Reed000Naoi
Single Texas Rancher
I have been a member of Christian Mingle for at least a year and a half...and, in that time, I have actually met (face-to-face) a grand total of one lady. She was very nice, the daughter of a preacher. But she had serious personal issues--drinking, bar-hopping and sexuality problems. So, we went our separate ways after a few weeks. I've had hardly any contacts since. I have also dabbled with numerous other dating sites, but have not had much luck with any of them. But I keep paying the fees every three months, just in case...
I will admit, however, that part of it is me. I am older (65)...hate playing the dating game...and am really picky. So, I guess it's not surprising that possible soul mates aren't necessarily falling out of the woodwork. For a younger person with more flexible desires in life, these sites might work okay. But here are the problems I have run into: For one thing, Christian Mingle and E-Harmony do a poor job of narrowing the search. The few ladies that interest me are from all over the country--rarely from my neighborhood. And, since my profile makes it clear that I am not planning to relocate, I get very few responses. Also, there is an age problem. I am attracted to women who are a great deal younger than me. So, that narrows the field even further (You'd be surprised how many 'cougars' there are on there---women looking for younger men!). (Note: I tried one called AgeMatch that purports to be for folks who like a may-dec age spread. But...whoa! Talk about strange encounters! A girl of 19 from Zimbabwe, with one single profile photo, who looks like a swimsuit model and who says, in broken English, that she is seeking an honest, trustworthy, Christian gentleman, age 21-99....well, that throws up a flurry of red flags for sure!)
OKCupid is one I do like. It's free, so there are lots more people to choose from. And quite a few from the local area. But, since they don't do much in the way of screening, you really have to be careful who you are dealing with. There are a lot of creeps and weirdoes on there. I have become pretty astute at spotting the con-jobs and scammers a mile away, so I don't worry much. As someone said, it does get entertaining on there. I actually dated one girl from there. We went out twice. She started out calling herself Christian, which seemed nice...but actually turned out to be into witchcraft and the occult...and was a scary combination of ADHD, PTS, and borderline personality disorder. So much for that relationship.
FarmersOnly.com is interesting (since I live on a ranch, I keep that one around, too). But those are mostly either cowgirls who want to brag about their barrel-racing trophies and the buck they shot last year (I'm a country boy and a nature-lover, but not a boot-and-buckle type) or really backwoodsy types--too...um... (sorry to be rude) ... seedy and slouchy for my tastes.
So, I hope you have better luck than I have had so far. And, if anyone discovers the real key to finding love online, please let me in on it.
I will admit, however, that part of it is me. I am older (65)...hate playing the dating game...and am really picky. So, I guess it's not surprising that possible soul mates aren't necessarily falling out of the woodwork. For a younger person with more flexible desires in life, these sites might work okay. But here are the problems I have run into: For one thing, Christian Mingle and E-Harmony do a poor job of narrowing the search. The few ladies that interest me are from all over the country--rarely from my neighborhood. And, since my profile makes it clear that I am not planning to relocate, I get very few responses. Also, there is an age problem. I am attracted to women who are a great deal younger than me. So, that narrows the field even further (You'd be surprised how many 'cougars' there are on there---women looking for younger men!). (Note: I tried one called AgeMatch that purports to be for folks who like a may-dec age spread. But...whoa! Talk about strange encounters! A girl of 19 from Zimbabwe, with one single profile photo, who looks like a swimsuit model and who says, in broken English, that she is seeking an honest, trustworthy, Christian gentleman, age 21-99....well, that throws up a flurry of red flags for sure!)
OKCupid is one I do like. It's free, so there are lots more people to choose from. And quite a few from the local area. But, since they don't do much in the way of screening, you really have to be careful who you are dealing with. There are a lot of creeps and weirdoes on there. I have become pretty astute at spotting the con-jobs and scammers a mile away, so I don't worry much. As someone said, it does get entertaining on there. I actually dated one girl from there. We went out twice. She started out calling herself Christian, which seemed nice...but actually turned out to be into witchcraft and the occult...and was a scary combination of ADHD, PTS, and borderline personality disorder. So much for that relationship.
FarmersOnly.com is interesting (since I live on a ranch, I keep that one around, too). But those are mostly either cowgirls who want to brag about their barrel-racing trophies and the buck they shot last year (I'm a country boy and a nature-lover, but not a boot-and-buckle type) or really backwoodsy types--too...um... (sorry to be rude) ... seedy and slouchy for my tastes.
So, I hope you have better luck than I have had so far. And, if anyone discovers the real key to finding love online, please let me in on it.
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Not sure if that changes your advice at all. 
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