dating marriage and attraction

[LinkH]

"The good thing is men are attracted to different types of women and vice versa. I hear there is some research that shows that men who have fatter mothers marry fatter women. They might agree with the guys in the locker room in high school that the model-looking woman is attractive, but they also care for the heftier girl. My guess is the same goes for women. Otherwise, hefty people wouldn't get married. Sometimes they get hefty after marriage, but plenty of large folks marry, too. "

Even people who parade their Christianity while being unloving get married.

I'm interpreting this as some kind of a dig at me. Is using 'fatter' and 'hefty' unloving? We've only got so many words in the English language for that concept, and none of them sound nice. But it's usually only insulting if you tell someone they are fat, and I don't know what people on the forum look like, and I'm not as lean as I'd like to be either.

I find it encouraging for folks that don't have Barbie and Ken figures to realize that other folks with similar measurements marry.

 

[endofrope]

This thread is hilarious, especially the song! As others have said, Song of Solomon. Why would anyone commit to a lifetime of exclusive sex, with someone they wouldn't want to have sex with? Seems rather stupid. God wants us to desire our spouse and enjoy sex with them. It ought not be a chore.

 

[mjere]

I think attraction is important. But I find the more time you spend with The Lord the more your ideas about attraction chang/ evolve. I also think it's interesting that some of the men I thought of as "hot", are lacking in other areas. Things like kindness, integrity, and having virtue just look "successful" to me. Some unlikely guys have lately caught my attention.


Maybe it's not about attractive but about "settling". If that's your mindset, you may have met a nice girl but Is she the one God intended for you?

 

[Dave-W]

Why would anyone commit to a lifetime of exclusive sex, with someone they wouldn't want to have sex with? Seems rather stupid.

Makes perfect sense if you come from the position that sex is an inherently sinful behavior and is a result of the fall. Required to continue the human species - yes but there is to be no pleasure in doing so.

Of course that is NOT the attitude of the bible.