Controlling

[TheGirlOnFire]

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[bhsmte]

There is a great book on this

Why does he do that ? Lundy bancroft


Domestic violence expert who works as a therapist to abusive and controlling men. Il

Abuse, by women towards men, is quite common as well.

 

[TheGirlOnFire]

Abuse, by women towards men, is quite common as well.

One misleading statistic, which is often repeated, is that - while one in four women experience domestic violence - so do one in six men. These figures are, however, based on single incidents, of a criminal nature, and without regard to:

• severity of violence
• whether or not it was repeated - and if so, how often
• the complex pattern of overlapping abuse of various kinds
• the context in which it took place.

They also exclude sexual assaults - which are overwhelmingly perpetrated against women, by men - many of whom are partners or former partners of the victims. Finally, emotional abuse - which is often not regarded as a crime, but which survivors often find even more destructive - is excluded from these statistics.

Up to 160 women die a year by their partner

The research that is available suggests that women are more likely than men to experience domestic abuse in their lives and to suffer repeated victimization. They are also more likely to be injured, or have to seek medical help. Another difference is that men are less likely to be murdered by female abusers;

Very often women are killed when they challenge that power, by trying to separate from their partners, or seeing someone else, or doing something that their partner doesn't want them to do. Perhaps we should not be surprised by the fact that two men a week kill their partners, when courts say that women can consent to sex while almost unconscious, when rape itself has a conviction rate of 5.3%, when twice as many men now visit prostitutes than a decade ago. Britain is not getting any safer for women, however many get to be CEOs.

50% of all adult women have experienced domestic violence, sexual assault or stalking.

Around 30 men a year are killed within a domestic abuse context. Women are almost exclusively killed by men whereas in contrast approximately one third of the men are killed by other men and a little under a third are killed by women against whom they have a documented history of abuse.

But males are also less likely to get support for their domestic abuse.
By the British crime survey 19% of domestic abuse incidents reported to be from male victims with under half of them women abusers.


Not saying women don't abuse males, but the majority of abuse is within a male on female, with more women getting murder. That is FACT!!!

No human should be abused ever!


A funny thing my niece was born and people were commenting on how they won't mess with her because she has X amount of cousins and X amounts of uncle (mostly males in the family) no one ever said that about when the males were born, already we are assuming that women are in danger....

 

[Jack of Spades]

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[TheGirlOnFire]

I'll be around a in a few days.


Peace out

 

[Jack of Spades]

That one where you quote me:

http://www.christianforums.com/threads/controlling.7913128/page-6#post-68746695

 

[TheGirlOnFire]

If you actually look above then you will see

 

[Jack of Spades]

I did, I was just faster. Thanks.

*sorry for the empty post mess everyone*

 

[TheGirlOnFire]

No you weren't, you didn't get my post xx

 

[Jack of Spades]

No you weren't, you didn't get my post xx

 

[TheGirlOnFire]

 

[bhsmte]

One misleading statistic, which is often repeated, is that - while one in four women experience domestic violence - so do one in six men. These figures are, however, based on single incidents, of a criminal nature, and without regard to:

• severity of violence
• whether or not it was repeated - and if so, how often
• the complex pattern of overlapping abuse of various kinds
• the context in which it took place.

They also exclude sexual assaults - which are overwhelmingly perpetrated against women, by men - many of whom are partners or former partners of the victims. Finally, emotional abuse - which is often not regarded as a crime, but which survivors often find even more destructive - is excluded from these statistics.

Up to 160 women die a year by their partner

The research that is available suggests that women are more likely than men to experience domestic abuse in their lives and to suffer repeated victimization. They are also more likely to be injured, or have to seek medical help. Another difference is that men are less likely to be murdered by female abusers;

Very often women are killed when they challenge that power, by trying to separate from their partners, or seeing someone else, or doing something that their partner doesn't want them to do. Perhaps we should not be surprised by the fact that two men a week kill their partners, when courts say that women can consent to sex while almost unconscious, when rape itself has a conviction rate of 5.3%, when twice as many men now visit prostitutes than a decade ago. Britain is not getting any safer for women, however many get to be CEOs.

50% of all adult women have experienced domestic violence, sexual assault or stalking.

Around 30 men a year are killed within a domestic abuse context. Women are almost exclusively killed by men whereas in contrast approximately one third of the men are killed by other men and a little under a third are killed by women against whom they have a documented history of abuse.

But males are also less likely to get support for their domestic abuse.
By the British crime survey 19% of domestic abuse incidents reported to be from male victims with under half of them women abusers.


Not saying women don't abuse males, but the majority of abuse is within a male on female, with more women getting murder. That is FACT!!!

No human should be abused ever!


A funny thing my niece was born and people were commenting on how they won't mess with her because she has X amount of cousins and X amounts of uncle (mostly males in the family) no one ever said that about when the males were born, already we are assuming that women are in danger....

I was referring more to emotional abuse, by women towards men that are in relationships and is more common, than most think.

 

[redblue22]

I wonder how Briste is doing at following all the rules.

 

[TheGirlOnFire]

I was referring more to emotional abuse, by women towards men that are in relationships and is more common, than most think.

If you have any evidence to support this claim , with research, case studies , reports, organisation reports, papers written. Then i would be more than happy too see this.

 

[bhsmte]

If you have any evidence to support this claim , with research, case studies , reports, organisation reports, papers written. Then i would be more than happy too see this.

Here is one, there are many more and some more recent.

http://www.fact.on.ca/Info/dom/hines01.htm

Conclusion

Research has shown that men can be victims of physical abuse in their intimate relationships with women. According to several studies, including at least two nationally representative studies, women physically abuse men at a substantial rate. This physical abuse takes the form of both minor and severe abuse, and it cannot always be dismissed as self-defense.

 

[Bristecom]

I wonder how Briste is doing at following all the rules.

What are you talking about?

 

[SnowyMacie]

I think sometimes in relationships, you see how a person can become a better version of themselves, and how they can improve. Sometimes, it may involve a little more pushing than others to help a person. That being said, it's completely different to dictate a person's life into who you want them to be.

 

[Jack of Spades]

I do believe that as a society we bale on marriage too soon and for frivolous things. But I also do not believe that it is the highest of all contracts which requires protecting it even when it damages people.

Read your Bible. Was Jesus' message really about "obeying the law" and all of God's rules...or was it about building loving relationships? Is the Bible a love story or a rule book?

Do you think it's okay to break "the law" or a biblical command, if the intention is good? Like for example, to protect victim of abuse? Symbolically speaking, does the spirit overrule the letter?

 

[TheGirlOnFire]

Here is one, there are many more and some more recent.

http://www.fact.on.ca/Info/dom/hines01.htm

Conclusion

Research has shown that men can be victims of physical abuse in their intimate relationships with women. According to several studies, including at least two nationally representative studies, women physically abuse men at a substantial rate. This physical abuse takes the form of both minor and severe abuse, and it cannot always be dismissed as self-defense.

That is not about male suffer more emotional abuse.

I already knew the research and statics behind make suffering abuse, as I've already said, I know males suffer abuse.

But women majority more, and are at a higher risk of suffering abuse but also rape. Stalking, harassment, sexual assault.


But you stated that male suffer more common emotional abuse, were is the evidence for this state ?

 

[redblue22]

Do you think it's okay to break "the law" or a biblical command, if the intention is good? Like for example, to protect victim of abuse? Symbolically speaking, does the spirit overrule the letter?

Yes. But what is all this interest in rules, laws, commands? It isn't like I'm climbing to heaven by rule following. Heaven is a gift accepted by trust.