Dating confusion

[intr3pid]

I am currently dating an Atheist. Now, let me follow that with this - she was previously a Christian and followed God, but some events in her life led her to believe that there was no God. Our relationship has characteristically been one of great mutual understanding and respect, and we have had great debates over lots of theological issues and always came out just as in-love as before on the other side. I recently visited her across state as our first year of University is over, and beforehand prayed that God would give me some sort of definite sign as to whether or not I should be with her, as I am trying to run every aspect of my life under His authority. I had no indication during the trip one way or another, but as I was on my way home I had an intense feeling of missing her that caused me to almost have to pull over from the internal turmoil it was creating. I thought and prayed about it and came to the realization that this might be the sign I had asked for. I'm still not certain if this interpretation is correct, but I have never felt that intensely toward leaving her before.

I have heard the verse about being "unequally yoked" many times, and it has bothered me more recently as I feel like I am many times more compatible with her than to anyone else I have dated (which were all strictly Christian relationships).

I wanted to ask everyone here what they think of the situation. I am also wondering if God could be using me to help lead her back to Him.

 

[goldenviolet]

"unequally yoked" really is the key...
questions to yourself: does she cause you to stumble? is she willing to give up to her beliefs to fallow yours? does her beliefs cause you to stumble? ..........

my husband is now an 'athiest'. he supports my beliefs... even financially. he doesn't do things that make me stumble. way back when we got together, we were equally yoked. now i'm deeper in my spirituality... loads of growth.
you are the head of your relationship. Christ is the head of you. you have alot to think about. xo dee

 

[intr3pid]

She has always supported my faith completely, but expressed that she does not believe it for her own reasons. She is very well studied in different religions, so I have recently been reading up on all sorts of Christian apologetics in hopes that I can "show myself approved" and maybe influence her. We recently talked about an issue where I was actually the main cause of stumbling for myself, and she agreed to help me overcome that as much as possible. She also has decided to stop cussing at all and asked me to help her with that. Not that she was a huge potty-mouth, but just prefers to not use any foul language.

 

[wonderwaleye]

I am currently dating an Atheist. Now, let me follow that with this - she was previously a Christian and followed God, but some events in her life led her to believe that there was no God. Our relationship has characteristically been one of great mutual understanding and respect, and we have had great debates over lots of theological issues and always came out just as in-love as before on the other side. I recently visited her across state as our first year of University is over, and beforehand prayed that God would give me some sort of definite sign as to whether or not I should be with her, as I am trying to run every aspect of my life under His authority. I had no indication during the trip one way or another, but as I was on my way home I had an intense feeling of missing her that caused me to almost have to pull over from the internal turmoil it was creating. I thought and prayed about it and came to the realization that this might be the sign I had asked for. I'm still not certain if this interpretation is correct, but I have never felt that intensely toward leaving her before.

I have heard the verse about being "unequally yoked" many times, and it has bothered me more recently as I feel like I am many times more compatible with her than to anyone else I have dated (which were all strictly Christian relationships).

I wanted to ask everyone here what they think of the situation. I am also wondering if God could be using me to help lead her back to Him.

If you have had sex with her you need to know where you stand in GOD'S EYES:





Genesis 2:24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.







Matthew 19:5 And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?







Matthew 19:6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.







Mark 10:8 And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh.







1Corinthians 6:16 What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh.





Ephesians 5:31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.





Even if you have not had sex with her and decide to continue on with your relationship contrary to GOD'S WORD on being unequally yoked:

1 Corinthians
Chapter 7

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10 To the married, however, I give this instruction (not I, but the Lord): a wife should not separate from her husband



11 --and if she does separate she must either remain single or become reconciled to her husband--and a husband should not divorce his wife.



12 To the rest I say (not the Lord): if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she is willing to go on living with him, he should not divorce her;





13 and if any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he is willing to go on living with her, she should not divorce her husband.




14 For the unbelieving husband is made holy through his wife, and the unbelieving wife is made holy through the brother. Otherwise your children would be unclean, whereas in fact they are holy.



15 If the unbeliever separates, however, let him separate. The brother or sister is not bound in such cases; God has called you to peace.



So this may well explain why you have the feelings you do.




