Depression Support

[Restoredsoul]

Yes; they live about half an hour away from me. I get along alright with her, or I did before they started going out. She's been one of the assistant swim coaches for the past two years, so I knew her when they started going out. Not that I had even the slightest involvement in getting them together; I was flabbergasted when I found out. She didn't seem like the sort of person he'd like. I guess I could try that but I wouldn't know how to start now that the swim season is over... especially since I wasn't exactly nice to her this past season; I consider her to blame, in part, for the whole mess with Trevor.

Are you angry with your brother for having a relationship with her? You can start getting to know her a bit better i guess - i mean as your borther's gf not your swim coach. Have you told your borther how you feel about things? Have you had a chance to see him alone so you can talk through these issues?

Rs xxx

 

[Eponine]

Are you angry with your brother for having a relationship with her? You can start getting to know her a bit better i guess - i mean as your borther's gf not your swim coach. Have you told your borther how you feel about things? Have you had a chance to see him alone so you can talk through these issues?

Rs xxx

No. At least, not directly. I'm mad at him because since he took up with her he has been virtually ignoring our family. I've tried to talk to him but didn't get very far.

 

[Restoredsoul]

No. At least, not directly. I'm mad at him because since he took up with her he has been virtually ignoring our family. I've tried to talk to him but didn't get very far.

Do you feel it is a conversation you could have again? Some couples do become very insular and cannot see what they are like. Did you have a good relationship with him before their relationship?

Hugs
Rs xxx

 

[Eponine]

Do you feel it is a conversation you could have again? Some couples do become very insular and cannot see what they are like. Did you have a good relationship with him before their relationship?

Hugs
Rs xxx

*Nods sadly* I did. That's what's so hard about it. He's in Hawaii right now... planned a vacation with her to Hawaii right through the middle of Father's Day, the so-and-so. And he just went there in March!!!!!! I could try talking to him again when he gets back if I get the chance.

 

[snowy27]

Does anyone have some thoughts on whether or not to tell people about your depression? I'm in two minds about talking about my illness to family and friends. On one hand I want them to understand why I haven't been myself sometimes. On the other hand I don't want them to think that me being depressed is any kind of failure on their part. And I don't want them to think I am making excuses or am weak. I know depression is not a sign of weakness but I'm not sure other people will see it that way. The last time I told my closest friend I was taking medication for depression she told me to stop taking it because I may become addicted. I don't believe my medication is addictive and in my opinion although she means well, she may not understand depression as an illness and why medication is helpful for me. Its really a tough call. Another situation is whether or not to tell my employer and school teachers. One of the symptoms I have experienced is a lack of concentration. I could see over the past couple of months one of my teachers was more than a little annoyed that I didn't remember some of the things she said. It would be nice to be able to explain why, but I don't want her to think I am in some way incapable because of my illness.

 

[Restoredsoul]

hey laurelin - talking to your brother seems the best option - on his own though just the two of you

Snowy - hmm... i don't know what's best -some people have very strange views on depression and may not be supportive - but if it is affecting your school life then maybe finding someone you can talk to - a tutor or something?

it is good to have people you can talk to about it but not everyone will be supportive and so you need ot think about who you want to tell - or you need to be prepared for some negativity - i don't know why it is but dperession is difficult for some people to understand.

Hugs
RS xxx

 

[Eponine]

hey laurelin - talking to your brother seems the best option - on his own though just the two of you

Snowy - hmm... i don't know what's best -some people have very strange views on depression and may not be supportive - but if it is affecting your school life then maybe finding someone you can talk to - a tutor or something?

it is good to have people you can talk to about it but not everyone will be supportive and so you need ot think about who you want to tell - or you need to be prepared for some negativity - i don't know why it is but dperession is difficult for some people to understand.

Hugs
RS xxx

*Shrugs* I did get to talk to him today (He and I are both currently working in the tech department at my school, though he'll be leaving for South Africa Monday and starting a new job up in Los Angeles when he gets back), but not about that specifically. He did tell me all about what he did on the trip, though, which I appreciated. Just getting to talk to him at all makes my whole week, and besides having talked to him today he'll be home for a while tomorrow and I'm also going to be at an informal farewell lunch the tech department is holding for him. 3 times in 4 days... the most often I've seen him since the last time Tara was house-sitting, which was a couple months ago. It'll have to last me the whole month he'll be in South Africa.

 

[pokeyliz14]

Just sad. All my high school friends are already starting to leave for college and we're all slowly drifting away from eachother. I don't know what to do how to feel. It's so sad and I just want to cry... for a long long time.

 

[Eponine]

Just sad. All my high school friends are already starting to leave for college and we're all slowly drifting away from eachother. I don't know what to do how to feel. It's so sad and I just want to cry... for a long long time.

I know the feeling. Although I'm only a sophomore and won't have to deal with my friends drifting apart for a couple more years I'm facing the same thing with my family right now... you may have noticed my discussion with RS about my brother Trevor, and my half-brother Paul is moving to Colorado. Although Trevor still lives in the area, as does my half-sister Carolyn, we don't see them very often, so the family is definitely drifting apart and it makes me want to cry too.

 

[LJSGM]

Hello everyone!

"Blessed are the poor in spirit,
for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
Blessed are those who mourn,
for they will be comforted.
Blessed are the meek,
for they will inherit the earth."

