Define "marriage"

[dayhiker]

Well, black .. its taken me 60 years to figure it out. I only went looking for it because it was clear to me the way I had done things for the 1st 60 years wasn't cutting it.

Thanks for the compliment as well.

I must add ... I only found about half of what I needed to know in the church. The other half I had to find outside the church. Kinda sad because I think we have all the principles in the Bible to teach all of what I learned outside the church.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

No...sex is about it. Otherwise why bother.

Hahaha well for YOU that might be true but I was asking dayhiker a specific question and I didn't want to hear his answer be like "we can have sex X amount of times" or whatever, and he answered it very well, without including sex

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

I have to agree dayhiker your approach is very good. Too bad more people don't do this. If we all said here's what we want and don't want or will do or won't do, life would be easier in that dept anyway. If/when I get into a relationship in the future, I definitely plan to lay some things out.

 

[iambren]

Bad,bad sex. If we left it out what would we do for drama??

 

[RDKirk]

From an article I read:


Marriage is the unification of two halves into one complete entity, described as "one flesh.”
It's not just poetics.
What is my commitment to my hand?
I am not committed to my hand. I am my hand. My commitment to my hand is one I'd reconsider if it became gangrenous, and I was left with no choice but amputation.
But I wouldn't reconsider my commitment to my hand if it were broken, or ugly, or if I met someone with a nicer hand. If your hand is killing you – then you get rid of it. The commitment of marriage is until it's killing you.
Divorce is appropriate when the marriage has become an abusive, destructive relationship that can't be cured. Amputation is never casual. Often people get divorced because they simply get bored with each other. The marriage goes stale and flat. "We don’t laugh like we used to anymore."

If someone told you that he was amputating his hand because "The fun went out of it" you'd say he's nuts. Marriage is exactly the same.


Rabbi Dan Silverman

Let me add to this. If you fell asleep on your hand, it would complain--even though nothing was actually wrong with it.

You would know nothing was really wrong with it. Yet, you would adjust your position to accommodate your hand's feelings, and when your hand was again comfortable, you would be comfortable.