Whoever reads this post, i will be sincerely grateful
Hey everyone, i am 18 years old and for the last 15 years lived in a very abusive household which took its toll on me and has given me depression, anxiety, loss of confidence and other issues. I messed around with hard drugs for some time and it made my mind and stability go into despair.
I came to Christ about 5 months ago, when i first became saved it was incredible, and i was in close fellowship with Him for about 2 weeks. My drug withdrawls have been removed and my love for people was increasing. God helped me with many things
Since then my faith has been very shaky, ups and downs, sinning & repenting, sinning & repenting and so on. I feel the main reason is im still living in sin, trying to convince myself it is okay.
Me and my girlfriend have been together for 10 months and have been sexually active before i became a Christian. When i became a Christian i said we have to stop sex. However we haven't stopped other sexual activity, i fear to ban this as she said she needs it to 'stay close' and 'satisfied' and that she thinks it might feel weird if we left it to marriage. She is not a Christian and doesn't have the insight that i do on my it is beneficial to keep these things till marriage.
I love her with absolutely all of my heart and do not dare risk our relationship by stopping all sexual activity, i know how she feels being a non-Christian and relying on that physical part of the relationship.
However ultimately, i feel this weight on my shoulders every time we go to do something intimate, i know deep down that the Bible does not condone it, i also love God with all my heart and know that His Word is the ultimate Truth and it cannot be ignored.
After we do things my anxiety and depression gets worse, as i feel myself distancing from God and his protection is not over me as before.
Im completely torn between 2 people, and theres absolutely no way in my mind that i can lose either of these, God and my girlfriend are who have bought me a long way since my drug days and i cannot risk either of them.
The only rational solution that comes to my head is to help her become Christian, but she says im too pressurising and she is not ready, and others say it is completely wrong to impose my belief on her.
Some sound Christian advice is what im after, and a prayer would be great. Many thanks brothers and sisters. God bless x
Hey everyone, i am 18 years old and for the last 15 years lived in a very abusive household which took its toll on me and has given me depression, anxiety, loss of confidence and other issues. I messed around with hard drugs for some time and it made my mind and stability go into despair.
I came to Christ about 5 months ago, when i first became saved it was incredible, and i was in close fellowship with Him for about 2 weeks. My drug withdrawls have been removed and my love for people was increasing. God helped me with many things
Since then my faith has been very shaky, ups and downs, sinning & repenting, sinning & repenting and so on. I feel the main reason is im still living in sin, trying to convince myself it is okay.
Me and my girlfriend have been together for 10 months and have been sexually active before i became a Christian. When i became a Christian i said we have to stop sex. However we haven't stopped other sexual activity, i fear to ban this as she said she needs it to 'stay close' and 'satisfied' and that she thinks it might feel weird if we left it to marriage. She is not a Christian and doesn't have the insight that i do on my it is beneficial to keep these things till marriage.
I love her with absolutely all of my heart and do not dare risk our relationship by stopping all sexual activity, i know how she feels being a non-Christian and relying on that physical part of the relationship.
However ultimately, i feel this weight on my shoulders every time we go to do something intimate, i know deep down that the Bible does not condone it, i also love God with all my heart and know that His Word is the ultimate Truth and it cannot be ignored.
After we do things my anxiety and depression gets worse, as i feel myself distancing from God and his protection is not over me as before.
Im completely torn between 2 people, and theres absolutely no way in my mind that i can lose either of these, God and my girlfriend are who have bought me a long way since my drug days and i cannot risk either of them.
The only rational solution that comes to my head is to help her become Christian, but she says im too pressurising and she is not ready, and others say it is completely wrong to impose my belief on her.
Some sound Christian advice is what im after, and a prayer would be great. Many thanks brothers and sisters. God bless x
