Dating outside your denomination

[Rhamiel]

Since the "Dating Unbelievers" thread is so popular and has sparked some interesting discussions. I thought I would make a thread about dating outside your denomination.

If you belong to a non-christian religion, would you date outside your faith tradition?

What are your thoughts on this?

 

[Amber.ly]

I'm non-denominational so this technically this doesn't apply to me

I mean, there are denominations I think are crazy so I would avoid those. Or some have completely perverted doctrine that I place them as the same category as an unbeliever.

Mostly though I'm less concerned with titles then I am with where a person actually stands on Biblical truths.

 

[AmericanSamurai]

I'm non-denominational so this technically this doesn't apply to me

I mean, there are denominations I think are crazy so I would avoid those. Or some have completely perverted doctrine that I place them as the same category as an unbeliever.

Mostly though I'm less concerned with titles then I am with where a person actually stands on Biblical truths.

Non-denomination is a denomination.

 

[jess9450]

Mostly though I'm less concerned with titles then I am with where a person actually stands on Biblical truths.

this. If we share similar doctrinal ideas, it doesn't matter what denomination they are..

 

[Rhamiel]

this. If we share similar doctrinal ideas, it doesn't matter what denomination they are..

so you do not really care what the name is on the door of the church they go to

but you want them to have beliefs that would mostly line up with your faith tradition

that makes sense, I think most Christians would give an answer kind of like this

 

[Qyöt27]

so you do not really care what the name is on the door of the church they go to

but you want them to have beliefs that would mostly line up with your faith tradition

Not necessarily. It would be more of an issue of non-objection rather than active agreement, at least for me.

For instance, I'm not Catholic, but I don't actively object to Catholic beliefs, even though there are a few I might disagree with. Disagreement does not necessarily imply objection.

 

[FearlessHeart]

As long as they aren't Catholic or a Charismatic I wouldn't have a problem with it.

 

[Miss Spaulding]

I'm kind of over the 'denomination' thing. Being raised Baptist I thought I'd never say that, lol. It all boils down to your beliefs...if I find we share very similar views and I find that your views are truth 'based on God's Word' (not my word), then I don't see why it wouldn't work.

Now, obviously if I meet a nice guy and find that he is Catholic for example, then it's pretty safe to say that it wouldn't pan out. He could be great friend, but I wouldn't enter into a relationship with him. It simply wouldn't work.

 

[Neve]

I'm kind of over the 'denomination' thing. Being raised Baptist I thought I'd never say that, lol. It all boils down to your beliefs...if I find we share very similar views and I find that your views are truth 'based on God's Word' (not my word), then I don't see why it wouldn't work.

Now, obviously if I meet a nice guy and find that he is Catholic for example, then it's pretty safe to say that it wouldn't pan out. He could be great friend, but I wouldn't enter into a relationship with him. It simply wouldn't work.

Why wouldn't a Baptist and a Catholic work?

 

[Amber.ly]

Non-denomination is a denomination.

So maybe I'm anti-denomination?

 

[Miss Spaulding]

Why wouldn't a Baptist and a Catholic work?

I should've said it won't work for me. I can't speak for anyone else, like you for example. Such a union might work beautifully for you.

Anyway, it's the doctrine. I cannot agree with or believe in the Catholic faith. So for me personally, to enter into a relationship with a man who is a staunch Catholic...you can see where problems would eventually rise.

 

[Stravinsk]

So maybe I'm anti-denomination?

 

[Nanopants]

I wouldn't make a decision based on denominational labels, as I tend to run into a wide spectrum of varying beliefs among members of even the same group(s). Exactly what I do look for is not easy to say, and is more of an intuitive discernment issue than something straight out of the rule book.

 

[SnowyMacie]

I could date outside of my denomination, I could have to because it's not a very big one. There are certain traditions where issues would arise, and so I probably wouldn't date them.

 

[Rhamiel]

Why wouldn't a Baptist and a Catholic work?

very different faith traditions
even the vocabulary used to describe the faith is very different. I read a great article that describes the differences in terms of a "masculine" and "feminine" mindset.
the difference is not just cultural
the liturgical and sacramental views would also be vastly different and even the view of history might be different according to which branch of the Baptist church that person followed. I could see how this could cause problems if both members were firm believers. I do know several married couples that where one member was Catholic and one was Baptist, most of the time they just end up becoming Lutheran or Methodist as a compromise.

 

[Miles]

If we're otherwise compatible, I'm fine with it.

 

[Neve]

very different faith traditions
even the vocabulary used to describe the faith is very different. I read a great article that describes the differences in terms of a "masculine" and "feminine" mindset.
the difference is not just cultural
the liturgical and sacramental views would also be vastly different and even the view of history might be different according to which branch of the Baptist church that person followed. I could see how this could cause problems if both members were firm believers. I do know several married couples that where one member was Catholic and one was Baptist, most of the time they just end up becoming Lutheran or Methodist as a compromise.

I'm thinking about converting to Methodist anyhow. My father was raised Methodist & I'm not that picky over the smaller religious details.

 

[Rhamiel]

I'm thinking about converting to Methodist anyhow. My father was raised Methodist & I'm not that picky over the smaller religious details.

not to get too far off topic
but why Methodist?

 

[Neve]

not to get too far off topic
but why Methodist?

My father's family was Methodist. There is a United Methodist church a block away from me and the Methodists are generally known to be more liberal than other religions - they allow drinking and smoking and dancing and all that. I don't know the specifics about their theology, but I have attended church there a few times and it's not that different than Catholic mass - the biggest difference was that a female minister led the service - something you never see in a Catholic mass since Catholicism is more male-dominated.

 

[Sketcher]

Since the "Dating Unbelievers" thread is so popular and has sparked some interesting discussions. I thought I would make a thread about dating outside your denomination.

If you belong to a non-christian religion, would you date outside your faith tradition?

What are your thoughts on this?

It depends on how much her beliefs differ from mine. I am non-denominational, so there's a number of denominations where I would consider attending their churches should I move. Ultimately though, I believe that if you can't worship together, you shouldn't be married.

Non-denomination is a denomination.

Actually, no. the only thing it means is that there is no affiliation with a denomination. You can go to a non-denominational church like mine, and find that it is very different from some other non-denominational churches in doctrine and in practice. (There is so much wierd crap in the Non-Denominational forum that I hardly ever visit it.)