Dating unbeliever

[GaveMeJoy]

So many horrible things have happened to me in my life. The Lord delivered me from being abandoned by my Christian turned atheist wife who stole my children and I don’t know how I would have survived without him nor how I continue to.

But the pain and loneliness is and has been constant and deep, to the point where I just want to go to heaven now.

Then I met this amazing woman through work. She’s so perfect for me in a lot of ways but not a believer.

I know I can’t marry her and told her right away about that. It was hard for her but we are still dating.

I know it’s a bad idea to continue this. I know it is not right. But It hurts too bad and I literally can’t go back to the way it was before right now. Please pray God heals me, and gives me strength because I have none and I’m not going to do what’s right at this point.

Am I not a Christian or something? I feel like this is some sort of willful backsliding or suppressing of the Holy Spirit in my life. Am I not saved? I believe, I love Jesus! I tell her and everyone all the time but I just CANT right now.

 

[Sketcher]

What you're describing is infatuation towards this unbelieving woman. She's not perfect, no woman is perfect.

 

[Reborn1977]

So many horrible things have happened to me in my life. The Lord delivered me from being abandoned by my Christian turned atheist wife who stole my children and I don’t know how I would have survived without him nor how I continue to.

But the pain and loneliness is and has been constant and deep, to the point where I just want to go to heaven now.

Then I met this amazing woman through work. She’s so perfect for me in a lot of ways but not a believer.

I know I can’t marry her and told her right away about that. It was hard for her but we are still dating.

I know it’s a bad idea to continue this. I know it is not right. But It hurts too bad and I literally can’t go back to the way it was before right now. Please pray God heals me, and gives me strength because I have none and I’m not going to do what’s right at this point.

Am I not a Christian or something? I feel like this is some sort of willful backsliding or suppressing of the Holy Spirit in my life. Am I not saved? I believe, I love Jesus! I tell her and everyone all the time but I just CANT right now.

If you are a Christian, it doesn't matter what wonderful things the Enemy offers you through this woman, if she is not a Believer is not God's Will that you be with her. It will only ultimately bring trouble.

 

[paul1149]

I pray that you have protection, that you find peace and rest in Him, that you get clarity, and that this situation sorts itself out the right way.

 

[Not David]

Is she an atheist? How would both lives complement each other? Just be cautious.

 

[Aussie Pete]

So many horrible things have happened to me in my life. The Lord delivered me from being abandoned by my Christian turned atheist wife who stole my children and I don’t know how I would have survived without him nor how I continue to.

But the pain and loneliness is and has been constant and deep, to the point where I just want to go to heaven now.

Then I met this amazing woman through work. She’s so perfect for me in a lot of ways but not a believer.

I know I can’t marry her and told her right away about that. It was hard for her but we are still dating.

I know it’s a bad idea to continue this. I know it is not right. But It hurts too bad and I literally can’t go back to the way it was before right now. Please pray God heals me, and gives me strength because I have none and I’m not going to do what’s right at this point.

Am I not a Christian or something? I feel like this is some sort of willful backsliding or suppressing of the Holy Spirit in my life. Am I not saved? I believe, I love Jesus! I tell her and everyone all the time but I just CANT right now.

Please don't let emotion rule you right now. The price of another bad relationship is way too high. I married in haste to a supposed believer. 9 years later, I was a suicidal wreck. It is just not worth it.

You may have an emotional tie that needs to be broken. Ask God to cut the tie, or at least to open your eyes to what your prospects are for the future.

The Lord Jesus got me through the darkest time of my life. What He did for me, He will do for you. All He asks is that you be willing. A few years before I was married, I had an infatuation with someone. It was never going to work out. I saw that I was starting to put her even before the Lord Jesus. I asked a woman who was spiritually gifted to pray for me. She said, "Divided loyalties". She did not know the situation, but she nailed it. She prayed and I was set free.

 

[GaveMeJoy]

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What you're describing is infatuation towards this unbelieving woman. She's not perfect, no woman is perfect.

nailed it!

 

[GaveMeJoy]

Is she an atheist? How would both lives complement each other? Just be cautious.

She universalist but she doesn’t really care about God. She isn’t going to bring me closer to God. She’s not from him for me I know that just too weak right now to break it off

 

[GaveMeJoy]

If you are a Christian, it doesn't matter what wonderful things the Enemy offers you through this woman, if she is not a Believer is not God's Will that you be with her. It will only ultimately bring trouble.

Yea the devil ruins everything. I know it’s going to end poorly

 

[SkyWriting]

So many horrible things have happened to me in my life.

You could be a shining light in somebody's life.
This is your goal.

 

[GospelS]

In your present situation, I find her to be very selfish. She doesn't care about you and your God. At least, I hope that changes and God turns it around for good.

 

[LoricaLady]

I pray for you for strength and healing.

Sometimes on this forum I have seen people lamenting because they married non believers. I pray you will be given insight and guidance.