Remember you MUST GIVE IT ALL TO GOD



GOD demands that you give HIM your WHOLE heart, mind, strength, and soul. That means you go in prayer and tell GOD that you will do this and from that moment on seek GOD in all your decisions. After this is complete GOD will know. For HE searches the heart. HE will then send HIS HOLY SPIRIT ( ANOINTED-BORN AGAIN- SAVED ). For it is then that you shall receive the MISSION GOD has for just you and supply all your needs, even what you have not the ability to have.





Pick up GOD'S ROAD MAP to the KINGDOM of ALMIGHTY GOD ( BIBLE ) and start reading the NEW TESTIMENT till the next time you read it you will already know what IT'S going to say. For then it's locked in your heart to draw from for the rest of your life. You will NEVER be sorry you did.



Do yourself a BIG FAVOR and Start right now!!!



LOVE


steven

 

[goldenviolet]

She has always supported my faith completely, but expressed that she does not believe it for her own reasons. She is very well studied in different religions, so I have recently been reading up on all sorts of Christian apologetics in hopes that I can "show myself approved" and maybe influence her. We recently talked about an issue where I was actually the main cause of stumbling for myself, and she agreed to help me overcome that as much as possible. She also has decided to stop cussing at all and asked me to help her with that. Not that she was a huge potty-mouth, but just prefers to not use any foul language.

my hubby sponsors things i do, but he's only been to church a handful of times. and a few times to bible study at friends house. without this support, i'd be lonely. i am lonely. he lets me pray for us and is respectful when people pray at our house. you really need to sort out what is the spouse you want biblically. i'd reccommend premarital counciling with your pastor. anyhoo. you have alot to decide. blessings, xo dee

 

[intr3pid]

Don't let a forum of strangers dictate your love life. The smart thing to do would be to talk to your woman.

I agree. I was seeking Biblical council. She knows I love her deeply, but that I am afraid I am somehow out of God's graces by being with her. This is the point I am uncertain of. I have a lot of mental health issues lately, and she has been so wonderful in helping me with them (lots of health anxiety and anxiety in general, it disappears when I'm with her). So, if God is TRULY calling me to not be with her, then I need to be absolutely, 100% certain before I follow that road.

 

[GaryP]

I do not know her situation, but many become mad at God for some reason. She may have had a death in the Family etc. Now only God would know if she turned, regardless of what she said. My advice is to take her to the cross and lift her up. Give her to Jesus
then walk away. The rest will take care of it self.
Set her free, if she returns to you, you will have your answer.

 

[secretshadows618]

If she respects you and your religion and you guys can make it work even though you have different views then go for it. Yes you're "unequally yoked" but that could change. As long as she doesn't cause you to stumble then stick with it.


secretshadows

 

[wonderwaleye]

I agree. I was seeking Biblical council. She knows I love her deeply, but that I am afraid I am somehow out of God's graces by being with her. This is the point I am uncertain of. I have a lot of mental health issues lately, and she has been so wonderful in helping me with them (lots of health anxiety and anxiety in general, it disappears when I'm with her). So, if God is TRULY calling me to not be with her, then I need to be absolutely, 100% certain before I follow that road.

First you need to see a doctor about your health issues. GOD'S WORD says:






Sirach (Apocrypha), chapter 38

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1: Honour a physician with the honour due unto him for the uses which ye may have of him: for the Lord hath created him.





2: For of the most High cometh healing, and he shall receive honour of the king.






3: The skill of the physician shall lift up his head: and in the sight of great men he shall be in admiration.



4: The Lord hath created medicines out of the earth; and he that is wise will not abhor them.



5: Was not the water made sweet with wood, that the virtue thereof might be known?





6: And he hath given men skill, that he might be honoured in his marvellous works.





7: With such doth he heal [men,] and taketh away their pains.





8: Of such doth the apothecary make a confection; and of his works there is no end; and from him is peace over all the earth,






9: My son, in thy sickness be not negligent: but pray unto the Lord, and he will make thee whole.






10: Leave off from sin, and order thine hands aright, and cleanse thy heart from all wickedness.





11: Give a sweet savour, and a memorial of fine flour; and make a fat offering, as not being.





12: Then give place to the physician, for the Lord hath created him: let him not go from thee, for thou hast need of him.





13: There is a time when in their hands there is good success.





14: For they shall also pray unto the Lord, that he would prosper that, which they give for ease and remedy to prolong life.





15: He that sinneth before his Maker, let him fall into the hand of the physician.




Then when your mind is clear and level you are in a position to make decisions.



LOVE


steven