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[Renewme]

I wonder where the statement "In a Pickle" originated? Do you know?

btw, sounds interesting...the business. Do you find it difficult to keep yourself in check or to motivate yourself?

 

[Thomas1984]

I wonder where the statement "In a Pickle" originated? Do you know?

btw, sounds interesting...the business. Do you find it difficult to keep yourself in check or to motivate yourself?

According to Wikipedia, we can thank The Bard for that one: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/In_a_pickle

Motivation isn't a problem, it's just making sure that the pressure doesn't mount up, because then I can't work properly/tense up, and I can't afford that.

Deep breaths and calming thoughts, plus a little prayer for the strength to master this.

 

[Renewme]

lol. I have a book that details from where certain phrases come...but never knew that one. Shakespeare. Nice.

How did you get started in this business?

How do you think your 20's will progress? I haven't forgotten bout my answer.

Do you like theatre at all?

 

[covenantwmn]

What are you most interested in?

 

[JPPT1974]

What did you get for Christmas?

 

[Thomas1984]

lol. I have a book that details from where certain phrases come...but never knew that one. Shakespeare. Nice.

How did you get started in this business? Mainly reading about online self-employment, via e-bay shops, which lead my to Clickbank and domain investment/trading.

How do you think your 20's will progress? I haven't forgotten bout my answer. Thanks, I haven't forgotten about your answer either. I feel like I'm on the first few rungs of a ladder and I'm pointed in the right direstion, but the gravity is immense. If you know whatI mean. It depends where God leads me, but I'm pretty sure this is the way He wants me to go.

Do you like theatre at all? I do indeed. I'd love to see Phantom of the Opera sometime, as I've never seen it.

What are you most interested in? Hobbies? Reading about history, archaeology, cars/trucks/bikes, pretty much anything. My future and how to build some security and independence for myself. And hopefully meeting a woman to share it with; I do like women, there are some lovely examples here and there.

What did you get for Christmas? My two front teeth, which is exactly what I wanted. I got some books, 24 Day 5 DVD, some chocolate, socks, a wallet/pocketbook and some other things that escape my memory right now. Ooh, and an awesome Christmas dinner.

Sorry to take so long to reply.

 

[covenantwmn]

Our first airing of the new season of 24 is Sunday, how bout there? Will you watch by yourself or with family or friends? I can't wait!

 

[Thomas1984]

Our first airing of the new season of 24 is Sunday, how bout there? Will you watch by yourself or with family or friends? I can't wait!

I saw an advert for it on a cable channel (Sky), but unfortunately we don't have cable, so I'll just have to wait until it comes out on DVD.

Although, the flip-side is that I won't have to wait in agony to find out what happens next week.

Day 5 I watched by myself, but sometimes I watch with my mum or dad. I couldn't believe the last few hours of D5, and the ending, !

It just gets better.

 

[covenantwmn]

I saw an advert for it on a cable channel (Sky), but unfortunately we don't have cable, so I'll just have to wait until it comes out on DVD.

Although, the flip-side is that I won't have to wait in agony to find out what happens next week.

Day 5 I watched by myself, but sometimes I watch with my mum or dad. I couldn't believe the last few hours of D5, and the ending, !

It just gets better.

I didn't see the ending to 5! My daughter's moving back home, think that'll be our goal for Sat. night. And I know, when you're wondering how they can keep it interesting, wow, they never let you down!

What are you most fearful of?

How often do you think your gut feeling is correct? When can you remember that it was incorrect?

 

[Thomas1984]

I didn't see the ending to 5! My daughter's moving back home, think that'll be our goal for Sat. night. And I know, when you're wondering how they can keep it interesting, wow, they never let you down!

What are you most fearful of?

How often do you think your gut feeling is correct? When can you remember that it was incorrect?

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAGH! You didn't see the ending to Day 5?! Then it's a good thing I didn't tell you what happened. Phew. I don't know how far you've seen it, but like you said, the writers never miss a shot.

In terms of fear, I'd say failure in general. Whilst I was growing-up, I was under constant pressure to achieve at school, as my dad didn't. So that lead me to perfectionism, which slowed me down, and that in turn lead to more ridicule. It's lead me to be slightly withdrawn, in the past, not so much now, but it lingers.

Being with God makes it easier to see a way forward.

My gut feeling is usually pretty good, if I'm trying to cook something with a twist. However, when it comes to love, it floats like a lead balloon.:o

 

[covenantwmn]

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAGH! You didn't see the ending to Day 5?! Then it's a good thing I didn't tell you what happened. Phew. I don't know how far you've seen it, but like you said, the writers never miss a shot.

In terms of fear, I'd say failure in general. Whilst I was growing-up, I was under constant pressure to achieve at school, as my dad didn't. So that lead me to perfectionism, which slowed me down, and that in turn lead to more ridicule. It's lead me to be slightly withdrawn, in the past, not so much now, but it lingers.

Being with God makes it easier to see a way forward.

My gut feeling is usually pretty good, if I'm trying to cook something with a twist. However, when it comes to love, it floats like a lead balloon.:o

I'm so sorry you had that kind of pressure, my ex-husband was a lot that way, made it rough for the kids, you're right. Sounds like you've dealt with it well thus far, but still, sorry you have those hurts. And I agree, God always makes things better. LOL, the Lord will send you someone wonderful, you'll see.

Does public speaking frighten you? Have you had much experience with it?

[FONT=&quot]What sort of reaction do you have when you get very upset? [/FONT]

[FONT=&quot]Is it ever appropriate for someone to express anger in a physical way? If so, when and how?[/FONT]

 

[Thomas1984]

I'm so sorry you had that kind of pressure, my ex-husband was a lot that way, made it rough for the kids, you're right. Sounds like you've dealt with it well thus far, but still, sorry you have those hurts. And I agree, God always makes things better. LOL, the Lord will send you someone wonderful, you'll see.

