Did you wait for marriage?

PolkaStripe · Dec 26, 2006

I didn't vote, because I am not yet married, though I hope someday to be. So far, I have abstained. However, i don't think there is anything wrong with holding hands or kisses as long as it's positive communication. I do say that I am not surprised by the number of people that did not wait, because that temptation is tough. It's only by the grace of God that I have not so far. And i pray everyday for his continuing grace in this department.

LittleladyinChrist · Dec 27, 2006

I regret not saving it for marriage as well. I have a 5 year old daughter now, and how can I teach her about purity, when I didnt do it myself.

arunma · Dec 27, 2006

Woah, I almost forgot that this thread is still around.

PolkaStripe said:
I didn't vote, because I am not yet married, though I hope someday to be. So far, I have abstained. However, i don't think there is anything wrong with holding hands or kisses as long as it's positive communication. I do say that I am not surprised by the number of people that did not wait, because that temptation is tough. It's only by the grace of God that I have not so far. And i pray everyday for his continuing grace in this department.

Personally I don't have any problem with the displays of affection you mentioned. If anyone asks, I'll say that kissing is sinful, but only to excuse the fact that I've never kissed anyone.

NeitherLifeNorDeath · Feb 19, 2007

bergie37 said:
Emotionally ready for it? I think you forgot the part in the Bible where it says it is wrong to have sex before marriage.

Well, I am not Christian and therefore don't necessarily follow the Bible. I made the choice of my own accord and I didn't regret it.

ravenlorre · Feb 19, 2007

We did not wait until we were married. We tried and actually made it through 3 years of dating; we were engaged when we gave in.

I hate to tell you all this - but I am very glad that we gave in - and this is why.

My wife had experienced terrible sexual abuse as a child - and she ended up suffering terrible post traumatic stress when we did have sex for the first time - it was horrible.

I am just glad that she started the long road to recovery (with lots of therapy) before we got married. I am also glad it did not happen on our honeymoon.

blessings

Sketcher · Feb 19, 2007

arunma said:
Woah, I almost forgot that this thread is still around.

Personally I don't have any problem with the displays of affection you mentioned. If anyone asks, I'll say that kissing is sinful, but only to excuse the fact that I've never kissed anyone.

Standard fundamentalist excuse for not knowing how to do something?

Adventistguy · Feb 19, 2007

Well, I am currently WAITING. I am vowed to not have sexual relations with a woman until I am married, because that's what God wants of me.

No Swansong · Feb 19, 2007

Adventistguy said:
Well, I am currently WAITING. I am vowed to not have sexual relations with a woman until I am married, because that's what God wants of me.

Stay with it Adventistguy, I don't think you will regret it.

The Princess Bride · Feb 19, 2007

Adventistguy said:
Well, I am currently WAITING. I am vowed to not have sexual relations with a woman until I am married, because that's what God wants of me.

I'm waiting too, and it isnt easy, but I believe God will reward it.

arunma · Feb 19, 2007

twistedsketch said:
Standard fundamentalist excuse for not knowing how to do something?

Yeah, more or less. But hey, it works.

arunma · Feb 19, 2007

NeitherLifeNorDeath said:
Well, I am not Christian and therefore don't necessarily follow the Bible. I made the choice of my own accord and I didn't regret it.

You do realize that you're not supposed to be posting here, right?

ravenlorre · Feb 20, 2007

You do realize that you're not supposed to be posting here, right?

Are non-fundamentalists not allowed on this thread?

\blessings

No Swansong · Feb 20, 2007

According to CF rule 1.4 non-fundamentalists may not debate here but may post fellowship posts. That is not the problem I think however since you are not debating. Please read and respond to the PM I sent to you yesterday.

MaidforHim · Feb 22, 2007

No, my husband and I did not wait. We were believers from childhood, but didn't know much about the Lord and weren't walking as Christians should. That situation alone caused us a great deal of grief and obstacles in our relationship.

The one thing I'd do over if I could is doing things God's way from the start. Fortuneatly for us we both eventually turned to God .

I am ever greatful to Jesus for not abandoning me/us and for leading us out of our own sinful ways and showing us a better life. We thought we were happy, but we had to ignore a lot of negative consequences in our life together to have that false sense of happiness.

Now that we are living for Christ and walking with Him we experience a deeper love, joy, contentment and happiness that neither of us ever knew existed before.

God is so good! Thank you Jesus!

MaidforHim · Feb 22, 2007

LittleladyinChrist said:
I regret not saving it for marriage as well. I have a 5 year old daughter now, and how can I teach her about purity, when I didnt do it myself.

You can teach her because you've been forgiven, you've recognized that God has a better way and you can teach His way to your little girl.

Not all of us have to learn the hardway

I know my children very well, one in the 20's and 2 teens and so far I know they are waiting. In fact they are quite proud to be doing so which is really cool. I never ever in all my life knew anyone like that. Now my kids talk about their friends who share that belief and it's just so awesome to me.

God can show you how to convey this message to your little girl successfully.

MaidforHim · Feb 22, 2007

jtbdad said:
Stay with it Adventistguy, I don't think you will regret it.

Adventist? Really? I know I will see some Adventist in heaven, no doubt there.

But, this is the religion I ran from, lots of family SDA, bad experience for me. Legalism etc.

Maybe a topic for another thread.

Argent · Feb 27, 2007

No, I did not.

No Swansong · Feb 27, 2007

MaidforHim said:
Adventist? Really? I know I will see some Adventist in heaven, no doubt there.

But, this is the religion I ran from, lots of family SDA, bad experience for me. Legalism etc.

Maybe a topic for another thread.

I wasn't encouraging him to stay adventist, nor was I discouraging him I was encouraging him to keep waiting for marriage before sex.

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