My sponsor once told me that soberity is like dead fish. If you don't do something with it,it starts to stink. Any thoughts, comments ?
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Dead Fish Anyone?
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justanobserver
Still Wondering...
What would be the ideas/thoughts what one should or would do with their sobriety? Outside of working one's own "program" to stay sober/clean/alive, is there other options/activities your sponsor is thinking of?
Going to meetings, read the Big Book, doing the Steps - these I see as part and parcel of the life of an recovering alcoholic.
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justanobserver
Still Wondering...
I think perhaps part of the answer maybe to his comment would be how each person runs their program (catch word I know but it does describe things).
I mean for me, the life I lived in the military, places and things done, my alternate life of alcohol/drugs that I lept secret from everyone, to include my wife and kids at the time; the lie of my life I was living - well, for me, being honest, step 4, 5, 8, 9, 10 especially helps me to work my sobreoity in a way that gets me out of my way and to help others.
does that make any sense? when I was secretive, avoiding contact, "hiding", not sharing/helping/etc others, thats when I was and am in most danger of slipping and going right back out. Being open is being honest and being honest will help keep me sober and being honest with others and being open with others only will help me as well.
but like here, the recovery threads or in every day life where I live/work, I have shared things I normally wouldnt have in the past but if it helps one person - saint and/or sinner to go one more hour or day sober, then I done something today good. I helped. I worked my program.
I dont do it to get a pat on the back or a star in the Great AA Meeting on teh Other Side but its perhaps a tad slefish because it helps keep me sober. if its out in the open, then I cant hide behind it. right?
I mean for me, the life I lived in the military, places and things done, my alternate life of alcohol/drugs that I lept secret from everyone, to include my wife and kids at the time; the lie of my life I was living - well, for me, being honest, step 4, 5, 8, 9, 10 especially helps me to work my sobreoity in a way that gets me out of my way and to help others.
does that make any sense? when I was secretive, avoiding contact, "hiding", not sharing/helping/etc others, thats when I was and am in most danger of slipping and going right back out. Being open is being honest and being honest will help keep me sober and being honest with others and being open with others only will help me as well.
but like here, the recovery threads or in every day life where I live/work, I have shared things I normally wouldnt have in the past but if it helps one person - saint and/or sinner to go one more hour or day sober, then I done something today good. I helped. I worked my program.
I dont do it to get a pat on the back or a star in the Great AA Meeting on teh Other Side but its perhaps a tad slefish because it helps keep me sober. if its out in the open, then I cant hide behind it. right?
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That can be the case even after being in the program for a number of years. After receiving a 10 year medallion, I slacked off meetings for the next year and a half or so attending one every couple of months. I was still working my program to a degree but as time went on it started to get less and less as did my prayer life. I didn't really notice a difference in my attitude and thought i was doing ok until after that year and a half I made an effort to start attending my home-meeting on a weekly basis. It was then that I realized that my "contented sobriety" had slid backwards.
I see Recovery as a slippery slope that I need to constantly be expending effort in walking up. The moment I try to stand still for too long, I start to slide back into restlessness, irritibility and discontentment.
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