Crying Out For God To Help Me

[sunset]

I CANT STOP CRYING. I HAVE GONE WITHOUT SLEEP AND CANT EAT. MY MARRIAGE IS FALLING APART EVEN WHEN I KNOW THAT IT WAS GOD THAT BROUGHT MY HUSBAND HOME FROM ANOTHER WOAMN'S BED. HE HAS BEEN HOME ONLY FOR 2 WEEKS AND NOW IM AFFRAID THAT HE WILL BE LIEAVING AGAIN TO GO AND BE WITH THIS WOMAN. THIS IS A ON GOING BATTLE WITH THIS WOMAN. I DONT UNDERSTAND ANY OF IT. SOMETIMES I THINK THAT THERE IS SOME EVIL SPIRIT OVER MY HUSBAND AND IT SEEMS THAT IT CANT BE BROKEN KNOW MATTER HOW MUCH I PRAY ABOUT IT. I HAVE PRAYED TO GOD TO REMOVE THIS WOMAN OUT OF MY LIFE . I HAVE PRAYED DAY AND NIGHT. I HAVE PRAYED TO THE LORD TO RESTORE US. I HAVE PRAYED THAT THE LORD BIND US TOGETHER. I HAVE PRAYED THAT THE LORD TURN MY HUSBAND AWAY FROM THIS WOMAN . I DONT KNOW WHAT ELSE TO DO. I HAVE GROWN VERY WEARY. I HAVE CRIED UNTIL MY EYES HURT. MY HEART IS BREAKING. I DONT KNOW HOW MUCH LONGER I CAN HOLD ON. I SEE MY MARRIAGE SLIPPING AWAY FROM ME. PLEASE CAN SOME ONE TELL ME HOW I CAN DEAL WITH ALL THIS PAIN INSIDE OF ME. I FEEL LIKE IM SLOWEY DYING INSIDE. LORD YOU KNOW I DONT WANT TO LOSE MY HUSBAND. LORD GOD PLEASE HELP ME

 

[rainbowprism]

Praying that the Lord will give you your personal exodus...that he will create space where you feel like you are against a wall. He is in control and he cares deeply about your situation, don't lose heart. I love you, my sister in Christ.

 

[newlite]

Psalms 3:
3 But thou, O LORD, art a shield for me; my glory, and the lifter up of mine head.
4 I cried unto the LORD with my voice, and he heard me out of his holy hill. Selah.
5 I laid me down and slept; I awaked; for the LORD sustained me.

im not quite sure what to say. the lord will hear you. my he comfort you and let you rest. my your husband come back to stay. ill pray for you. dont ever give up.

 

[fieldmouse3]

Praying for you!

 

[Anna N. Amos]

Sunset-
Oh sweet woman of God, I am so sorry...

First of all, you are sure you want him back? If so, may I make some suggestions:

Get him to counseling later, do this now…. If he is already out the door, you need to make him want to come back, suggesting counseling may push him further away at THIS point.

I do not know if this will help you or not, but years ago a woman wrote to Ann Landers/ Dear Abby (one of them)and she said her husband was over seas and had told her he fell in love with another woman and was not coming home.

The columnist said she began to help this woman outside the "paper". She told her to not even acknowledge this other woman or the fact that he wanted to leave but instead to LOVE her husband.

She said make him picture books and send little pictures the kid drew etc. etc. Make him miss you and see what is at home waiting for him.

After about 6 months the woman told her that her husband was returning!

May I suggest --

First of all, a man likes to feel respected and appreciated. Women like to hear they look nice to night, a man likes to hear I loved the way you fixed the light fixture it looks great. You always do good work! Thanks. (That does not rule out a compliment to looks for a man, or acomplishments to a woman)

If you have children, out of the blue you may want to make a "king for a day" Saturday. The kids can make a cardboard crown and septor. You can read a decree stating all the things that make him special.

If you make his lunch, you may want to slip a pair of your undies in the bag with a fun note about dessert “wink-wink”
Remind him why he loved you…

There is an old book that many liberal women will find a throw back but it does work

It is called Fascinating Womanhood.

http://www.randomhouse.com/bantamdell/catalog/display.pperl?isbn=055329220X

http://www.randomhouse.com/bantamdell/catalog/display.pperl?isbn=0-553-29220-X&view=excerpt
And pray like a house of fire

http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/1565075722/103-1617961-1776634?v=glance

After he comes home then you can move him towards counseling, you will both need it. But right now you need to fight for him. Get rid of your (from crying) puffy eyes, put on a little make-up, and be fun again. If all he sees is you crying and the other woman offers him a comfortable place to go, then he will...
IMHO

You may not feel like you can be fun right now, but you can be, ask God to help you with your girlish qualities and to teach you how to flirt with your own husband and to build him up.

I once heard someone say, when a man leaves a woman he usually will come back if he feels loved and understood. When a woman leaves it is usually at the end of the rope and they most likely do NOT come back -- they have had it.

May God bless you and heal your heart.