Does public speaking frighten you? Have you had much experience with it?

[FONT=&quot]What sort of reaction do you have when you get very upset? [/FONT]

[FONT=&quot]Is it ever appropriate for someone to express anger in a physical way? If so, when and how?[/FONT]

I'm sorry to hear about your ex-husband, it's always sad when people project their own fears onto others in the form of criticism, it just destroys any chance of having a proper relationship of any kind. It's still a slight struggle at times, but it's something I can learn from too.

I'm also fairly certain that God will cross my path with someone special too; I think I'm doing a pretty good job of waiting patiently, if I do say so myself.

I'm quite happy to talk to people in any situation, I've done a little public speaking in my time and it's not as bad as I might've imagined. In the past I was quite timid at times, but I think I've learned to relax now. Mostly.

Unfortunately, I tend to keep my sorrow to myself, but I don't think I get very upset often. Other times, I just keep my mouth shut and get on with life.

As for anger, I feel there are times when anger needs to expressed physically, although in the scenario I'm thinking of, you might not call it anger. It might be a different emotion or thought pattern.

Basically I'm talking about anytime when someone in is grave danger. If I'm out with friends or family, it's sensible to keep my mind open to possible threats posed by people around us. It could be something innocent like a vehicle manuevering near us, in which case you'd just make sure everyone was out of harms way.

However, if it's late at night or the area you're walking through is enclosed, possibly darkened, then their would be a greater need for caution or situational awareness, as some might call it. When presented with a strong threat such as physical violence or a rape attempt, then I would support the use of any reasonable resistance.

So you could say that yes, I'd be angry, and yes, I'd be expressing my anger physically.

Carrying a weapon with intent to harm is quite a serious crime in England, even if he motive is self-defence, but a 18-inch maglight isn't a weapon, it's a torch. If in all the commotion, it happened to strike the attacker, then in legal terms you've got a stronger defence (compared to carrying a bladed weapon)

Obviously carrying a torch on your person on a bright, sunny day, might not be as explainable as having one on a cold dark, winter night, so common sense should be exercised.

It should also be kept in mind that the best way to stay safe, is to literally avoid trouble. Stay away from places where an attack would be more likely etc. Unfortunately, that's not always possible.

If you're refering to an individual violently abusing another person or animal, then I'd say no, it's not acceptable. Mental and emotional abuse can be just as soul-destroying, but that's a different subject altogether.

So, in short, sometimes. I'd have to know the facts about each occurance though, so it's probably a good thing I'm not a lawyer.

[bible]
Matthew 10:16 ....be as cunning as snakes, as innocent as doves
[/bible]

That's my basis for most of what I said here, but that verse doesn't directly deal with anger, so that's something else I've got to learn.

 

[covenantwmn]

I think you answered those very well, and I agree on the anger one. Here's more, lol.

How do typically handle the trauma from a big loss whether it is from the death of a loved one, getting fired or some other big disappointment?

[FONT=&quot]What is your typical reaction when someone criticizes you?[/FONT]

[FONT=&quot]About what things are you most selfish? [/FONT]

 

[Thomas1984]

I think you answered those very well, and I agree on the anger one. Here's more, lol.

How do you typically handle the trauma from a big loss whether it is from the death of a loved one, getting fired or some other big disappointment?

[FONT=&quot]What is your typical reaction when someone criticizes you?[/FONT]

[FONT=&quot]About what things are you most selfish? [/FONT]

With death, it sometimes creeps into my thoughts unexpectedly, but when it happens I don't feel completely awful, just sad. My aunty lost her first child at 8 weeks, he was very ill with cystic fibrosis from birth. I got to see him once or twice and he was lovely, but when we finally got news of his death, I wasn't really emotional to any degree. It's not that I didn't care, of course, but I'm not sure how else to put it.

I was a bit younger when my grandma died and the worst thing about that was just the fact that I wouldn't be able to go her house anymore and enjoy her company and her cooking, which was exceptional.

In regards to criticism, it depends in the way it's offered. If someone older and wiser than me offers advice regarding something I've said or done, then I'll take heed. I've learned recently that most people change significantly between their early to late 20's, so that's something I'm keeping in mind when responding to conversations here at CF. If it's a general put-down, my reaction depends on the person who's criticising me.

I can be quite selfish with information about myself, mainly due to a subconcious fear of personality criticism, so when first getting to know someone, I can seem rather quiet.

 

[covenantwmn]

What feeling do you have the most difficulty controlling?

[FONT=&quot]What feeling do you have the most difficulty expressing?[/FONT]

 

[JPPT1974]

I just want you to know that you really
Give good answers my friend!

 

[JPPT1974]

Any weekend plans for you?

 

[Thomas1984]

What feeling do you have the most difficulty controlling?

[FONT=&quot]What feeling do you have the most difficulty expressing?[/FONT]

Ohhh, that's tough. I often have "worst-case-scenario's" floating around in my head and I think it stems from not letting myself be happy. But it comes and goes, so maybe it's nothing to be concerned abut.

As for expression, sometimes I feel incapable of expressing my need for assistance. I fairly certain it's a habit formed by feeling that there was no-one to ask for help.

I just want you to know that you really
Give good answers my friend!

Thanks for saying so, it means a lot to me.

Any weekend plans for you?

Not so far, but there's always something to be done.

 

[JPPT1974]

Do you use swords in real life
As evident in your CF character!

 

[Thomas1984]

Do you use swords in real life
As evident in your CF character!

No, I just thought they complimented my outfit. Plus I couldn't afford what I wanted, so the sai were a good second choice.

I was going for Matrix-esque look.

Cor, listen to me, don't I sound metro.