 

[Restoredsoul]

I know the feeling. Although I'm only a sophomore and won't have to deal with my friends drifting apart for a couple more years I'm facing the same thing with my family right now... you may have noticed my discussion with RS about my brother Trevor, and my half-brother Paul is moving to Colorado. Although Trevor still lives in the area, as does my half-sister Carolyn, we don't see them very often, so the family is definitely drifting apart and it makes me want to cry too.

hey lovelies all i can say is that with your friends it does get easier and with your family - well i had period s of being distant from mine then as we all got older we strated to see each other more - it's hard i know it but it will improve with time

Rs xxx

 

[AnointedPoetess]

Guys.. I've been w/o my meds since last thurs or fri and since then i've been going downhill.. very moody, emotional, defensive, angry, thoughts of suicide... i just dont know how to cope anymore.. ugh..

 

[Julianne]

I know how you feel, I've been off my meds before and went a little bit downhill.

I'm here if you need a shoulder to lean on.

 

[AnointedPoetess]

I know how you feel, I've been off my meds before and went a little bit downhill.

I'm here if you need a shoulder to lean on.

Happy belated bday!! i'm glad theres some1 else who understands.. i feel like im spinnin' outta control.. its been really tough.. thanks 4 being here for me..

 

[newyorknewyork]

hi peeps

i know i haven't been around for awhile.....

ive had a lot on my plate

some days are really hard to get through

I am listening to this wonderful song right now. I want to share it with you because it is so AWESOME!! It's called "Praise You in This Storm" by Casting Crowns. Check it out!!!

I was feeling suicidal last night. That is the absolute worst feeling in the world. I HATE feeling like that. Because deep down, even when I feel like that, there is almost always a teeny tiny little part of me that doesn't want to take my life even though the devil is screaming at me to kill myself!

things are really hard at the moment.

I'm finding this book helpful when I struggle to read the Bible "His Princess" by Sheri Rose SHephard

It's lots of love letters from Jesus to you and each letter is made up of heaps and heaps of Bible verses. I absolutely love that book. Its *amazing* and very encouraging!

I'm seeing a psychologist at the moment but I just wish I could see her everyday. I'm so sick of this crap! I'm so sick of feeling so broken and hurt and alone and worthless and fearful and rejected. I feel so down. I try to pray little prays like "please help me Jesus!" Sometimes when I'm feeling so incredibly overwhelmed that's honestly all I can manage to pray.

I'm almost fully weaned off my anti-depressants (Effexor). It's been really really really hard weaning off them. The first week or 2 was fine. But lately, I've had suicidal thoughts and been so fearful and overwhelmed.

I feel awful.

I just wish all the pain would go away and never come back. I HATE feeling like I'm doing ok then something suddenly happens and triggers all these awful feelings in me.

 

[newyorknewyork]

RS, when do we get the joy of seeing your wedding photos? CONGRATULATIONS RestoredSoul on your marriage!!!!! How are you enjoying being a wife now? Hows marriage? Are you still getting used to saying "my husband"? I remember it took me awhile! It's so awesome you guys tied the knot! I pray God's richest love and blessings over your marriage!!!

 

[Restoredsoul]

RS, when do we get the joy of seeing your wedding photos? CONGRATULATIONS RestoredSoul on your marriage!!!!! How are you enjoying being a wife now? Hows marriage? Are you still getting used to saying "my husband"? I remember it took me awhile! It's so awesome you guys tied the knot! I pray God's richest love and blessings over your marriage!!!

Photos are just being finalised so will have them soon - our photographer is at uni so need to wait for him to get back!

Am getting used to saying husband although it still feels very strange!!!

To all of you coming of meds - i've been through it - i know it feels as if there is no way through but you can make it... it's tough and gut wrenching but you are all streong enough to do this... you are all such amazingly strong people and i have every faith in you.

When you get down just remember that you are a beautiful child of God. You are unique and beautiful with that uniqueness.

Hugs
Rs xxx

 

[Judy02]

Hey. Bit of a random post, but its really stressing me out, because I'm constantly exhausted and don't feel I can function normally anymore...and I'm also stressed coz I'm supposed to be looking for a job, and I'm not sure I can cope with it, while I'm so tired. I seem to go to bed earlier than everyone else and get up later than everyone else. It's just so frustrating.

I've been in the antidepressants citalopram and prozac, proizac I was on from Jan till about 4 weeks ago. I had a blood test about 2 months ago, to see any possible causes of tiredness, but everything came back as they should be. Does this sound normal? Im back home from uni in my hometown, I'm wondering whether to see a doc again for another opinion, coz this is really frustrating! I'm paranoid I've got ME or something...

 

[keirberos]

Judy02, you should seek a doctor's opinion. Maybe, though, the extra stress put on you by searching for a job is what's making you tired, which of course, the frustration of is only more stress. You're right on the mark, though— a doctor can diagnose any problems better than anyone here can. Just try to get some more rest until you can find out what's causing it, and trust that things will get better, and He won't let you suffer if you ask for help.

 

[jess144]

I got this off a prayer website. I think it is lovely...

Something to think and pray about this week:


You could see Jesus’ life as a struggle against sickness and death. He was a healer, and reached out to cure the pains that disabled people, so that they could forget their sickness and enjoy, as he said, more abundant life, like Simon Peter’s mother-in-law. When Jesus cured her of a fever, she got up and made the tea. Pious people with a headache sometimes offer up the pain and continue talking about it. Better to take an aspirin and get on with the job.

Pain and sickness are obviously bad, something to be fought and resisted. Yet the Lord touches us through them, and a time comes when we can no longer feel God’s touch in prayer, but we sense how he is shaping us through our suffering. It is remarkable how many people find the grace to seek whatever help medicine can offer, and then to accept the remaining pain as the background of a peaceful existence – and without talking about it. Remember the prayer of the old nun: Lord, keep my mind free from the recital of endless details – give me wings to get to the point. Seal my lips on my aches and pains – they are interesting, and my love of rehearsing them becomes sweeter as the years go by. I dare not ask for grace enough to listen to the tales of others’ pains, but help me to endure them with patience.