 

[forgivenmuch]

bless you, im sorry you are going thru such a hard time.. its not good on your emotional state for you to be this way.. do you have children? i pray that you will find some end to this.. you cant make your husband change ..only God can.. i hope he changes for your sake.. i see that you really love him and need him. but sometimes its a choice and he seems to not know what he wants.. he needs to see how much he is hurting you.. he will regret it one day.. i pray that you will stand strong.. sometimes life does not seem fair.. but God will never leave you sister.. hes there with you.. keep praying and hold on to God.. no matter what happens i hope you the best.. dont lose hope or faith.. seek God and rest .. get some rest stop crying .. and calm down.. you need to find strenth within yourself.. to say..im going to be ok no matter what happens... have faith in yourself.. you are Gods child and he is there .. dont worry... if you are faithful God will bless you.. hold on to him ..hes carrying you right now..

 

[Johnnz]

Are you part of a church group? And your husband? If so, that is where you should seek some advice and help for both of you.

After what has happened your trust and confidence in youyr husband has been shaken very deeply. Unless he gives some real evidence that he is willing to make substantial changes, and then carries through on them, you will have constant insecurity and worry about him and yoru marriage. "Patching up" will do nothing for either of you. or your marriage, long term. You must have the courage to confront teh relaity of te situation. You will need good support and wise counsel to do that.

Bless you

John
NZ

 

[silentpoet]

This may be hard words, but your husband may not stay. While that may hurt, the important part to remember is that God will never desert you. Lord God Almighty will never forsake you. And He has a glorious plan for you, even for your current suffering. Be strong in God, but also be willing to be weak and reliant in Him also.

 

[TheMainException]

In order to get you down to the melting point, the point of being able to refine you, sometimes God allows harsh pain happen to us. He allows us to be broken into a million pieces, drowned in a bucket of water until we are a soggy mush, and then poked, proded and reshaped into something new. This can be very painful, but if we allow it to happen and follow God's lead, just simply being shaped and molded into something beautiful, we can help others and become better in the end. You will come through this...maybe not in the way you want to...but things will work out.

 

[DanMan]

I am only 14, and I don't have much to say just because of my age. But one thing I can say. There is a part in the Bible where God is in the exact same position as you are, except the unfaithful husband is the nation of Israel. I have no clue how or even if God shall use this as a tool in your relationship. But I think you should read it nonetheless.

Jeremiah 3:6-25

In this passage, we see the God of all creation on his knees begging for sinnful Israel to return to him. All he wants is Israel's love. And he says he is merciful, his mercy if so awsome and great! He says to Israel, if you'd only return to me, know it was wrong, and repent, I shall love you like it never happened. God's forgivnance is so awesome. I believe that in your husband's heart, he knows what he has done is wrong, just as we know when we've done something wrong. Spend some time with God in this passage. For when I see God weeping for Israel, I can't help but think of you weeping for your husband. But, I am still only a 14 year old guy, and am only a kid in most people's eyes. So, look to God in this situation, not my mere words. God loves you sunset. I shall keep you in my prayers.

 

[dasielady]

Hey there my little rainclouded-cupcake...

Let me tell you I KNOW JUST HOW YOU FEEL!

I got married last year, under the assumption that my husband was a Christian, and he left me alone in our home after 4 months of marriage, to go do drugs and be with another woman. Our divorce is final next month.

I will be happy to talk with you directly, even over the phone if you want. Just email me directly. I went through the same fire burning in your heart right now. I am okay, and you will be too.... no matter what happens. Email me at dasielady@hotmail.com if you want to.

Otherwise, my advice to you....
Think about what you are praying about...
You should be praying that God give you the patience to deal wisely with the situation, that he grant you the discipline to keep ahold of your life, and the strength to get through it standing tall in the end.
Try talking to your husband. Have you confronted him about this woman? Do you have children together? Do you know this woman or is she a stranger? Have you tried approaching the woman in a civilized manner and letting her know that she is causing your marriage to crumble? Maybe she will have the compassion to push your husband away? Is your husband a Christian? What if you left a note on the bed the next time he came home, laid his bible out, and simply sighted a verse that talked about adutlery or commitment to home or something... then when he comes home, just let him explore your reasons for laying it out. Then dont ask him if he read it, just let him stew. Perhaps his consious will get the better of him.

If this goes on for long and he does not agree to work on your marriage, I would recommend getting a divorce. I realize that is not the most opportune option, but remember that God does not want you to be binded to a non-existant marriage with a non-Christian unless the non-Christian is willing to live with you and love you.

I hope things work out.

 

[CoachHelen]

Dear Sunset,

Pray and believe that God is on your side.

I like to encourage believers to pray and let God work on our behalf in the spiritual, but give us the strength and courage to work on the physical.

Aside from prayer, I'd like to ask you to focus not so much on the problem. I know it is easier said than done. Instead, focus on the promise that God has for you - a wonderful marriage. Are there things you can do to make your marriage more wonderful? Communication, physical appearance, ways to express love, etc..

It may be time for you to seek support from professionals, read some books and more than anything women of strength to pray with you and be your emotional support.

Do not fight this battle along. You definitely need support from other members in the Body. You are not fighting a battle of flesh and blood but that of the spiritual.

Fight for it. There is a great blessing in your marriage.

I pray that the Lord bless you and richly bless you for your willingness to fight for your merriage.

God bless you!

Helen

P.S. Feel free to contact me at Helen@HYCCoaching.com