Depression setting in.

[cjba]

How if anyone know do you overcome depression. I'm finding myself getting in more low's.

(Little background) Husband no longer "in love", barely utters a sound to me in conversation. Won't move out until things are settled. I can't bare to talk about ending our mariage. On the other hand I still love him with all my heart. And the other my heart is so broken I feel that I can't recover.

The doctor put me on anxiety meds. to help,

God Bless and thank you for taking the time to post

 

[WhereHeLeadsMe]

Have you and your husband had any marriage counciling? Alot of times a mediator can help a couple discover and discuss the root problems in the marriage. Dont give up hope. You know the enemy is trying to steal your joy and destroy your marriage, when you give up, thats when he wins. Read the book of Philippians. There are quite a few great verses in there that are encouraging when facing adversity. Umm, a few right off the bat would be: Philippians 1:6, 3:12-14, 4:6-9, 4:13, and 4:19. Look to the Lord for all your answers. The truth will heal you. The truth will set you free. Your Brother in Christ, Ryan

 

[Mrs. Luther073082]

Sounds like this is mostly situational because you are dealing with what is basically a loss. There is only so much you can do regarding your husband because a lot depends on whether or not he will cooperate. But you can fight for yourself. Exercise, get out of the house, go to therapy for yourself if your husband isn't willing to go, etc. Overcoming depression, at least in my experience, involved making myself do a lot of the things I didn't feel like doing at the time. Keep moving, stay active, don't give in and spend the day laying down and feeling sad because once you are down it is so hard to convince yourself to get back up.

 

[icanbeyourfriend]

cjba, I don't know if I have any great advice for you about overcoming depression, because I'm still in the battle, but I can offer some ideas about what has worked for me so far. Medication has helped me to settle down so I can really look at myself and my life and where I'm going. Try to find some uplifting reading material or TV programming. Turn your back on negativity! Focus on positive and healing moments--they will open up to you. Pray. Ask God to guide you through this. Praise God for the blessings in your life. Even at your lowest, force yourself to find those good things. (This might be tough, but smile about them. Smiling helps, and you'll be amazed at how many people will smile back!) You'll start to see the world differently. Reach out to others. You don't have to tell them about your problems; in fact, it is an amazing thing to start listening to what others have to say and trying to help them instead of saying, "Oh, woe is me. No one cares." If nothing else, it takes your mind off of yourself for a while! I sat around feeling sorry for myself for a while--no one cares about me, etc.--but then I realized that I needed to be the helpful person I was hoping others would be!!! As for your husband, I have to agree that you can't determine what he does. If you can get him to go to counseling, great. If not, you need to focus on getting yourself healthy, which could change his view of you. I hope this is helpful. I'll say a special prayer for you. God bless.

 

[Ruth~]

I'm sorry that your husband is acting that way toward you. Have you sat down and talked to him and asked him what is wrong and if you two can work on what is wrong? That's what I used to do with my husband. Sometimes it would work things out between us. Best of luck to you and hope you feel better soon. I will pray for you.

 

[cjba]

The situation is getting worse. With my husband stil lin our home is like tortore. How can I live with the man that I love and have nothing but rejection from him. Why would God want me in this situation.

I see myself having lows again. Almost take an anxiety pill everyday. I have no desire to do anything. I force myself to do what is necessary in our home. But it is getting harder and harder. I don't want my children to see me this way. So I end up sitting in the bathroom for awhile. They must think I have one major stomach ache.

Now with our situation the doctor put my little one (14) on depression medication. I don't understand why my husband can not see what he is doing to his family.

I have talked to him and he tells me to let go. He once told me I was no longer his family. Only the kids were his family.

I pray and pray and continue to pray. But I'm stuck and I feel that depression is getting a hold of me. I was doing good for awhile. Really tried to convince myself I was ok. But the truth will always be known.

Thanks for the prayers and ideas.

 

[PrairieGurl]

The situation is getting worse. With my husband stil lin our home is like tortore. How can I live with the man that I love and have nothing but rejection from him. Why would God want me in this situation.

I see myself having lows again. Almost take an anxiety pill everyday. I have no desire to do anything. I force myself to do what is necessary in our home. But it is getting harder and harder. I don't want my children to see me this way. So I end up sitting in the bathroom for awhile. They must think I have one major stomach ache.

Now with our situation the doctor put my little one (14) on depression medication. I don't understand why my husband can not see what he is doing to his family.

I have talked to him and he tells me to let go. He once told me I was no longer his family. Only the kids were his family.

I pray and pray and continue to pray. But I'm stuck and I feel that depression is getting a hold of me. I was doing good for awhile. Really tried to convince myself I was ok. But the truth will always be known.

Thanks for the prayers and ideas.

Dearest Cjba ,

Sometimes there's nothing one can say to ease the pain I do ask our Heavenly Father to reach down and hug you BIG.

With s,
Wendy