going to be raised mostly catholic and they are still happily married

I see advantages in staying in your denomination. But since I don't have a denomination its going to be difficult for me to do that... thus I'd just like to remind you that we all love the same God and Jesus for the same reasons. I wouldn't out rule someone that loves Jesus as much as you do just because of a small thing of denomination. There won't be denominations in heaven. But I agree with everyone else to make sure you work out the other details.. how to raise the children- in what church, baptism etc.

God Bless
JoJo

 

[eutychus]

I think it's very important, especially for the woman who will be led spiritually by her husband, to seek a man who shares the same doctrinal beliefs and theology. I'm SBC, and though a lot of my beliefs would line up with Reformed Baptists or maybe even Non-denom., I'd still feel uncomfortable dating somebody outside the same denomination. Then again, God does urge us to get out of our comfort zones...

 

[God_follower]

since im non-denom then it really wont bother me.

 

[Sketcher]

Me too. She just needs to share my beliefs, and I don't want her to change those beliefs for my sake.

 

[Danielle]

If God wants me to fall in love with someone of a different faith, then I am willing to do God's will. I am hard core Catholic, but if God wants me to fall in love with a hard core Baptist, I would do it. But just because I fall in love with this person doesn't mean I'm going to risk my relationship with God over it. But I would be willing to work for it if he would